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July 2011 babies - second trimester here we come!

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MadAboutTheBoys · 19/12/2010 12:28

I was just about to post to say sorry for starting the July thread and then disappearing, then saw that it was all full up! So I thought I would start us a new one.

Hello to all the many many ladies that have joined the July club - it's lovely to see so many of us here. I've been trying to read back through all the old posts, but there are so many, that's partly why it's taken me so long to get back! Have also been having some personal troubles, but that's another story.

Anyway, I'm 12 weeks today and slightly looking forward to my scan on Christmas Eve, but also nervous in case it's not good news. I'm looking forward to catching up with you all again and hearing how you and your bumps are going.

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nicolamumof3 · 20/01/2011 17:18

I just find it really rude tbh. When we found out ds3 was a boy (our third) oh got so many 'oh never mind' Shock how bloody rude!!!! Oh well guess im going to have to learn to ignore it aren't i Grin

Mitchell81 · 20/01/2011 17:24

Nicola will you find out what sex you are having or keep it a surprise? In a way I look forward to shopping for pink again but as we weren't having anymore children need to shop for blue aswell. So either way got an excuse for shopping. Can't wait for Saturday, feel like it's Christmas!!!!!!!

Mitchell81 · 20/01/2011 17:27

Oh by the way I also get I am sure you hoping for a girl as you have two boys. But they forget I do also have a girl.

nicolamumof3 · 20/01/2011 17:34

yes im too impatient to wait, won't tell people (apart from probably my mum, inlaws seem pretty disinterested tbh!)

Twit · 20/01/2011 18:20

I had this when I was expecting dd, sooo annoying.
I suspect I'l have more of the same this time around, ooh wouldn't it be nice to have another girl? Bugger off.
Actually dd would like a sister but she's 5

scarthy1975 · 20/01/2011 19:00

Gotta say I do want a daughter but i'm not going to find out what the sex is - I need a surprise at the end of all this! I didn't find out last time either so all the bedding etc which I will re-use is cream - if I find out then i'll have to buy new.

Still haven't had my 20 week date yet - the hospital called to check my address due to differences on some of the forms so i'm wondering if if its gone to the wrong address? I'll mention it to midwife next Thursday and see what to do.

Eglu · 20/01/2011 19:13

Nicola I wouldn't mind hospital if it was like yours. :)

I have had comments about wanting a girl this time. I love my boys and actually think another boy would be easier. I really don't mond at all. We are finding out the sex this time too, which we've never done before so I'm very excited.

Even my Gran said she assumed the reason I was having another one was to try for a girl. Confused People will always say stupid stuff., but it doesn't stop it being annoying.

nicolamumof3 · 20/01/2011 20:12

Must admit I'm so geared for boys a girl would take some getting my head around!

Had a look at hospital website looks bloody amazing! First one in uk to have all private rooms no wards even plasma tvs! Should be up and running v soon have my next scan there in fact.

ecat99 · 20/01/2011 20:35

Nicola, which hospital is this? It sounds amazing.
I am due mid-July, had a really bad birth experience with dd (ended in em c-section), so could really go for an "amazing hospital" :)

cara2244 · 20/01/2011 20:37

Eglu and Twit thanks for the info on home births. I too had a quick first labour - 3.5 hours start to finish - 1 hour first stage.

Whoever said about the free prescriptions card - mine came after about 2 weeks. It was much quicker than I expected. I had to go for an emergency dental appointment and they didn't charge me even though I didn't have my card at the time.

I've just agreed with my OH to find out the sex, even though I don't want to. I figure I had better give him something he wants for a change, as he wasn't too keen on us having another baby!

cara2244 · 20/01/2011 20:39

Forgot to add - so I am worried I wouldn't even make it into hospital. That was the issue last time. I knew I would end up having the baby in the ambulance so I refused to go in...

nicolamumof3 · 20/01/2011 20:45

I was like that with ds3 dh was getting really concerned I was contracting 3mins apart and he could not get mexaway from leaning over sofa arm. Finally agreed to get in car was 8th when got to hospital I'd been poorly for a month before mw took one look and suggested an epidural and a sleep! She woke mexafterzsn hour and asked if I'd like to push baby out! Two pushes there he was pretty surreal and vv calm!

Hospital is Pembury in Kent

Scottygirl10 · 20/01/2011 22:12

Ooh its lovely to be talking about the sex of the babies, feel like we're all progressing! I have been resolute thus far that I did NOT want to know sex of baby, much to dh mega annoyance...however temptation creeps closer with impending 20 week scan...should I ask? Anyone found out then wished they'd kept it a secret? :)

SpannerPants · 20/01/2011 22:34

I didn't want to find out the sex but I've been convinced by DP to find out.

My mum is being a bit weird about it and says she's not talking to me again unless I tell her, which just makes me not want to tell her! It's her first grandchild so I think she's just a bit overexcited. I might just tell her we decided not to find out!

confuddledDOTcom · 20/01/2011 23:22

That?s OK Fab, a lot of people don?t understand how a pregnancy is dated. They won?t give you an LMP from the scan or even a conception date, they work out how old the baby is and when it will be 40 weeks. You can work backwards but there?s no guarantee you?ll hit the conception date or even your period. It?s best not to think too much about it! It?s not an extra two weeks either, when you look at what happens inside the body, pregnancy begins from your last period.

Twit, I have to go through a lot to stay pregnant and I hate being pregnant. I have almost symptom free pregnancies (no MS, I?ve had a taste for Fruitiser ? although Shloer has worked ? this week but not quite a craving) but I hate it. I?d rather just have the baby at the end. Don?t worry I don?t think bad of anyone who doesn?t like being pregnant. Come 33 weeks if you tell me you want the baby to come now because you don?t like being pregnant, I will get angry. I hate hearing people wishing their baby would come early, every day inside is a blessing and a gift. Every day early puts the baby at higher risk. You can get premature babies born postmature.

Totally agree with you about homebirth, hospitals are for sick people. I attended a home water birth in June and it was the most amazing experience. I still feel so privileged that I was there.

Cara, get yourself a copy of Ina May?s Guide to Childbirth. It?s amazing and will help you refocus on a nice birth.

Nicola, I?m getting it too. I have two girls so people go on about boys. I lost a little girl, I?m a high risk (to me and baby) pregnancy and I?m not likely to get anywhere near term. Guess what I?m hoping for? Also he has two sons, so we?re already balanced. When I went to Elstree last week TheFirst was saying that people she?d never met but knew online cried for her when she found out the sex of her last baby. She didn?t care either way, she?d just lost her daughter!

I asked my eldest what she wants. After telling us for a few days she wants to wait and see she declared it is to be a girl called Peppa. We?ve tried to break it to her that there?s a chance it could be another brother. Eventually she accepted it so I asked her what we?ll call a brother, her answer ?Smelly?

We?re finding out because there is a condition in his family (that I?ve not found anywhere else!) that affects boys. If it?s as severe as his it will affect the pregnancy (he poisoned his mother and she was in a coma for three days after the birth, she doesn?t even remember giving birth to him!) but they can?t tell until birth if the baby has the condition, so if it?s a boy they will check for symptoms and if they feel he is at risk they will book a theatre in another hospital (it?s a women?s hospital so they have to send neonatal surgery out) to coincide with the birth.

In other news, I?m now past the half way mark for my eldest and two weeks will be the half way mark for the furthest I?ve ever been. As I was already past 8 weeks when I found out (I can?t work it out) and I?m likely to go for 31-35 weeks, my pregnancy will only last 5-6 months!

Just wondering if anyone has booked/ is booking/ has thought about a Doula? I?m a Doula and I?m having one. I didn?t last time because I knew I?d be early and didn?t know how it would work but they?re pretty sure I will only make 31-35 weeks so that?s what I?ve suggested for the on call period. If I go over I?m going to be stuffed lol

MissLolita · 21/01/2011 09:00

Dh is from a long line of boys (he is the eldest of 3 brothers and so far there are already 2 grandsons and his dad is one of 4 brothers) so my MIL is very keen for a grand-daughter. My mum didn't seem that bothered until very recently but suddenly said on Sunday that she would like a granddaughter! I'm feeling under a wee bit of pressure although obviously it's too late to do anything about it now!!

We've agreed that we aren't going to admit to anyone that we know the sex as we want to keep it a secret and want to avoid the pressure. Mostly it's my MIL who I'm still not really on speaking terms with after the pregnancy announcement debacle - when we found out I was pg my parents (who live in Spain) were visiting our new house (in the UK) and we were having a family lunch with dh's parents and dh persuaded me that we should tell our parents while they were all together (first time since our wedding 3 years ago due to one set living in Spain) so we told them on the proviso that they didn?t tell anyone as we felt it was too early and we wanted to tell people when we were ready. MIL then rang 5 days later and said to dh, in passing, that as it was ?such good news? she had felt that she 'had' to tell dh?s 2 brothers but that it had happened by accident. She had actually called them on the phone the next day - not really an accident! Anyway I think that if we even admit we know she will go on and on and on until we (I actually mean dh) tells her and then she'll tell everyone. I don't think dh would hold up well under interrogation...

Nicola, I'm at Pembury too - I didn't know there was a website - i've Googled but can't find it...? We went to the old hospital for my first scan and looked in the window of the new one and it looks amazing!

nicolamumof3 · 21/01/2011 09:59

Feeling quite active/positive again today. Going to see my holistic therapist this afternoon, she either does my head, my shoulders or lower back whatever hurts the most. Tho its all of it today lol!! My ligaments must be stretching as my lower back certainly twinging.

Had urge last night to clean out my kitchen cupboards. Just back from school run with ds3 and post office going to get on with it in a minute while the motivation still there! Just having a cuppa and quick sit down first. Feeling productive is a rarity these days!!

Lolita i just googled 'new pembury hospital' and got a link to a virtual video. A colleqgue of dh is having her first in April and just did the tour and was v.impressed!

MissLolita · 21/01/2011 12:05

Thanks Nicola! It looks lovely!
It's so lovely to see the sunshine......:)

momaluce · 21/01/2011 17:11

hi everyone. Ive just had a mamoth catch-up on the thread and hope you are all feeling good!

This is the first time ive managed to sit down at the laptop as Ive either been working or as soon as the youngest two are in bed have been falling asleep after bedtime story (sometimes in their beds) have been feeling a little bit unsociable

Am now enjoying a lovely cup of milky coffee as have been 'off' the stuff til now. Two children at after school 'international film club' til 6pm and eldest off cadetting.

Things starting to feel a bit more real now, was lucky enough to hear heartbeat at 16 wk check earlier and my line manager has been in today to do the health and safety review and discuss maternity leave. Have now signed up to both a start date and return to work date. The best thing was Im off nights now until finish breastfeeding ths baby (so will def continue until at least schoolage as nights dont agree with me!)

Hope all you other number 4s are looking after yourselves! We too have heard the one about not having a tv anyone heard any others

Fab123 · 21/01/2011 22:05

How funny that there are more than one of you at Pembury. I used to go to school there! Can only picture the old hospital though so it must have all changed by the sounds of it.

Lots more energy this week - did a double sided blanket today. Feeling pretty crafty even though I've had my sewing machine for 7 months and it's not seen the light of day 'til now!

Thanks for the info on the card and the scan dates. I'll just go with it. I was adding on the days to when we were trying but the actual date given from the scan is the 19th July, not the 26th as I have on the list. Hopefully this means I can avoid my partners birthday on 30th!

Keep waking up mega thirsty and hungry around 3am, seemingly no matter what time I eat or sleep. Once up I can't get comfy again and end up reading all the pregnancy books scattered around my room. Anyone else getting similar? Also think I felt it move last night, actually think it woke me up...nothing huge just like a bit of paper slowly flapping in liquid and then an achey bit before I felt ravenous.

nicolamumof3 · 21/01/2011 22:11

yes i think i am feeling v.vague movements! 15w tomorrow.

parsleysandwich · 21/01/2011 22:33

Hello - can I belatedly join this thread? Smile. I'm very nearly 17 weeks (baby is due 2nd of July), it's my first pregnancy (I'm 31), and it's just starting to feel real enough to start talking about it - I think I've started to feel fluttering-ness in the last week or so. I'm still feeling shy about telling people... guess it will start to be very obvious pretty soon, though!

honeybabymoon · 22/01/2011 00:25

welcome to parsleysandwich!

such good news about all these scans. loving the sex talk!

Nicola and Lolita, it is a small world - my husband was born at Pembury and we could be quite near it at the time of the birth but I am quite nervous about labour complications (run in family) so want to be at one of the big london teaching hospitals. MIL (who lives close by) is quite funny as she keeps trying to tempt me with the ensuites which sound lovely!

I have recently changed London hospitals because of research on here about the 12 week scans. My first hospital the booking appointment was 10mins long from someone I thought was an administrator rather than a midwife. My 12 week scan was by a sonographer who was really fed up too (she actually said its more exciting when people arentexcited to see their babies!) and took 10mins. I dont really mind them being fed up and can understand if they are short of staff but these two things led to me thinking this was not the best care.
Of course husband thought i was mad changing hospital until today when we went and the booking appointment was with a midwife who asked questions and suggested things to look out for and discussed things i was worried about and answered questions (all very exciting compared to my first). It also lasted just over an hour.
Scan was same day and there was a sonographer and an actual doctor who spent at least an hour looking at everything, showing my the heart ventricles, the aorta (i didnt ask she just did), the umbilical cord, the colours of the blood flowing in and out, each and every marker for downs including bridge of nose etc. It was brilliant and I feel much more confident, I am so glad I insisted on moving.
I also wanted to say thank you to you all for sharing details of your appts and scans because without that I wouldnt have known that it was unusual (apart from the grumpiness). Also if you have had the same thing dont be afraid to ask to move. It wasnt difficult or time consuming (apart form redoing the appts) and the new hospital didnt judge me and they seemed to understand (they were quite shocked at how quick my appts had been).

honeybabymoon · 22/01/2011 00:35

Also I have a question about the sex.
We have always referred to baby as a he rather than it or baby. Feels so much more like a person giving "him" a sex. We chose he because husband is from three boys and on his paternal side there have only been boys for quite a few generations.
I honestly dont mind what sex as long as its healthy. I dont mind buying unisex stuff. The only thing is I dont want to call it it! I feel much more connected calling it him or her. However calling it the wrong one and then getting a surprise is going to feel really odd. I tried thinking of baby as a girl rather than a boy. It felt odd, not because I mind but just because Id got used to thinking of baby as a he. So for this reason I would rather find out but the husband is dead against it.
Does anyone understand what Im worried about? Im sure I sound crazy but its really confusing me as whether to find out or not.
I was thinking about the way the books and some of the sites do it which is to randomly change but feels weird too.
Does anyone have any strategies or like scotty girl said, did anyone find out and then wished they hadnt?

Oh I keep craving cheese and ice cream which I thought was me being naughty wanting fattening things then I realised its probably the calcium for baby's bones:)

Scottygirl10 · 22/01/2011 09:00

Honeybabymoon one of my colleagues is 26 weeks at the moment and she and her dh found out the sex. I asked her if she wished she didn't know now (this is her first) and she replied she was really happy to know (after initially not wanting to) and that they have decided to keep it their 'little secret', which sounds lovely! Don't know if I could hold my water tho if I found out! ;) x

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