I wandered lonely as a PESH

[Muser]

That floats on high o'er vales and hills
When all at once I saw a crowd
Of cackling, quaffing, ne-er-do-wells

Pull up a seat, grap a glass of vino and a piece of sushi, it's Delitime again.

BESH BAYBEES
dontrythisathome, girl born March 25.
Cheggers, twinz girlz, born April.
FannyPriceless, boy, born June 8.
CurlyCasper, girl, born June 24.
CUNextTuesday, boy, born June 29.
AlpinePony, boy, born 1 July.
Carrots, boy, born July.
IggyPiggy, girl, born July.
Cosmosis, boy, born Sept 5.
Backinthebox, boy, born Sept 7.
Skatergrrrl, girl, born Sept 10.
VAG, boy, born Oct 2.
Silversky, boy, born Nov 1
SomethingSuitablyWitty, awaiting update

UPDIFFED
Honeymoo, 3 wees a night, due October 31 (boy)
okiecokie, self-confessed control freak, due November 6
SomethingSuitablyWitty, benelux babe, due November 14
ReginaMonologue, knows when all the sales are, due November 20 (boy)
maswera, jungle hottie, due December 11
PollyPoo, wants to name her baybee after the dog, The New Messiah is due December 25
MrsFC, joining whether she wants to or not, due 22 Jan
ChoChoSan, "and Lo! The lord did resurrect her petrified womb", due 31 Jan
CluckyKate, hatching an egg, due February 2
Perfect Dromedary, defied medical science, due February 24
Muser, will she ever stop puking?, due February 27
Ginhag, reckless cake-carrier, due 28th Feb
Medee, finally over the Haribo craving, due March 12
Casserole, completely out of witty things to add, due April 8
Scorpette, now carrying a RL baby in addition to Clothilda and the squid, due 21 May.
Laurielou, the unmarried hussy with the "surprise" diff, due 31 May (ish)
Rocketleaf, no longer jealous of morning sickness, due 1 June.
Twinkle Toes, supergluing her fanjo shut, due 23 June.

Oops. That face was to Mrs not Pencil

Poll I wish I were qualified already. I'd drive down and treat you for free.

I wish I lived closer to Poll as well so I could eat your meatballs help you tidy. I think you are amazing to be doing as much as you are. In your position I'd probably be very pathetic. Is there any way you could afford a cleaner, even just a one off big clean?

Oh Polleee :( :(. Moan as much as you wish, dearest, for you truly deserve it. The moaning that is and not the bad stuff. I guess moving is off the agenda then? I'm sorry, I don't know anything about SPD. Will it get better straightaway when the baybee is born or does it hand around? Though it does sounds as though s/he is on his/her way down.

BTW, Bryn would never shag me because he prefers sopranos and I am an alto

Aw fanks all. You are making me misty eyed. I feel like a right moaning minnie and I hate it! I would very much like to be pathetic and stay on the sofa Muse, but actually it makes me seize up even more and also TG is working 12-14 hrs a day atm and I can't exactly just leave everything until he gets home, as there is Boo to deal with. For the 3rd time in 4 years TG is having to work his bollocks off to 'prove' that he deserves a place in the new PCT replacement. If he is successful then he should start in the new post in April, but if not, he will have to carry on working in his current post with no motivation for the next two years, which sucks ass! So I don't feel I can ask him to do much more than he is already.

Funnily enough I saw an advert in our parish magazine for a housekeeper/cleaner, so I emailed her last week and explained my position, said I needed someone to clean for a few hours a week and perhaps undertake a few additional tasks here and there, temporarily until I recovered from the SPD/birth. Initially she said that would be fine and she would call me after the weekend. Then I got an email saying that she didn't really do cleaning and had lots of people that rely on her to do 'more important jobs' than cleaning and couldn't really give me a regular slot. Her reply actually made me cry, the cow. I have given up trying to find anyone else - we live right out in the sticks and by the time I get someone and they can fit me in the baybee will be here. I will just have to ask family instead of waiting for people to offer!

Boo polished off her meatballs and requested more and TG will prolly do the same when he gets in. So much for me hoping to get a few batches in the freezer! I have ordered shedloads of food though and am planning a big cooking extravaganza on Sunday to get the freezer filled up with wholesome cakes meals for us, so you can all have more meatballs. And lasagne. And risotto. And cottage pie. And spag bol. And maybe some more brownies for when I need a pick-me-up.

Me meme emmememe... I am boring myself now.

Soz RieRie, meant to say SPD usually resolves itself after baybee is laid. Not immediately unfortunately, but hopefully within a month or two. Although saying that I did also read that in severe cases it can take about a year or even require surgery. Eeek. Hence me lazing around a lot trying not to overdo things. Where is everyone this evening? TG is now home and I'm wishing he wasn't, he is so grumpy. FFS.

Polly Do you know any older teens who need cash? My friend's daughter did some cleaning for another friend when she was diffed and in a similar position as you. Less snobby than your 'considerably more important than you' parish lady and probably willing to work for less cash if you know a reliable one

And Scorps, have just noticed 'Gaylord Bottomley'. :o 'Tis a thing of beauty. Surely this must be posted in baby names...

I am stealing this link off another thread as it is very cool. Shows what happens to your organs as the baby grows. Amazing. www.msichicago.org/whats-here/exhibits/you/the-exhibit/your-beginning/make-room-for-baby/interactive/

Calling any second timers! Need some feeding advice and the SPA is quiet:

MB fed for an hour at 6pm finishing at just after 7pm. He had a short nap and just woke up so I changed and fed him. He only fed for 15 mins at 9.45pm and has gone back to sleep!!! Perhaps he will be hungry at 11pm making it four hrs between the feeds? It's not the first time he has had random 10-15min feeds.

I have tried stroking his feet/cheek and blowing on his head but he is v sleepy ! Prob due to not sleeping much today.

Any tips???

But I wouldn't want anyone to steal my wonderful baybee name, Boo!

Pol, am always in awe of how strong you are and how much you get done. You deserve a good mememe at the best of times, never mind with all this at the mo. If I lived nearby, I'd come round with goodies and help (or we could sit about and moan together, heheh ). I know it makes me a total hypocrite to say so, but try not to worry about the worst case scenarios of SPD aftermath. You have to be realistic but balance that with not freaking yourself out. Oh yeah, and that snooty housekeeper can fuck the fuck off BIGGEST NON-PELVIS-HURTING HUGS XX

Silver try and relax. He won't starve himself and may just make up for it tomorrow. If he's really sleepy try changing his nappy or undressing him for a bit and the cold should perk him up anough to feed for a bit longer. But as I say, don't worry! There will be times when he'll eat a lot, sometimes not so much. All evens itself out as long as he is having plenty wet/dirty nappies and gaining weight at reasonable levels over time (and pliz not to panic if he has a slow week either - overall trend is the key).

What kind of night did you have?

So I've bitten the bullet and booked an early scan privately. Is £60 where we are so not too bad given I shell out £40 for the needles and can offset against not drinking ad actually prob not needing to spend anything on baby this time round. Not til 8 weeks though but at least should get some reassurance (I hope) before Christmas. On positive side my peesticks are getting progressively darker and boobs are v sore so that's a good sign, right?

Oh meant to say, Pol, SPD sounds horrid. Did you have it last time round as well? That baybee will be out before you know it. The meatballs sound lush as well - can you share recipe? MiniG vey partial to a meatball.

Aw shuddup Score, you are embarrassing me!

Boo that is not a bad idea. I don't know of any personally as I have no friends, am an unsociable cow, do not have many friends locally (most are between 1-2 hrs drive away...) but I could ask others in the village. Trouble is, it is the kind of village where they don't like strangers and everyone keeps themselves to themselves. We have been here 6 years and are still very much outsiders! Mind you, we probably only have ourselves to blame for that - TG is agrophobic and lazy, and I am lazy at making the effort to meet new people.

Silv I hope you had a better night and got some rest. I echo what Lady said, if you can't wake him up with a nappy change then I'd just leave him as he will no doubt catch up later (hopefully not by keeping you up all night tho'). I remember it doing my head in that Boo used to sleep all day and be awake all night... Remind why I'm doing this again?!!

GG no I didn't have it last time, but apparently I am now at risk of having it again (not that TG wants any more children and I don't think my ancient shrivelled ovaries would be up to it, considering how long it took this time round.) Only a few weeks to go.... That is my new mantra. And really, who cares if the house if filthy? I'm starting to look at things in terms of priorities, what really needs to be done before I lay. No point stressing myself out about it.

Cass I think you raised a good point about feeling safe, confident and happy when giving birth. I absolutely hated my time in hospital with Boo (and it nowhere near as bad as Silv's experience). I guess I am not happy about giving birth there, hence wanting to do it differently this time. I'd go to the birthing centre, but their criteria for accepting me are pretty much the same as homebirth. I might talk to midwife about going to a different hospital if needs be, although it may be a bit late in the day. Actually Cass you might be able to help me out here - MW said there is nothing I can do to lower blood pressure (it is the lower figure that is the prob). She said the higher figure is changeable depending on what I'm doing, but that one is not the problem. Surely there is something i can do to help bring the lower one back down?

Lovely Pol, you've probably done this already, but I foundthis lady who's based 5 miles away from you - she might come in for a "proper" clean? These people seem to exist on the web, too maps.google.co.uk/maps/place?hl=en&um=1&ie=UTF-8&q=Total+Ta19+0HH&fb=1&gl=uk&hq=Total&hnear=Ilminster+TA19+0HH&cid=15983159448345975999 but I can't find any actual description of what they do...

Wish I knew how to lower blood pressure/help with the SPD. Poor precious.

taken me ages to catch up as couldn't get on in work yesterday... :o at hb and rie highbrow celeb one upmanship. lovely to see you in here.

pol i am so sorry to hear your HB might be in jeopardy and that you family are not helping out. I really think you should just ask, they are probably assuming that you are your usual self sufficient self etc, just guilt trip them into coming and giving you a hand. You deserve it!! Sounds like you are still managing to do quite a bit yourself, which is amazing. (domestic goddess status intact in my eyes, even if there are fluff balls under the couch)

muse that animation is cool but scared me a bit, not loving the thought of my gall bladder being squished :S

score i really hope TYF's family surprise you by showing a bit of emotion, poor TYF having to feel nervous about telling them. I can see why you get with them. The barnowl thing made me laugh tho as there was something on the radio about them this morning. Her comment would probably be about how 75% are now living in man made nesting boxes.

forgot to say, ladygg loads of luck for the scan, think its money well spent if you are worrying. think we need to assess just how sore you boobs are

Thanks y'all ! In the end I went to bed leaving MB with HI so I could get some shuteye.

Yep - midnight arrived and his lordship demanded feeding so tWas ok. He fed again at 3 and at 6. So getting better and he went down in his Moses better without a fuss. He lay there making all sorts of noises but it didn't escalate into crying so all good.

However will he sleep in his Moses this am?? Nope. Has to be held. The washing machine is screaming that's it's finished and I am held hostage by MB.

GG I am all for private scans.

Anyone else on here on a phone? New format ????

Rocket, I think you must've met my MIL before, cos that's EXACTLY what it would be about (she's put her own boxes up in their barn)!

Pol, I might be wrong, but I'm pretty sure that you can choose which local hospital you go to, unless you need to be rushed somewhere in an emergency (not nec. bad - could be cos waters break whilst you're out shopping or summat). Although it's totally understandable why you want to avoid them, it might be sensible to ask to have a little look round another nearby hospital (not the horrid one), to see if you think you'd feel okay there if you did end up needing to birf in hossie. If they're a good place, they will listen to your reasons for wanting a squiz round and to ask them questions and arrange a tour 'n' chat for you. I know they're busy, but part of their job is - or should be - putting women at ease.

If you have a look round another hossie and think you'd feel okay labouring there, then at least you can feel more relaxed about having it as a back-up plan, instead of feeling like it's a scary thing you might be forced into, IYSWIM. :)

Wish I could offer some advice on the bp but mine tends to be on the low side, which has its own probs...

Aww silver he loves his mum :o good excuse to not to the washing imo glad it was a just a blip in his feeding tho. must be a mad learning curve!!!

The farce of MrM's blood type continues...

The results of his blood test were... Normal. WTF? He's now awaiting a call back from one of the doctors to establish just how the fuck we find out his blood type if they won't test it properly, and he can't donate blood. Maybe I should just be having the jags on the off-chance, but that's surely a worse waste of NHS resources than just finding out if it is necessary or not.

score talks sense, poliscious I was offered choice of 2, but then I suppose it depends on where you live, I am guessing high population centres will have more choice, I get the impression you are a bit more remote? Also I would have thought a reccie would be a normal thing for them to do? Pretty sure people have talked of going on tours of birthing units on here.

score can you ask MIL where "barnowls" lived before we built barns and what they were called? that'll fox her. (actually she sounds like the type who would already know that)

Girlz. Sorreee I am so crap at posting on here. Can't seem to find more than 3 minutes to do anything. Had our first outing yesterday which was utter terror and couldn't concentrate on a word anyone said... I'm sure this will pass in time as ye ole ESHs before me have said...It also turns out that being pushed in a buggy doesnt necessarily guarantee sleeping baby funnily enough.

He did take a big dream feed last night though and that meant only one wake up call at 2am so I am very happy and rested today for the first time since he was born! No doubt we will back to 3 feeds tonight though so not holding my breath.

pollymylovely Im so sorry you are having a hideous time and that cleaner sounds like a bitch. Do not take any notice. And about hospital - you have to feel comfortable where you are going and they can't force you to go to a particular hospital. Even if I hadn't had all the panics at the end, I'm still glad I went in and it was a positive experience up until that point and I felt safer knowing it was all there if I needed it. Def try and go and visit a few I'd say.

BabyMoo is grizzling on monitor no idea how long i've got so better go... bye for now

Rocky, am not going to mention barn owls at all to her; they constitute about 50% of all her conversation so am not going to encourage her (other 50% is the history of their v boring part of Devon... zzzzzzzzz)!

Medee, WTF is going on?! With all the amazing medical things Docs can do nowadays they can't find out Mr M's blood type? FFS, you need to put a rocket up their arses (not our dear Rocket, mind ). Why should you have the jabs if you might not need them?! You need to tell them you're going to complain in writing about the merry dance you've been led - this usually miraculously produces results. But you shouldn't have to be going through any of this. Tell 'em a heavily preggo woman shouldn't be put through stress due to their incompetence over a simple thing BESHSMASH!

(Can you tell I am a seasoned complainer, heheh?)

I don't mind putting my foot up their arses if it will help medeeeee get some results! what a load of tossers.

hope you get another restful night ce soir.