Due in Nov - Part VIII - Not long now, surely?!

[rodeo1]

Right, Here we go, sorry about the pants title!

First baby on this thread do you reckon??

x x x

argh..is anyone around to blah at?
It's too late to call anyone..but I just can't relax and really need to!
I just ran a bath and let it go cold while I cleaned the kicthen and typed up lists of baby stuff we still need to buy.
Then I made myself a big chicken caesar salad and realised I wasn't hungry (though I eill be thankful for this at lunchtime tomorrow..heheh)
Then got in bed with some mags but couldn't resist coming to the pc and reading labour stories and reading various (often irrelevant) mumsnet threads.
someone please make me go to sleep!
I am stressing about labour, the baby, how unprepared we are etc...(maybe it's the new arrivals that have kicked that part of my brain into overdrive!?)
Can't help thinking what if I go into early labour and the house is such a mess, and we still don't have a pram etc etc..argh!
Is anyone else feeling the same?..please say so!
so sorry..I should really have a diary to vent this kind of thing at!

Hi Bob and everyone else. Hope you got to sleep at last Bob. I'm the opposite - can fall asleep Ok but then cant get back to sleep after waking to pee about 4.30am.

Yes I am suddenly worrying about not having everything done. i knwo thsi is crazy as we have so much stuff from last two kids, especailly since Ds is only16 montsh old and thsi baby is a boy so we have all teh clothes and baby equipment we need. Only need a double buggy and new car!!!!!

I guess I am freaking about the possible CS becaese its the unknown for me. Also because baby is transverse there is a risk of cord prolapse ( = possibel brain damage to baby) if I go into labour so they cant just wait and see, as they can with a breech ( bum down ) baby.

I am exhausted at the moment caring for a very active 16 month old and his big sister and cant imagine how I can also care for a newborn feeding round the clock. Have no idea how I can get DS ( who must weigh about 30lbs) into his car seat, high chair, onto changing table, in and out of bath etc without lifting him. Yes I know, he can climb into car seat if he's in the mood but he doesn't like it so I have to fight with him to get in. It can be a two person job changing his nappy if he doenst want it done. If I cant drive, DD cant get to school.

So this is why I am worrying - I simply cant see how family life can function if I am not fit to drive and carry a 30lb toddler and an 8lb baby up and down stairs. Which apparently is not advised two days after a CS.......

I knwo it must be possible to manage as lots of other mums do it. But for the life of me I cant figure out how......

Sorry to rant.....

Wow I can't believe it Nova I am so happy for you (and jealous, if I am allowed to say that!)Glad both of you are doing well. Natalie is a lovely name, can't wait to hear your birth story, hope you are feeling well!

Welcome Natalie

Sorry you are in so much pain Twinkle, that sounds horrible, makes my little niggles sound even smaller!

Rodeo, can't believe you are cooking dinner already, you sound like a true professional mother - thinking Domestic Goddess here!!!!!

ChaCha - Please stalk all you like, didn't get back to you just because I was feeling so low. Didn't want to blub all over the keyboard and make you feel even worse!

As for me I am feeling better this morning, but am prepared that this may not last. Over the weekend I have gone from being happy to completely miserable and not being able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Have cried buckets!!!!!!!! As for pains, I still get them in the morning and in the evening, like a dull period pain, but during the day I don't seem to get them, or notice them, one of the two. Wake up feeling really sick and can feel bub's head rubbing (what feels like) right in my pelvis, yesterday in car it felt as if its head was very close to DH's nice new car's seat!!!!! Sorry if TMI, but have also had some weird discharge twice over the weekend, can describe if you want, but that may be a little too much at this time of the morning

Anyway, feeling normal now, no pains or sickness so don't think I'm right on the verge, am seeing MW tomorrow who will probably tell me I am being stupid (knowing my mw) and say that bubs is weeks away yet!!!!! Will keep you posted!

Anyone else having strange symptoms yet?

Hope you are all ok, will speak again later!!!!

36+3

Enthusia - sorry to be gross but is your weird discharge like jelly? Stained pink or red or clear? Could be a show.

Hiya Kristina - no pinkness or redness to discharge. First was very heavy clear jelly like discharge - have had this quite a bit during pg, but not this heavy, then it went a creamy jelly-like (mayonnaisey (sp?))and then sort of tinged with yellow (snot )sorry to be so graphic - haven't had any liquid or anything though!!!!

Have been walking around this morning and it feels as if I have a large tennis ball stuffed up me, everytime I walk i get a 'clunking' down there and a weird pressure against pelvis - it is weird as sometimes it actually feels as if I am feeling it through my clitoris (again sorry if TMI) so it is a sort of tingling feeling as well, then as if I need to pee real bad, then it goes again. When I sit it is as if everything down there is swollenish - ie things feel bigger to sit on!!!! Really not sure if this is anything as in no pain now, no dull aches or anything, just a generally odd feeling. It is all probably just normal and I am willing it to be more than it is, can't wait to meet bubs now - maybe I am getting a bit worked up over nothing!

Thanks for listening though!

Oh and don't read if you don't want any more TMI but last night we uh-hmm did the deed and it felt to me as if there (again sorry about this girls) wasn't much room - DH said the same - said felt completely different - no room to move if you like!!! We have been keeping up with the deed all the way through and this was the first time it felt like this!!!!

Please don't ban me for TMI

Good morning folks

BoB - Hope you got off to sleep eventually and are feeling okay. I am happy to say that I slept like a log although trips to the bathroom seem to be even more frequent than usual.

Enthusia - Glad you're okay. I think you will feel a lot better after seeing your m/w tomorrow. Sometimes we just need some reassurance. After days of throwing up, diarrhoea & backache I felt really low and thoroughly exhausted. It didn't help that DH was out from early morning till gone 6-7 only to eat and crash! What to do? By the time he comes home I'm ready for company and 'What do you fancy doing then?' and he's ready for 'What's for dinner? I need an early night'. Anyway, feeling better this weekend and have asked my mum to stay a while so looking fwd to that. Just a few more weeks to go Enthusia...just a few more weeks!!!

KristinaM - Wish I could give some words of wisdom but as i've no kids am in no position to. My friend had her third C-sec recently and has 3 under 5's. She is coping well, her husband was able to take some time off work in the beginning but in the main she is coping well on her own. She says that you just have to get on with it and generally you do. I know that she is out in the car a few times a day dropping one of at some nursery, picking the other up and so on. Also have a friend with 5 kids who homeschools 3 of them and I remember her saying that it was just as much hard work as one. Am sure you'll be fine Do you have family/close friends around btw?
Oh...and yes LOL, I didn't notice the word 'shooz' on the bag. Duhhhhh....

Keep smiling people...not long to go!!!!!
Best get on with mission list before mum comes xx

Dont worry about the TMI - if you cant discuss it here, where can you???? If you are about to go into labour, then sex is good ( if you feel like it!!! )as apparently semen contains prostaglandins ( sp?) which have a good effect on the cervix.

Snot sounmds like a show to me. also sounds like your baby's head is engaged and thats why you feel like you have a baseball between your legs.

NOt sure if the feeling a bit swollen down there is after last nights frolics or soemthing else. Wonder if you should pop down to your Gps with a urine sample and ask them to test it, in case you have a UTI? Wont do any harm. problem is that needing to pee really bad then only doing a wee dribble is normal at this stage but is also a sign of UTI. I missed one in my first preg as I thought is was just teh normal preg stuff.

It s a bit like people saying " oh feeling crap , tired, sick, having heavy discharge, having the runs etc are signs of early labour". Problem is that they are also signs of late preg as well!!!!!

thnaks Chacha - I know I am over reacting. Its just the first few weeks I am worried about as Dh works away a lot. He was away for 2 weeks after Ds was born and i found it quite hard - guess I am spoiled as he does a lot with the kids .

I have friends and soem family nearby but they are all working full time or have loads of kids of their own. My sister and SIL in law are both pregnant too, due at Christmas! Sadly grandparents are useless.I envy those of you with nice mums coming to stay

Thanks for the messages. Am going out to get nursing bras, so hopefully that will take my mind off of it!!!!!!

I am also going through that 'I want my MUM' stage. Last week was really odd and I haven't got much on this week and really want to be looked after and go on baby buying sprees with mum, pity she is in Spain, mind you she won't be much longer in coming back if bubs keeps going like this!!!!!!

ChaCha - glad you slept, are you feeling any better since last week?

Right I am off before I start worrying about any other symptoms!!!!!

Kristina - I haven't seen my mum in two years and prior to that hadn't seen her for about six so you can imagine we still have a lot of catching up to do. Between the time of my parents divorce and my marriage I was on my own and became very independent. I didn't see or need my parents for anything but during my PG I have been missing my mum more than ever and am really glad that she will be around for a while (even if it only turns out to be a few days). Do you have contact with your mum Kristina? If not, don't worry. Just think of what a great mum you'll be to your own and chin up

Enthusia - Take it easy when you're out and about. I feel some stories coming on while being fitted for nursing bra
Thanks - am feeling much better today. Long may it continue x

Hi Ladies

Decided to make an appearance after weeks of feeling sorry for myself and being really unsocial. Have had terrible back, pelvic and hip aches which have kept me off the computer.

Big big contrats to Nova and Rodeo. Wow two girls!! Sounds like everything which smoothly for both of you. Blimey Rodeo, sunday dinner!!

Kristina - I have been going through the exact same thing as you. It was almost as if I wrote your last post instead of you. My baby is breech too. Midwife hasn't been exactly helpful and is making it seem like my only choice is a cs. Know how you feel, have a 19mnth old ds to cope with so have had all the same thoughts and worries. Haven't got anyone that can help and can't not drive for 6 weeks!!! It has actually made me feel really down. Especially as a really wanted a home birth, and going from that to c-section are poles apart. Have decided to only have a c-section when I go into labour but do worry about the cord prolaspe too. I have heard alot of stories of babies turning at the last minute, so am desperately grasping onto the possibility but mw won't agree to home assessment till baby turns so no home birth.

Will hopefully catch up on everyones news over the next few days. Hope you are all doing well.

Take care
CADS
36+2

Morning girls,

Just to make you all laugh I thought I'd share the fact that I ended up stranded on the floor like a beached whale last night as Ben wanted us all to play Lego, so trying to be a good mummy for a change I agreed, only to get completely stuck on my side with Ben then trying to push me up, much to the amusement of my dh. I finally ended up flat on my back at one stage and couldn't roll over, 'cos it hurt to much so Ben took this opportunity to jump all over me!!! All highly hilarious, don't think I'll be trying that one again for a while!!!

Bob hope you eventually got off to sleep, there's nothing worse than having the fidgets is there, especially when all you really want to do is veg out.

Cads nice to have you back honey, we're all here to rant to when you're feeling antisocial and strangely enough most of us have gone through the same emotions at the same time! I know exactly what the hip & back pain is like, it's really irritating isn't it. Do you find when you stand up that you don't want to move as you know it's gonna hurt?

Kristina it must be a worry with bub being transverse, have the hospital said they will try and turn the baby for you if you want them too, or is it just in thelap of the gods? Do you think your dh will be able to get some time off compassionate leave if you do have to have a section, just so that you can get your daughter to school and things for the first couple of weeks? It might be worth asking them now, so that they can be prepared to be more flexible?

My dh's firm give him 4 days off the rest he has to take as holiday, so h's been saving holiday like mad all year but is now absolutely whacked and in need aof a rest not a fortnight off looking after and amusing Ben!!!

I've got the first of my hospital visits to day, should be fun - not and then it's back to do some housework as I'm having a jewellery party tomorrow night, sods law is that normally when you invite people to these sorts of things they never want to come do they - this time I've got 15 yes's - bugger!!!

Hope everyone is well and that Jessica & Natalie are letting their parents get some sleep. Speak to you all later Beks

morning all,
Hope those with new babies are getting some sleep and everyone else is taking it easy
Im off out on a mission to find a carpet fitter,drag him back to the house and make him fit the bloody thing
Then i can put furniture in nursery as opposed to my bedroom and the rest of the house
My ribs still feel like im been stabbed in them
Whatever pain killers they gave me are not up to the job,i need at least dia-morphine or a general anasthetic
I seem to be getting more and more on egde now about getting everything finished.Im looking forward to reclaiming my body but im also very sad as i know this will be my last pregnancy.Its prob just my mad hormones though.
well talk later im off for a carpet fitter
twinkle
34+4

congratulations nova! what a lovely name

wow, everybodys starting to get moving now, its quite exciting waiting to see who'll be the next to pop!

appt on friday with the consultant-we arrived only to find he was in anougher hospital 1hr away-I'd only assumed it was at that hospital as thats where I saw him last time and thats where im delivering-as it was, it was written in my notes but I hadnt checked them
I felt such a tw*t! dp was in a huff for about an hr, he couldnt believe I hadnt checked and was put out that he'd taken valuable time off!
I felt most silly, but after hed calmed down we went off xmas shopping for a bit , which was nice as we didnt have ds with us, so gave us some time together.

getting worried about impending birth now,everythings mostly ready, although double buggy still not in stock and when i rang they couldnt give me any idea of when it would be arrivinggrrrr

Just got my "posh mag" through this morning, some intresting articles this month, especially the article about Psychosexual childbirth, I think theres alot of truth in it.

Liz 35+2

Hello all,

Congratulations to nova, you dark horse you! How fantastic, welcome Natalie!

Birthday parties were a big success, but feeling quite 'levelled' now and sifting through remains of house.... trying to regain surfaces formerly covered in presents, prizes, biscuits, cake etc. Get garden mud out of carpet etc..!

rodeo, good to have you back and hear how well you and little Jess are doing, lovely!

Enthusia, how exciting to hear you've probably had a 'show'..... and baby is in position, wonderful stuff!

ChaCha, glad to hear you've managed to keep some food down and it's helping you feel better, it never occurred to me it might be the iron tablets causing your sickness, but of course they can do that..... 'Floradix' is great stuff, glad you thought to make the switch.

twinkle, can't believe my eyes reading about what you're going through, you poor thing, and still adding smiley face icons to your posts.... large rosette coming your way this morning I believe!

Hi to everyone else, now to demolish toasted sandwich & Ovaltine (mmmmm) and then maybe check & see if any 'treasure' -chocolate coins- left lurking in garden after kids parties...

Just so you dont all think my sister is still in labour, she had a little girl 5.10am sunday. Do not envy her for her long labour!

Got midwife appt on wednesday, hopefully baby will have turned, beggining to dread having to have a section. Wasn't a bad experience having one last time, but as it was an emergency it all happened so fast. I think if i had an elective i would be worrying about it all the time as i hate needles and the thought of surgery makes me queasy!

Can you all believe i have STILL only bought a pram? Thats it, i have nothing else, think i'd better pull my finger out!

Sarah 33+6

afternoon all..
I finally got to sleep! dp came home and told me off for doing too much and I dozed off in front of a film in bed...
then slept in until 11 so feeling a lot better!
I went a bit crazy for a while..but am making up for it by doing absolutely nothing today..hehehe
sarah - congrats to your sister! that was a loooong labour, poor girl, was it her first baby?
twinkle - hope you feel a bit better...it sounds awful!
I can't imagine how those of you with children are coping..I can barely keep myself and the house together at the moment..i wouldn't have the energy to be dealing with kids too!

ooooh and I forgot- Enthusia..sounds exciting! I wonder if you'll be the next to drop, or if someone will do a 'nova' and totally surprise everyone.

Hiya again

Sarah, congrats on your sister, did she have lots of complications????

CADs - welcome back, good hearing your news, even if it isn't all good. Think we should rename this Moan Net at the mo, with all our emotions!!!!!

BoB - glad you got some sleep, that is what I am hoping for now.

Busy - blame pg brain for the little slip up, wasn't all bad anyway - maybe it was a Freudian slip and you wanted that little you and DH time really!!!!

Well have nursing bra - lady was actually really nice, although she did say the bra I am currently wearing is not a good fit. I did say this when I was fitted for it in M&S but they said it was perfect, shows how much they knew!!!!!!

Anyway - not too much to tell about trip other than had a blinding pain in my pelvis, ended up shuffling around town as couldn't bear to walk properly (this time got overtaken by one of those floor sweepery cleany things that go at a snails pace). The pain was as if something (head I would imagine) was trying to explode through the front of my pelvic bone. This then made me feel sick, which made me feel dizzy and lastly tired. So abandoned rest of shopping and came home - decided to pop into Tesco quickly to pick up lunch and found that pain had gone, just a dull ache there now with a tingle. Still feel absolutey knackered though - Mothercare lady was really worried cos I didn't look well - so also bought a book in Tesco and plan to just read and sleep this afternoon! Apart from tiredness do feel fine though, is that pelvic pain normal does anyone know?

Right will stop whinging as don't want today's messages to be taken over by me, going to fix that lunch and read my book

Byyyyeeeeeee

Enthusia..don't worry you have a lot of 'moaning credits' with us..hehe ..with all the high spirits you have brought to the board when we were moaning away.

Pelvic pain sounds awful- i'm suffering with that too..my spd has really flared up as the baby is engaging..it's not nice at all! I can't wait to walk normally again

Hello all!

I'm ashamed to say that I have been reading the November threads every day since they started, but haven't posted for ages. I feel as though I know you all really well although most probably don't even recognise my name!

For those that do, you might remember me saying that my mum was very unwell so I had been quite miserable and not excited about pregnancy. Unfortunatly she passed away a few weeks ago from cancer and I am absolutly devestated.
I will not go into any more detail as this is supposed to be a happy thread, I posted a seperate thread about it at the time, and the people who use mumsnet are wonderful it really helped hearing their words of support.

It has also been lovely hearing all your news and chatter over the weeks and has really cheered me up and helped me forget my problems for a short while.

CONGRATULATIONS! to rodeo and nova, fantastic news and brought a tear to my eye. I am also a Jessica so good choice of name

Are most of you with children already going for a double buggy? ds will be 2.5 when baby is born and is quite capable of walking but runs a mile if let out of the pushchair! I have not got a clue what to do other than only leaving the house when there is someone to help me!

p.s I had a dream the other night that chacha had the next baby and it was a little girl!

Jess 37 weeks
x

hi...and welcome back!
sorry for wha tyou have bee nthrough, tha tmust be really hard to cope with, particularly with a baby on the way.
as ever though mumsnet to the rescue! it's true what Nova said that the advice, and support, on here is a hundred times better than that in baby mags...
I was shocked to find one of the magazines has prerecorded advice lines on general pregnancy niggles, that cost 65p per minute..I feel like writing a letter telling people to go to mumsnet instead!

Alfiesmum - My sincerest condolences to you and your family I'm really sorry to hear of your sad news.
We all remember you here, in fact, we have been asking where you are and hope that you keep posting and letting us know how you and baby are doing. I'm really sorry, I am no good with words but am sending you a massive cyber hug and please feel free to talk to us about it here. We can listen as well as moan
Such is the cycle of life.
I am thinking of you and will pray for your mum xxxx

Jesus.. i can't be left alone..
i was trying to light the oven for dinner and the pilot light was out so I went and lit it, then sat down for a bit and noticed an odd smell..
gas was pouring out of the oven...my god!
this isn't the first time I have done this too...
i feel sick at being so brain-dead and irresponsible...