September 2011 - a Happy non-alcoholic New Year!

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Still whispering the good news but is there anyone else out there wishing they had made the most of the Stilton this Christmas? [Wink]

redaura hope the stomach bug is easing, It really is horrid having one then dealing with 'morning' sickness. I got the GP to sign me off work with gastroenteritous (sorry spelling has gone to put.

I now starting to manage the all day sickness better by being able to eat little and oftern, but not much fat or dairy. My DD had the same tum bug nearly 2 weeks ago and her system is not fully settled down yet think it must be a nasty one doing the rounds. luckly my DH hasnt sucummend yet! Hopefully thats all the cleaning we have been doing and the seperation tactic to try keep him bug free.

BigBayBoots hope the fish were happy :o the emotions are mad arent they!

Sorry BBB meant baby not bay doh!

I know what you mean about the emotions - I'm feeling well grumpy at the moment! I'm doing a postgraduate course and it's all females on it (less than 20 of us). So far one is 7 months pregnant, a few weeks ago another announced her pregnancy, and another has just announced hers!
I know I'm being silly, but it just compounds my frustration and I feel a teeny bit deflated (not physically unfortunately!). I know my pregnancy is special for me and hubby - and our families when they find out - but I just want these 4 weeks to pass so I can have a scan and feel reassured it's real...!

Glad the spotting has stopped xmasevie - do you bleed after having smear tests? That's another indication of an ectropion cervix (the thing I described). The internal scan isn't too bad - and reassuring when you see the heartbeat. My doc said hcg levels are unreliable as a determinant of the pregnancy and a scan (internal) is better after 7 weeks. Fingers crossed for you xx

I really can't wait for the scan either, I'm such an anxious mess - need to see it to know it's still real! Fortunately for me no one else is pg, but then that does have its downsides too. Only 6+2 and already everyone's treating me like an incubator .

ssmile BBB is probably easier lol - and tell me about it, I just did it again reading about the placenta! "Oh wow" weep "that's so amazing" weep "I made that" weep. I suppose that's all the reassurance I need that it's still going ahead .

Misty I have the grumps too - I kicked a box across the bedroom yesterday for some reason I can't remember now, and poor DP keeps getting an earful for anything I can think of to shout about it seems. I'm just one big walking hormone

xmasevie I've had early scans at 6-7 weeks for 2 0f my pregnancies and they were always abdominal. Even my latest scan was abdominal. As long as you've got a good full bladder it should work. You can refuse internal scans if you don't like them :)

bbb welcome. I know what you mean with everyone treating you as an incubator. As my ds was the 1st grandchild on my side, my parents went all overprotective: don't stretch, do this, do that... I soon put a stop to that, especially after some reading, lol. After all, you're pregnant, not ill or disabled! Although in my last pregnancy the SPD rendered me pregnant and disabled, lol. I'm hoping I can avoid that this time.

redlaura I hope your tummy bug goes soon :)

ssmile I know the norovirus is doing the rounds around where I live. Maybe that's what you've got. I think that separation strategy you've got going is an excellent idea. I hope your DH gets spared from the illness.

I still haven't had any more fresh loss since Sunday. Just this browny loss. I do know I've got a cervical erosion, so I'm hoping it comes from that. Can't wait for my rescan on Monday so I can get out of this "am I" "am I not" pregnant limbo...

belgina glad to hear things have settled down - sounds very similar to my situation a week ago and I've got cervical erosion too. Haven't had any loss now since last Sunday (touchwood) and I'm 8 weeks today :) although starting to disbelieve I'm pregnant at all now! Hormones...

It will be my parents first grandchild too - they've bought it books already. Books I tell you!! My bean can't read yet, I hope it's not a slow developer

And good luck belgina for your scan Monday. Hopefully it's all fine . Keep busy between now and then! Or asleep, one or the other.

Morning all. Feeling SO much better today. Thanks for all your well wishes. Lost six pounds since Monday. My mum will be delighted!!!

Anyway I don't feel experienced enough to give advice as this is my first. Just got my fingers crossed that those of you with worries are all okay.

My moods have been shocking this week. OH was at the pub on Tuesday night. I told him to go because I was miserable to be around. Two hours later I decide I want him to come home and bring me some lucozade as I was really thirsty with stomach bug. He says he'll leave in two minutes. An hour later atill no sign so I call him again and he's still in the pub. I call him everything under the sun and I don't give him any chance to explain before I hang up on him. I text him asking what kind ofather leaves the mother of his unborn child to suffer from dehydration.

Turns out that a guy we work with wanted to talk to him. His girlfriend is pregnant and he doesn't want the baby. They have a termination booked on Monday. When he heared that we are having a baby he decided to talk to OH for advice as he hasn't told anyone. He wanted to know how he felt when we found out and after an hour he had pretty much changed his mind and was going to talk it all through again with his girlfriend. That's how lovely my OH is. Could I see that on Tuesday? No. As far as I was concerned my bottle of lucozade should come first. OH slept on the sofa because I was being so awful

Ah, but Redlaura, you weren't to know and your DH could have sent a quick "i'll be back later" message. Time always goes slower while waiting, I think I would have been fuming too, though more because of fear that he might have had a terrible accident somewhere. I've been known to walk down the street in my dressing gown in the middle of the night cos DH wasn't back yet and not answering his phone
Glad you're feeling better :)

mist bbb thank you :)

redlaura - oh dear you poor OH guess some grovelling in order but these things happen especially when hormones are all over the place.

I too lost 7lbs with bug but alas has all gone back on again pretty quick sorry didnt mean to burst your bubble thing mostly fluid and nuclear wind to blame......

Whoohoo have just cooked something first time in a week, couldnt face the actual 'cooking' thing. My poor DH been living off takeaway and ready meals whilst Ive lived off toast, cereal... hopefully turning a corner.

Belgina - good luck with your scan I really hope its reassuring. My sis went through it like you are doing and its tough.

We regularly use the separation tactic now and on average my DH only gets every other bug now, you just have to do it dont you with other children in the house. My biggest fear is us all being ill at same time as we dont have any really close rellis to help out.

Yes belgina that was the last bastion of my argument the next morning. "you should have texted" which he accepts. We're best friends again now. But I have to concede he didn't deserve the "bad father" based emotional smack in the mouth I gave him.

Glad you're feeling better too ssmile. I made a massive pot of root veg soup and am gently working my way through it. Hope you're all having lovely days. Try to keep busy if you have worries

Xxx

I definitely can't be bothered with cooking, but I'm sooo hungry . I was eating chicken for breakfast, lunch and dinner, but I've run out now. Bum.

redlaura Oh, your poor DH! I don't think I've been too bad to mine yet, but when I'm beating up inanimate objects and he tells me to calm down I do snap at him to shut up. I just can't stand being told to calm down when it's out of my hands - just join in and beat up the sofa with me!

Is anyone who's expecting their first suddenly looking around at where they live and thinking "This was fine for me, but it's not fine for baby?" I think we're going to have to move.

BBB I've been in loads of expectant mums homes and you can always pick out 1st time mums: very tidy! DVDs and breakable things at floor level, lol. Your home will soon grow into being a family home ;). Baby stuff is so big, it does have a habit of taking over :o
I so recognise how the words "calm down" are like a red rag at a bull! Thing is, my DH tends to tell me even when I say things in what I view as a perfectly calm voice

BBB - I think you adapt to your space. We were in a one bed flat up 3 flights of stairs when we had our DD and no it wasnt ideal as my mum kindly tried to point out and maybe we should have moved before and not after DD was born but you live and learn and we did manage. The health visitor used to moan though about the 3 flights of stairs :)

We now in a 2bed house and I keep thinking how will 2 in one small room cope (when DD still doesnt sleep through the night at nearly 4yrs) but hey ho I am sure we will muddle through. and yet again hope to move when 2nd one is year old and make sure I am still holding down a job and the DIY is finished..... This time though will try very hard no to take on another DIY job!!! Its extremely hard work with little people around who like to help :o

We're in a 3 bed with pregnancy dc and an ap. Dd2 has been in our room from birth and ds and dd1 share with bunk befs. We're going to give the ap room to ds as soon as mat leave starts and then hopefully we might cope without an ap after dc4. If not, it'll have to be a loft conversion. We had a similar issue with dd1 who spent the 1st 2.5y of her life in our bedroom until the extension was finished. DH had promised to finish that extending before she was born, btw.

I've just had another bleed :( another trickle of fresh blood. Stopped again. Bring on Monday. I really need to know if this pregnancy is viable or not so I know where I am.

Oh Belgina . You really need to know. Prepare for the worst but I hope it's all good news. Put your feet up and do as little as possible. Thinking of you x .

I have tidied everything hehe, but I actually meant the area you live in. Where we live is a rehabilitation area so it's full of drunks and drug addicts. It's never bothered us, we feel quite at home amongst the odd folk, but I'm not happy with it for baby. The park opposite is always full of needles. Trouble is it's home, and it has it's good spots. Work is only round the corner as well... as are all of our friends, and support is going to be very important. Sigh.

Ah, I understand. I wouldn't be happy to bring a baby such an area. I don't think I'd have to think too much about moving. Especially once the baby is there you'll find that all your current worries will all seem quite surmountable. After all you can always drive down to visit friends. We moved halfway down the country (Midlands to Kent) to give our dcs a better future and we've not regretted it one moment. The dcs have a better school and can be far more independent in a small village in the countryside. They are clearly having so much better a childhood and we've made great new friends too.

Thanks for your concern too :)

Thanks misty and Belgina for your wise words. Booked an abdominal scan for 9th feb. Can't wait to see if everything ok or not. Only had slight spotting once and glad to say still have breast pain. Went for booking app yest, so nice at my local birthing centre. Got bmi and blood tests. Had low bp which the mw said is reassuring as it's common in early Preg. She advised me to do another test next week to put my mind at ease. Belgina when is your scan ? Hope everything ok and fingers crossed for you xx

Hello all, I've not posted in a while... I didn't join an antenatal roup last time until a little further in as, I dunno, it doesn't seem quite real to me until then.

However, I had a private 'viability' scan with babybond today. I'm 7+3, measuring 7+4 (1.28cm crown-rump length - awww!) and there was the heart, flickering away The sonographer flicked a switch and I heard it, too. This may be dc4, but it is still a breathtaking moment to hear it for the first time.

I think it's seeming more 'real' now!

Hi manda, I've got my viability scan next week I should be 8 + 5 then. I can't wait. Glad to hear you can see hb at 7+3. This is my first and am so very paranoid so think the scan is a great idea. Was it baby premier you went with?mines costing £95 but I would do it at any cost just for peace of mind. Xxx

xmasevie I don't want to put a damper on things, but do remember that viability scans can show things you didnt quite expect, like me and the just gestational + yolk sack, rather than heart beat. My rescan is tomorrow. I'm hoping for that flickering white light like I saw with earlier pregnancies. Fingers crossed :)

manda hi! Nice to see someone else who is expecting dc4 :o