Jue in June part 3

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Thank you deepbluewave. I am sooo close to booking an early scan. I'd have to pay for it on my credit card so I really shouldn't ...

I think it's not helping that I can't see a midwife. Last time I had very early mc before I saw a midwife and I just want to see someone and make it official. Obviously that's got nothing to do with the health of the pregnancy so I'm being very irrational!

Need to pull myself together!

Yeh, it sounds like a combination of it all.

Oh, Im sorry you went through that before- no wonder your bloody worrying!

Just try relax- the stress wont help. Im sure there is a juicy sick wave in the making!

Can you speak to your GP again about your concerns. They should want to help you chill- and sounds like your more in need of MW appt, sooner rather than later.

takethatlady, I know how you feel with worrying after a previous m/c, and how bizarre it is that there's no medical support! I keep telling myself I'm being irrational, but of course that doesn't make any difference! I'm having symptom-free days too (and basically no ms), but everything I've read says it's normal.

I've got my private scan today (I'm 7+4 too), and it's only £90, which I don't think is bad. They do only take cash though, no credit cards!! Very bizarre, but it's at the hospital in the evening, not at one of the private scanning places.

banana, your midwife sounds rubbish. I can't believe she just put you down for where you were giving birth! I was told we can change it at any time, so don't worry about it though. I've chosen a consultant-led hospital, after hearing how few women actually end up going through the whole birth at our local midwife-led unit! I don't fancy a transfer half way through. Also, my BMI is just on 35, and they check weight again before delivery to recalculate BMI, so I'd probably have ended up being recommended to go to the consultant-led place anyway.

yellowtomato good luck with your scan.

takethatlady our community MWs run a weekly drop in at the local sure start centre, this isn't very well advertised so maybe have a look & see if there is something like that in your area. Otherwise I would ring the hospital antenatal clinic & see what they recommend. Hope you get sorted soon.

I have my 11 wk appt today & am hoping to get a bit of clarification about when I will get my scan appt.

Takethatlady - that is ridiculous, have the only got the one bleeding midwife? I would get back to your GP and get them to sort it out.

Banana - yeah I wish I had been more assertive about my choice of hospital, I was told "go to North Tees, they have MRSA at James Cook". No mention of the birthing centre at Hartlepool

Motherofsnortpig - that would be fab, I would like to have a home birth but was worried about the practicalities of the bath. If I needed to go to hospital, our nearest one (James Cook) is only 10 mins away in the car.

Oh and DH has suggested we have a private scan... just because I am stressing so much.
Going to ring a place near my mum's (we're seeing her this weekend) to see if they can fit us in this weekend.

Takethatlady that really is shocking - what a terrible service
I agree with kara - get onto the GP and get them onto it.

Thank you ladies! Now I've woken up properly and poked my boobs a bit and had a bit of a retch I feel a bit better :)

I woke up at about 4am (as bloody usual) and all these thoughts were going round my head, but it was just silly middle-of-the-night out-of-perspective type stuff.

Just called the GP and the receptionist there said that the midwife (there's just one attached to my surgery) is having a 'phased return' to work (I'm not sure if she has been ill, or perhaps had a baby herself) so she's difficult to get hold of, and that they are very angry with the pager service as it isn't working properly at all. She just said if it's urgent I should book in to see the GP but otherwise keep trying.

Got my scan in 2 weeks so I'll see if I can hold out until then! But my fingers are hovering dangerously close to the 'take payment' button on the website of the private scanners ... :)

Darl, sit tight. (Easyier said than achieved.)

I hope this doesnt appear insensitive, but if something was wrong-surely there would be other symptoms?

I know that scan will give you piece of mind- which is priceless. But sit tight. It really is quite good on here for support-so long as things arent taken the wrong way.

To be honest-I wish I could just be locked up in a padded, white cell for 9 months and wrapped in cotton wool- its gonna be full of worry-but you just need that re-assurance from the med. profession. Why dont you ask to speak to GP as appt. Im doing that today about my vominting. Im not sure how much is too much.

Got a scan booked for Saturday....

Yep, deepblue you're right. It's just nice to come on here in those worrying moments and get it out of my system. If I rung my mum every time I had a sudden twinge of panic she'd definitely put me in that padded cell!

OOh kara good luck for your scan :)

Morning all!

takethat - I really wouldn't do a scan this early and you have one in 2 weeks time (which I know seems an age away!). I waited until 9 wks to have a private as at that point if there is a heartbeat it's a 1-2% chance of miscarriage. If you can hang out until 10wks it's less than 1%! My boobs also didn't hurt a bit yesterday and I've felt fine the past few days . . . I guess at some point we have to stop feeling rubbish! All the way through my 2 healthy pregnancies I had no symptoms so trying not to worry about it!

bananarama - some mw's are rubbish! Look around yourself and see where you fancy. As has been said, you can change your mind throughout pregnancy. I ended up giving birth at a hospital I wasn't even registered to last time as I changed my mind so late . This time hoping for a home birth, only reason I didn't last time was the hideous pink woodchip all over our house (we had just moved in) and thought it might be off putting!

Yellowtomato - thinking of you and your scan this morning, infact I think you've have it already!

mainly - hope your scan goes well today :)

Happy thursday!

Bad news from me. There was no heartbeat. ERPC booked for tomorrow

It has been great chatting to you all, I really wish you all happy and healthy continued pregnancies.

yellowtomato I am so so sorry - you must be devastated. take care of yourself. :(

yellowtomato I too am so sorry. Words cannot really say how sad I feel for you and infact everyone that has recently had bad news :(

OH darling. I am so sorry...no other words.

Oh my goodness yellowtomato, that's so so sad. Take care.

yellowtomato really sorry to hear that. Had you had any bleeding or was it a complete shock? Either way so sorry for your loss, take care. xx

yellowtomato - :( So sad for you. Give yourself time to grieve and be extra kind to yourself. Remember that there's no time limit on 'getting back' to normal. I found it hardest when I got my first period after my erpc, 5 weeks later. Big hugs and a virtual shoulder to cry on. I don't know how to post a link but there is thread under the miscarriage section where too many of the june girls are - I think it's called 'I don't know what to do. Pls help' - Beesok started it. You might find it helpful. Take care of you.

o yellowtomato too sad :-( I hope you have someone to spoil you and hold your hand over the next few days/weeks/months. (((hugs)))

So shocked and sorry Yellowtomato, thinking of you x

Oh no yellowtomato - so sorry to hear this.
Take it easy and give yourself time x

Haven't been on for a while and am so sorry to read of your loss yellowtomatoes . I don't know what else to say except take care of yourself and thinking of you today xx

Sorry - yellowtomato not yellowtomatoes (how did my brain allow me to write that when I know it's yellowtomato?)

Really really really sorry to hear that yellowtomato. I hope you get lots of love and care from your OH