July 2011 babies - second trimester here we come!

[MadAboutTheBoys]

I was just about to post to say sorry for starting the July thread and then disappearing, then saw that it was all full up! So I thought I would start us a new one.

Hello to all the many many ladies that have joined the July club - it's lovely to see so many of us here. I've been trying to read back through all the old posts, but there are so many, that's partly why it's taken me so long to get back! Have also been having some personal troubles, but that's another story.

Anyway, I'm 12 weeks today and slightly looking forward to my scan on Christmas Eve, but also nervous in case it's not good news. I'm looking forward to catching up with you all again and hearing how you and your bumps are going.

I've found out with all my three boys what im having. I am a bit of a control freak, it has really really helped me to bond throughout the pg and choose names etc. I have never ever regretted finding out in advance not once.

babymoon, your description of ante natal care seems very similar to that i've received throughout all pgs tbh. Sounds like you have a fab hospital there to be able to spend so much time, must be really reassuring.

feel like im really showing today, so glad everyone knows so im not hiding away.

Hi Ladies
Just had a big catch up on here. We didnt find out the sex with my little boy but were going to find out this time. im worried that i'll wish i hadnt but i always felt that i couldnt bond properly with my baby not knowing what it was. i bonded straight away with him when he was born so it will be interesting to see how it goes when we know the sex - providing they are able to tell. got another 6 weeks to go yet as then made my scan for when i'll be over 21 weeks.

I saw my obsetrician on monday and my provisional date for a c-section is 4th of july. WOuld be great if we lived in america, lol.

My bump is definitely showing, no way of hiding it now, i have one tyre thats baby and another one above it thats fat :o

GLad everyone is doing well xx

Hi all. Had a big catch up. Don't think we'll find out the sex as I liked the surprise with DS at the end of the birth. Birth is likely to be a C section so there won't be many surprises. We've already picked first names...

I don't have any real preference ref boy or girl, although I have an inkling it's a boy. Bet I'm wrong though!

Sues glad to hear that I'm not the only one showing. I'm also on the two tyre look... Someone offered their seat on the train for me the other day. Even though I was wearing my coat! Not complaining though as I'll be desperate for a seat from about 25 weeks!

I would love a home birth but v high risk and 20 miles from the nearest hospital So even if it doesn't end up be a c-section there's no way I'd go for it. Will really look forward to hearing about your HB stories though...

Hello ladies. I'm back from my holidays. There's no way I'll ever catch up properly but hope everyone has had their scans and are starting to feel better! No signs of my symptoms abating yet - am starting to feel cheated... .

Hi ladies, hope you are all well and welcome to the new ladies!

Well I had the scan today and we found out! The sonographer was really lovely (normally works at Pembury!!) and initially tried to scan but the baby was lying with arms behind the head and legs crossed tight so I had to do a fair bit of jumping up and down and she then asked what I thought the baby was ? I though a boy, based on my feelings and the fact that my dh comes from a long line of boys ? and she laughed and told me that it was all about to change because the baby was in fact a girl! We got a pretty much full on view of the, ahem, ?hamburger?!

We are still in total shock ? dh cried his eyes out in the room and then the car park afterwards! It feels a lot more real which is great because I felt very disconnected before and the point of this scan was to try and help me feel more connected with the baby and the pregnancy. But, I now also feel in a bit of a limbo state as it doesn?t feel real! Lovely but a bit unreal! I was so convinced it was a boy I have knitted a blue cardigan and bought plenty of blue and khaki/brown coloured wool and have started to decorate the room in cream and blue!

We only had boys names so we had better get thinking...

How we are going to keep this secret for 5 months I don?t know....!! :)

MissLolita Congratulations, I am so excited for you. My scan is just under 4 weeks away and I can't wait to find out. First time we have done the finding out thing so really excited.

How exciting that you are the first person on this thread to know the sex of your baby.

Thanks Eglu! I'm pretty overexcited and obviously dh and I have agreedc we won't tell anyone in RL! Mitchell was having a scan today too - any news??

Dh and I can't agree on a single girl's name (predictably all we have done since we found out is 'talk names') which is pretty funny as we had 3 boys names decided we were going to choose between. Oh well 5 months or so of debating ahead of us so we're bound to agree on something.....eventually! :)

Wow, busy thread!

Very that I forgot to wave at Orchid

Scotty glad to hear you're feeling better. I've been having a lot of aches/cramping over the past couple of days, so have been panicking slightly but managed to find a nice strong hb with my doppler last night so assuming it's just stuff stretching and growing. I'll be 15 weeks on Monday I think.

I never get to watch One Born Every Minute but the NCT antenatal class I'm observing at the moment is on a Tuesday so I usually hear it discussed! Tbh it's really just because I forget it's on but pretty sure DH would hate it - I liked watching birth videos on YouTube when I was pg last time round but he was never really um a fan.

Stormbird I didn't get a waterbirth last time but am determined this time. I have my own birth pool but wasn't allowed to get into it as my waters broke 48 hours before I went into labour so there was a risk of infection. Meh!

Eglu haven't bought anything yet. Think I'm kind of waiting for the 20 week scan too, though largely to see if it's a boy because we really have everything we need for a girl. Might treat myself to a couple of extra bits that seemed unnecessary luxuries last time, seeing as we already have all the essentials.

wolfcub sorry to hear that you're feeling down. Could it be antenatal depression?

Gruffalo I think I felt some movements the other day (actually, if I'm honest I think I felt some a few weeks ago, but pretty sure that's not possible ). I woke up really early in the morning really needing the loo (drinking a few pints of water was a trick I remember from last time round to help you feel movements a bit earlier) and am sure I felt a few flutters. Can't wait until I start feeling them properly

In some ways this pregnancy is much less abstract than the last one: last time I knew that I wanted children at some point but couldn't really imagine what it would be like, whereas this time I feel like I know exactly what I'll be gaining On the other hand, I can't really imagine this baby being any different from DD and I can't really think of it as a baby in its own right but just a desperately wanted (by me, I think it'll be a shock for her ) sibling for DD.

I have told work but I work for my brother!

Also now wearing maternity jeans, largely because my usual pair were actually in pieces but there's no point buying new ones. I am also wearing a belt to hold them up

I don't like putting a lot of stuff on FB either, particularly having been on the other side, desperately ttc and seeing other people's updates. I'm also much more aware this time round about how many other people are struggling with ttc. I think I was a bit naive last time.

My free prescription card came really quickly but I don't think you actually need it as you'll be on some database somewhere (I had a dentist appointment the other day and of course didn't take it due to raging baby brain ). Not sure if they existed in 2008 but I never had one last time, just used to tell relevant HCP that I was pg.

honey I just referred to the baby as both he and she pretty randomly last time! At the moment it's it a lot of the time but will probably change following the 20 week scan. We found out what we were having but didn't tell anyone other than our mums, so switching pronouns helped keep people guessing - did make it hard to stick to she for a while after she arrived though

Finally congrats Lolita I was the same last time, I was sure DD was a boy, but I think it's partly because I really wanted a girl so had convinced myself she was a boy so I wouldn't be too disappointed when I found out iyswim. I think it's a boy this time round but would like another girl really, though not so fussed this time round. There is no way on earth I could not find out, far too impatient

Anyway, my early night has gone wrong and this post is way too long, so bed time for me ... Night! :)

Morning all. Yes we had out scan yesterday and are happy to announce that we are having a boy!!!! Very excited.

Congratulations Mitchell. One boy and one girl for this thread so far.

honey, when I felt like that I was right. Thinking about boys has always felt wrong, I don't mind if I have a boy but it always felt wrong. I believe it was my instincts telling me I was having girls.

lol sues, that sounds like my belly, although you have to add in the section overhang at the bottom!

Morning all!

hows everyone feeling?

dh has taken boys for walk around lake and feed ducks so i can get tidied up here and have bath in peace. Must get move on and run the boys a bath tho as we have big big family lunch out today.

My brother and sil are over from Greece for w/end. As alot of peopel didn't get to their wedding in September last year.

we had them over and my parents for dinner last night too, so been busy cleaning up after that.

lolita what exciting news!! I know my dh would be exactly the same if he found out we were having a girl. he things this one is, but he also thought the last one was too! three boys...so im not sure on the odds on that way.

Enjoy the rest of your weekends ladies x

Feelig ok here Nicola although I've been awake at 3.30am every morning since Tuesday! Apart from today where I managed a 'LIE IN' til 5.30am. Whats going on? Its starting to drive me a bit mad.

Hello All

Had a lovely day so far but feeling rather tired now. Been for a long walk round Richmond Park with DP and our Nephew. God, that place is so full of toffee nosed, incredibly rude and miserable people!! But then again I'm a northerner thats been living dwn here nearly 3yrs now so you'd think I'd be used to it (to all the southerners on the thread, please don't take offence not all of you are like this, I know x)

Congrats to MissLol and Mitchel - we've decided not to find out, but when I read your posts it kinda made me want to, but going to stick to my guns I think and leave it as a surprise, it is our first afterall.

Quick update on the bra front - went to M&S and purchased a couple of underwired soft cup ones, I know I should be wearing maternity ones but I couldn't give the wires up yada yada yada. I've had it properly fitted, its very comfortable and doesn't dig in. In a few months I'll move on to the Maximum support non-wired ones rather than Mat ones!

Hope you are all well xx

Dita I haven't told anyone in RL 'cos they'll think I'm mad....but I swear I felt flutterings during the first trimester when my uterus was still low. It stopped for a while when the uterus lifted (coinciding with the "not needing to get up in the night for a wee anymore" phase) but I get the occasional flutter again now. I am looking forward to when proper movement starts :)

Lolita congrats. I was convinced my LO was a girl and when they told me at the 20 week scan he was a boy, I kind of went 'oh'. All disappointed! But now I can't imagine having a girl.

I am now down to a pair of jeans and a pair of leggings that fit...and that's all! Went in Next today but they had hardly anything.

Done a catch up - welcome Parsleysandwich! Hope this thread is helping you. It's fun seeing how everyone is getting on :)

Dita, Cara and everyone else who mentioned movement, I'm sure I can feel slight flutters too. I'm 15wks on Tuesday. Having looked on line it seems everyone is different with when you can feel it - some feel it from 12wks! It depends how sensative your womb is apparently...not sure if that is a good thing thinking ahead

Congrats to the boy and girl discoveries! I have it in my head it's a boy, as others have said this is mainly because my partner is oldest of 3 boys. We keep calling Pea a 'he' and I like honeybabymoon am a little worried we're getting carried away. I've been good at getting in unisex fabrics for my craftiness but it feels wrong when I try to think of a girl. Think that is partially why I want to know a month before by paying for a scan rather than waiting for the NHS one...a little extra time to adjust etc! Of course i'd be happy either way :)

Dita you can see One Born Every Min on 40D :) I rarely use my TV and like using 4OD and BBCiplayer as I can watch it when I want. Showed my partner this weekend and he actually really enjoyed it. I wasn't expecting that as he's been a little worried that he won't bond until the child can talk but he was interested to see what the men do and the water birth (he'd not considered that at all - his mum is a hippy and I think he was a little worried when I mentioned it tbh! Worried that I'm turning into her or something?!).

Anyone else making anything? I have to stop looking at ebay and getting fabrics and new born bundles. It's FAR too early for all of this!!!

Congratulations Mitchell! I popped in to Pumpkin Patch yesterday briefly as I was passing and had a quick look at some girl's clothes for the first time which felt very weird as I had been so very sure it was a boy.

Dita, I haven't put anything on FB either -I am constantly amazed by some of the inappropriate posts my contacts put up and I'm enjoying surprising the people who I don't get to see every often when I see them in RL rather than telling them virtually. I had lunch with a friend yesterday who I hadn't told and when she saw me walking towards her I could see her glance at my stomach and then hesitate about whether to say anything in case she was about to mortally offend me! It was lovely to see her reaction when she realised I was pg!

Fab what are you making? I've been trying to control myself from getting into a frenzy too early! So far I have knitted 2 cardigans (one in cream and one in blue) and I'm half way through a third (in red). I've also made some fabric hot air balloon decorations as well as making some cushions and bits for the room that will one day become the nursery. Several people have warned me that I may lose energy towards the end and might wish I had done more earlier and that when the baby arrives my time for craft will be rather seriously curtailed!

morning all..

sorry mitchell missed your post yesterday, congratulations on a blue bump!

well ended yesterday with another killer migraine. Im so sick of it tbh.

but this morning dh took ds3 to my mums so i've had a complete chill as well as a bath in peace and done some washing and ironing. Will prob end up doing more housework as feel guilty sitting around in a empty house! And feel awful again. Nuts? Yes thats me!!

Misslolita Congrats on the baby girl, that is wonderful news.

Sorry that you are suffering from migraines again, Nicola

Sorry for what I have missed out but reading on my phone.

Hi Ladies
Sorry but im after some reassruance, last night my little boy who was 2 last week woke up crying, he seemed really scared so i presumed hed had his first noticable nightmare. He literally lept into my arms and slept on my shoulder but wouldnt go back down in his cot. He ended up sleeping in my bed which hes never done before but to start with he was laid on me and i was propped up on my pillows. He was laid on my stomach but other than when my bladder was full it didnt hurt and wasnt that uncomfortable. everytime i tried to move him off to lay next to me he climbed back on. This morning ive had the odd pain which i dont normally get and some cramping.
Please can someone confirm that the baby is well cushioned and that i wont have squashed him/her by letting my LO lay on me?
I know im being daft but cant help worry that ive squashed a leg or arm or even its head and done something to it
suz xx
ps 6 weeks today till my next scan - seems soooo long away.

I think it will just be things stretching, Suz. Don't worry. My little boy sat down really hard right on my bump and I thought the same but really it must all be very well cushioned in there - like an airbag. If baby felt squashed it would have just wriggled round a bit.

I'm not liking this stage - I won't have anotehr scan for anotehr 6 weeks or so (no date yet) and really feel like I have not got a clue what going on in there. Can't wait to feel regular, proper movement. Have my 16 week appt with consultant on Monday so hoping they will listen to the heartbeat - I can't find it on my little doppler which is worrying me as well.

Sues, I'm sure you should be ok - sending hugs (although not tight ones!)

sues try not to worry i was regularly lifting, carrying and holding my little ds2 when pg with ds3 he was 10m old when i discovered i was pg. He didn't start walking until i was 7m pg tho so had alot of lifting about i had terrible spd and sciatica. Baby is very very well protected

i feel exhausted have done loads of housework. DH and the Ds's be home soon so best get on with the hoovering next i think. Should sleep well tonight!

Oh sues! There's someone at the moment who was in a car crash and smashed nearly every bone in her body but her baby is fine. For all the stories we hear of people trying to bring on a miscarriage (Diana is said to have thrown herself downstairs when she was having Wills) it's very hard to deliberately harm your baby, let alone from giving your older baby a cuddle.

Generally if you're going to do any harm it will be to yourself and you will feel it first - lying on your back can put pressure on the vena cava and cut off the flow to your legs, so you get pins and needles and roll over; lying on your right can cause your stomach to drain into the oesophagus and cause heartburn but you'd wake up and roll over; lying on your front is like lying on a balloon so you can't settle and roll over.

Is your son OK? My daughter (4) was like that last Saturday, we rushed her to the out of hours GP because she was crying with pain, took an hour to wake her up! She had an ear infection, she was a lot better the next day. Saw her paediatrician on Friday (she was born premature so sees someone regularly) and he had a look in her ear, she's perforated her ear drum :(

I have a scan on Friday and the silly season starts. I will be having cervical length to make sure I'm not in labour (at 16 weeks!) and they'll be doing them weekly until 24 weeks. Half term I have three scans (detailed, heart echo, cervical length and 20 week scan - not sure where they'll fit the cervical length in, I'm assuming it will be with one of the others and not make a 4th scan!). From about 24 weeks they'll be doing 3 a week.

Hi All,
I'm Selina, a Doula in Liverpool. I work in Public health too at Liverpool Uni.
I have been posting in the August club but I had a dating scan today that changed my EDD to July 27th so thought I might come join you here if you don't mind!
I have a DD who is nearly 8.
I am now booked in, had a dating scan and done combined test so had nuchal test too.
Lovely to see baby!
Took my Mum with me as she had nevr seen one done.
They have changed my due date o JUly 8th so not really an August club member now lol, maybe I can go with both.
Nucal fold was 2.4mm which I think is the high end of normal so trying not to worry as I have to wait for blood tests to be back on friday/monday.
Anyone else had this?
Selina

Hi selina and welcome! I have never had a nuchal fold scan before x