Jue in June part 3

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We have now reached 2000 posts so need to start another thread.

terrible news yellowtom I am so sorry to hear that xxx

Yellowtomato - so sorry to hear your sad news xx

Nursesunshine - My pool is a 'birth pool in a box' and I bought it from www.thegoodbirth.co.uk I think including the heat retention cover and maybe a couple of others bits it cost about £120/130 so I'm hopeful I can get my money's worth out of it this time! The last available community midwife was called to a home birth 20 minutes before I rang with my DD so I'll not be leaving it so late this time! I rang the hospital at 9:15 and DD was born at 9:50 in hospital so I'll definitely be ringing sooner this time round but I've only ever used my tens machine plus some gas&air with both my DC so I think I've done ok so far!

Oh no yellowtomato :( I am so sorry.

Ladies - stay away from AIBU, there is a someone has started a very distasteful and tactless thread. Had a quick glance and OP is being flamed to a well done crisp.

Just looked Kara

Yellowtomato, I am so sorry I don't know what to say but I'm thinking of you. xxxx

I've just looked too before checking in here - it's pretty horrendous reading .

I told our childminder yesterday morning about being pg; she said fingers crossed for you that all will be okay, and told me that she'd had a mmc between having her two children (found out at 12 week scan) and that she now cannot understand why people tell anyone before their scan .

I feel very sad for her, but she is also making me feel scared and terrible again, as both this morning and when I picked ds up last night she said "fingers crossed", and even said this morning that she has not told her eldest dc that I am having a baby, so she does not have to break any bad news to her, and that she won't understand where the baby has gone . Am I being hormonal, or should she possibly be a little teeny bit more positive about it to my face?

I wish I hadn't told her now, this is the second person I've chosen to tell who has then revealed they have had a mc. My friend who I told a couple of weeks ago revealed she had an mc earlier in the year, but has been great, and telling me to stop being so silly whenever I've spoken about "if I get to 12 weeks".

8RD thats very insensitive of her. Sounds like she has some issues about her MC that she hasn't resolved if she needs to project bad feeling onto yourself.
Let her words wash over you like water off a ducks back. Try and think positive thoughts & if that doesn't work just try & keep yourself distracted. Thats not the sort of reaction good news deserves.

Thanks Mrsbigw, that is just the sort of response I needed. After hearing about Yellowtomato's terrible news I have been sat in work worrying about all the people we've lost on this thread, worrying about my own pg, worrying about everythhing in general! I swear I used to be this wonderfully chilled-out, laid-back character 6 weeks ago .

I'm afraid I couldn't help addind my tupennies worth kara. Just made me so so angry. As have a few things I've read today. Think I may be suffering from pregnancy related rage!

8rubberducks- that's so insensative of her! A couple of people have said things along those lines to me. You have to wonder about people like that.

deepblue apparently vomiting 4 or more times a day is too much. Or not being able to keep any food or drink down. Hope your dr helps you out.

yellowtomato So sorry to hear your news. Take care of yourself.

As for me ... urrghhhh 8 weeks and uurrrghhh dicky tummy....yukky yukky...bloated/windy/gassy just down right uncomfortable ALL DAY LONG!!!!! Even through the night...

I would win at any belching game these days! Charming I know...

uuurrghhhhhhhhh

I read your posts on there Mummy and you made some good, valid points

Sorry Supersunnyday, x posted, I am not one to speak, but please stay positive!!!

8rubberducks
Your childminder sounds a bit like mine! A lady who does not hold back her words!

However that was rather insensitive...I mean the pre-12 week scan is such a touch and go time...we are all worrying about the scan at 12 weeks being ok...so saying those things doesn't help.

I some how feel she probably meant well..sort of...in a weird way...but it was still insensitive.... I would think she was trying to have one of those 'moments' with you - but it didn't come out right.

Anyway, I hope she doesn't go on about it anymore for your sake!

Dungungirl she is usually a very softly-spoken, level-headed sort of person, it is really out of character behaviour, so maybe Mrsbigw is right, and she has some unresolved issues surrounding it.

I know exactly how you feel Supersunny, I could have written your last two posts . We need to stay strong and positive in the face of all the bad news, and concentrate on all the wonderful things happening for most of us at the moment .

Same as above. I feel really bad, takethatlady, that I said, surely if something was going wrong-there would be more symptoms. I was clearly wrong. I have looked back over all the June posts- and didnt realize how often it has happened to people you guys have been chatting to.

I just never heard of silent miscarriage. I have lots to learn.

Thank you MN2- I have to take urine sample into WIC later for it to be tested. But too be honest- I know there will be nothing wrong. The GP wasnt listening to me- I said I can keep food and drink down, but a bad day, it is 4 times a day. Suppose they just need to check and I want to be sure-

x

8RD - agree with MrsBW, she has issues with her mmc. I had a mmc but have accepted that it was likely to be a one off (as sounds like hers if she had a child afterwards). Bad things happen but there is no point dwelling on them as there is nothing that can be changed. It's of no help telling someone who's pregnant about the bad things. Besides it's your decision to tell people so it shouldn't be hers to not tell people (if that makes sense ). And (sorry just thought of another, think I have caught mn2 pregnancy rage!) bad things happen to small numbers of people. The 20/25% miscarriage rates includes those who may not have even known they were pregnant.

*Supersunny - It may help you to know that a missed miscarriage only happens in apparently 1% of miscarriages, a small number. I can appreciate that we seem to have had a lot on here and it makes us all nervous but the further weeks ahead you are the less likely you are to have a miscarriage of any type. I have a link somewhere on the %. I will try and find it and post.

I know how awful it is when one of us gets bad news but remember the flip side of how wonderful it is when ones of us gets good news and in the coming news there will be good news.

Hugs to all who need them

supersunny - I emailed my doctor who performed my erpc when I got pregnancy this time and he said that there is no more chance of having a miscarriage then anyone else. Having just the one doesn't put us at higher risk but I fully understand where you're coming from! I think I'm only this positive as I'm in denial about the possibility of anything bad happening .

I have the link but am a bit worried it might freak people out so not sure about posting it. But if a heartbeat is seen at 8wks it's a 2% chance, one at 9wks is a 1-2% chance and one at 10wks less than 1%. Apparently the majority of mc's happen before 7 weeks. Think I'll stop now as not sure how helpful I'm being .

On a food note, I'm off to eat worcester sauce flavour crisps . .. ymmmmmm

suppersunny my symptoms keep coming and going and I keep panicking (I am 8+4) but we must try not to as it seems to happen to everybody and must be normal. I am pleased to say I have indigestion again this afternoon which is a symptom for me. Try to stay positive and you will hopefully get your reassurance on Tuesday :)

knackered thank you - that is helpful. Although I won't be seeing a heartbeat until my 12 week scan as don't have the spare cash for a private scan at the moment.
Yuck to worcester sauce!!

yellowtomato so sorry to hear your bad news today. Please take care of yourself.

May sound dumb now but what's aibu??? i tend to come straight on to our thread. I may regret it but am very intrigued as to what i'm being told to avoid. :)

It's a forum talking called Am I Being Unreasonable - generally gets very heated!

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