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Jue in June - continuation of "Due June 2011? please join me!!!" thread

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wonnaywombat · 21/10/2010 10:39

Hi all - we've very nearly exhausted the 1,000 post limit on our previous thread so here is the new one.

Looking forward to continuing to share the ups, downs, symptoms, queries, worries and joy (fingers tightly crossed!)

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Beesok · 01/11/2010 15:57

Thanks everyone for all your kind words. I am on a roller coaster feel awful one moment but trying to stay positive and to see some good in this - the fact that it's common and the doctor assured me that there was absolutely nothing I did to cause this but at least I know I can conceive and hopefully we'll try again as soon as we can.

I am having mild cramps but no bleeding yet and I guess it's just hard when you're waiting for that to happen - I just wish it would happen soon and be over so that I can move on. The doctor said I can have an op but she said it's just as OK to wait and she kind of recommended I wait for it to happen naturally.

My hubby came home and we went out for a walk and had lunch, I just couldn't going to work and being surrounded with babies but will try to get my act together tomorrow.

Again thanks for all you support it really means a lot. I am keeping my fingers crossed for all of you!! all the best and hope to be back here in the very near future..

Mummynumber2 · 01/11/2010 16:00

Beesok I'm so sorry to hear that terrible news. I hope you manage to get some space and rest over the next couple of weeks.

Mummynumber2 · 01/11/2010 16:03

Sorry beesok I crossed posts with you. Why don't you take a few days off and take some time for yourself? I'm sure your GP would sign you off.

Sarahmumtobe · 01/11/2010 16:07

Beesok I am so so sorry to hear your news. Take care of yourself and stay strong.

CuppaMouldyBatBallsBrothJanice · 01/11/2010 16:07

Hi Everybody,

I'll be leaving too with Beesok I'm afraid. The bleeding didn't stop and I went for a scan today at 10 weeks, where they found a 7 week embryo with no heartbeat.

I don't think it's sunk in yet - both DP and the sonographer looked more upset than me. It must be such a tough job, it was the third MC she'd scanned today and it was only lunchtime.

I actually feel better than I did before I went for the scan. At least I know now. I'd lost nearly half a stone worrying about the bleeding, but I've just tucked into a tub of Ben & Jerry's!! Just waiting for the emotions to hit - is there a MC support group on here if they do?

Now we've got to tell the parents etc. Not looking forward to telling DP's folks as his sister has just split from her husband of 20 years so they don't need more bad news.

I wish you all the very very best for your pregnancies - I'll be lurking. If anybody wants the stats list to post in a few weeks then send me a private message with your address and I'll post it to you, to save someone having to trawl through 2000 posts!!

broughthimroundtotheidea · 01/11/2010 16:13

bbesok Hugs i suggest wine and chocolate x x

yellowtomato · 01/11/2010 16:15

MouldyBatBalls I'm really sorry to hear your news....it is so awful having to untell people. When i had my m/c I found the miscarriage board on mumsnet to be really helpful and supportive miscarriage

I really wish you all the best and will be thinking of you.

broughthimroundtotheidea · 01/11/2010 16:17

CuppaMouldyBatBallsBrothJanice sorry crossed posts, hugs to you along with beesok good on you reaching for the ice cream. xx

NurseSunshine · 01/11/2010 16:21

Beesok and Janice, so, so sorry for both of you. I know nothing anyone can say can help this but I'm thinking about you and I'm so sorry and so sad for both of you. Please look after yourselves, be as kind as you possibly can to yourselves and make sure your DPs are as well. xxxx

Mummynumber2 · 01/11/2010 16:23

Oh my goodness cuppa I'm so sorry. Can you just get your DP to tell everyone? Make it easy for yourself.

moomin156 · 01/11/2010 16:26

Janice thinking of you. What a sad day it is today with you and beesok it just shows what an unpredictable and delicate roller coaster we are all on. Look after yourselves and am sending you positive vibes for the future. x

neenewps · 01/11/2010 16:32

So sorry to hear your news cuppa x

cep · 01/11/2010 17:27

beesok and cuppa so sorry to hear your news.
Take care of yourselves.

moog - i haven't had any more blood today so i'm feeling a bit more positive, but am a bit nervous about the scan tomorrow. (a bit more now after the bad news today.)

Clench - i told mine straight away that way if i need any time off sick it didn't count. Luckily it meant i didn't have to explain too much about not going in tomorrow.

cep · 01/11/2010 17:30

sorry meant to say hello to motherofsnortpigs.

8rubberduckies no worries - hopefully you won't need to repeat it tomorrow.

broughthimroundtotheidea · 01/11/2010 17:35

I'm now trying to put myself in the mindset that all is not well with mine. It just doesnt feel right, and I will be telling the midwife so on sunday when I book in. This way I am more prepared for it going wrong. What has happened today with beesok and janice as well as Lily Allen just makes it so clear how fragile pregnancy is.

sasamaxx · 01/11/2010 17:42

OMG what a terribly terribly sad day - so so sorry Beesok and Janice Sad Sad Sad

8rubberduckies · 01/11/2010 17:43

I can't stand all the bad news at the moment on this lovely, lovely thread, I feel like we're all getting to know eachother already, and am gutted about your recent losses ladies.

Cuppa, I can't imagine what it's like and so sorry. Beesok IMO it's a good idea to get signed off by your doctor for a while; you need to rest up and take care of yourself, on both a physical and emotional level. I had a week off work when I mc'd and felt I really needed it.

Good luck tomorrow Cep, I will be thinking of you.

Beesok · 01/11/2010 17:43

Sorry to hear you're going through it too cuppa

Cep please don't worry! I really hope your scan will be fine, it will be :)

I emailed my boss and she was very supportive told me not to worry about coming to work so will see how I feel.

Am just trying to stop googling stuff - I am have mild hypothyrodism and was taking my hormone every day. But I just saw that you are not supposed to take it with your antenatal vitamins (because of the iron it may cause the hormone not to be absorbed fully) but no one told me this before! I am trying to not let this get to me but I am angry at my endocrinologist for not mentioning that I have to wait 2-3 hrs at least and he knew I was pregnant the last time I saw him :(
I am seeing him this saturday and will discuss with him it just is really hard to read that - hypothyrodism is linked to miscarriage and I do hope that this didn't happen because I took the meds incorrectly.

sorry for the long post, I'm wondering if anyone knows of a good forum on this on mumsnet

thanks for listening :)

8rubberduckies · 01/11/2010 17:44

Sorry Xposted with you Beesok, glad you've got some time off.

sasamaxx · 01/11/2010 17:44

Thanks so much everyone for all my birthday wishes yesterday - I had a lovely day.
Having a very very very sick day today Sad

Welcome to the group motherofsnortpigs

I'm a bit behind with posts - will try to catch up tonight.

cep · 01/11/2010 17:57

beesok i had a quick search can't see any new or recent posts about hypothyrodism.

I didn't even know about lily allen just had to go and google, how sad. As much as i loved being pregnant before i always hated the fact it came with so many worrys, and so many people always giving you horror stories.

Even the pregnancy book from the midwife gives you statistics which i'm not sure if they're supposed to make you worry more or less? certainly didn't make me worry less.

moomin156 · 01/11/2010 18:04

beesok please try not to blame yourself, the doctor had said you had done nothing wrong. It is a very sad time, but there is usually something wrong with the baby and there is nothing that can be done about that. Take your time to grieve as the next few days are going to be tough. Everyone that knows will completely understand that you need time to heal. Look after yourself and your partner

IssyStark · 01/11/2010 18:32

beesok and cuppa, my heart goes out to you both.

Take as much time off work as necessary (I had two weeks off with my first mc - first week was spent mcing, second week recovering).

And beesok try not to worry too much and don't blame yourself. Miscarriage is frighteningly common and usually the only reason is a one-off, never to be repeated problem with the 'mix'. Easier said than done I know as after each of my mc I would think if only I hadn't done x,y or z but when I'm rational I know that in all of my mc, there was nothing I could have done differently which would ahve affected the outcome.

Take of yourselves, both of you and cleave to your family. And knock back a glass of red if need be.

Humania · 01/11/2010 18:47

oh my goodness what a sad day. so sorry for your losses beesok and cuppa, i'll miss reading your cheery posts here.

beesok i spotted this thread recently not sure if it's any help.

Be kind to yourselves.

Humania · 01/11/2010 18:48

oh my goodness what a sad day. so sorry for your losses beesok and cuppa, i'll miss reading your cheery posts here.

beesok i spotted this thread recently not sure if it's any help.

Be kind to yourselves.

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