April 2011 - back to back sex and other mysteries

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Here we go ladies, a brand new sparkly thread that should see us all into our 2nd trimester

Many thanks for the warm welcomes

I've felt lots of movements this evening, I was sitting in quite a twisted position which is why I think I felt it so much.

Thanks all. Love the way we're all heading towards our 20 week scans (or have just had them). Firefrakkers I second what muffinmouse said - maybe check it's not a clerical error. I had one of those last time whereby they refused to give me a nuchal scan as they had me registered as a singleton rather than a twin pregnancy (for some reason, at that time only multiple pregancies were routinely offered a nuchal scan, which was rather unfair. They've changed it now thankfully). Anyway, it was just an admin error and I had to call up to sort it. You can definately ask for an earlier date. The might moan about it but your're within your rights to ask.

Is everyone finding out what they are having? We're decided not to, same as last time. My husband is very anti finding out and wants a surprise. Me, I think it would secretly help me to know as I had such a shocker last time and was completely thrown by the news when I came round from the general anaesthetic (one of the many reasons why having a GA caesarean is totally crap!). But I can live without knowing and rather like the novelty of not knowing. It's the last surprise in life after all. What is everyone else doing?

Lots of bad aches and pains here too, mainly back and hips. Still not bloomed. I keep telling myself and DH that I'm one good sleep away from blooming, but the bloomin' good sleep has yet to materialise!

We're going for a private scan today as I can't wait another 3 weeks to see if The Blob is ok in there. We shall find out the sex, much as I love surprises I'm a persistent present rattler/feeler and have been known to open Christmas/Birthday presents early because I get so over excited . Since the 12 week scan I've been convinced that it's a boy, I'll fall of the bed/chair thing if it's a girl!

DP really wants to find out the gender when we have the scan on the 18th.

He can't keep a secret and I worry he feels a bit left out as he can't feel the kicks etc so if we're offered the option I think I'll let him have this one. I wanted it to be a surprise but, having looked at the shops briefly, I'm shocked by how much stuff is gender specific so I suppose finding out has its merits.

Bless him, he just wants to be prepared.

We're hoping to find out too.. I'm just too impatient to wait, and I'm not worried about it being a suprise or not at the birth. I think it'll make it more real and certainly help with names. No ideas at the moment!

It's not a clerical error, they don't scan before 22 weeks and DH is at sea then so I asked for earlier, they refused and I'll be 23+3.

Very achey today despite having slept with my new body pillow... It made me terribly hot though so I was kicking off the duvet!

Frakkinup that's annoying they don't scan before 22 weeks and a bit mean they wouldn't make an exception given that your husband is away. The only thing I can suggest (which has probably been suggested before) is paying for a private 20 week anomoly scan. It's not cheap - costs vary from area to area but I think it's around £150 - but it does mean more flexibility on dates as most places offer '20 week' scans from 19 weeks onwards.

I'm getting to grips with my maternity pillow also. I've got one of those 'dreamgenie' ones. So far I've not been dreaming like a genie whilst sleeping on it but we'll see if things improve...

Hmmm, am considering getting a pillow thing. Mr Handsome the cat might be somewhat annoyed though, his favourite position seems to be when he's curled up next t the bump.

frakkinup it's the same for one of my friends, they do the anomaly scan at 23 weeks in her area. Must be very frustrating having to wait the extra weeks :( It did mean that everything was really clear on the scan though, which maybe is something?

Hi everyone...just catching up.

I heard the heartbeats today !! am so happy. Both were strong and clear. Both of them apparently are lying the same way so the are either face to face or back too back...midwife said they were probably having a chat ! I nearly cried !

One little heart beat is faster than the other, I am guessing that is the bigger if the two. I am not worried as she wasnt even remotley concerned. Am thinkin just one of them migt be slightly bigger.
She was LOVELY and gave me loads of reassurance, Like why did i think they would both grow at exactly the same rates etc ... ? felt a bit stupid probably because they are identical. ??

Anyway am delighted. And to top it off My DP is treating me to a few days away and so ill be off here until middle of next week...

Good luck with the 20 weeks scans and everything. x chat soon....

Hello!

Thanks for all those nice words! I'm just about back to normal after tuesdays elation!

We found out we're having a little boy, as we just couldn't wait to know! We never were ones for tradition! I figure, it's not 100% anyway, and we were going to find out sooner or later. And like cyclebump we found there's very little in the way of generic clothing. In some ways, I'm glad we're having a boy, since the girls clothing are so sickeningly pink and the boys clothing's much more fun with dinosaurs and tractors and whatnot. I'm just a bit of a tomboy I suppose!

Kittycatcat - we have been telling people, but I've been saying "we know, do you want to know?!" And everyone except my dad has said they want to know. (how my dad expects to keep it a mystery is beyond me!). Although I haven't told the kids at school, despite their asking. They went through a guessing phase but seem to be over it! I'm secretly quite proud of how mature they're being!

Hi all.

Have added myself to the stats. Not really had much chance to be on since we got the new thread. I don't feel like there's much going on anyway.

We got an angelsounds fetal heart thingy last week. I'm really glad we ordered it as our midwife does not listen to the heartbeat at 16 weeks and our hospital scan department does not have sound on the machines either, so it means that DP is not missing out on everything. I didn't get the transmission gel, but bio oil seems to be working just as well, and it means the bump gets a wee massage at the same time.

It's amazing to be able to listen, especially as this is my first and I'm not clear if what I'm feeling is baby moving or not.

Hope none of you are feeling too rotten.

Morning everyone.

Kitstwins We want to know. I am like Countscout and find all my presents (even my engagement ring, oops!) which i know is naughty but i cant help myself. Luckily DH wants to know too. I must get a cushion. I am using my pillow more for my boobs than my bump!

countscout Enjoy the scan today. Let us know how it goes.

Hippy Awh bless them chatting. How amazing is that. I would have cried. I was so emotional and buzzing after hearing the heartbeat. Have a nice weekend.

Petalouda congrats on your baby son :) How exciting to know. Do you have names? Are you calling it by the name or it's nickname?

MIL asked me if midwife had weighed me. No said I. I told DH he will have to talk to her if she keeps mentioning my weight as it's a sensitive subject for me, and sadly he wasn't very supportive. He is as bad really. He used to nag me re WW and the gym. Tut.

Have nice weekends. I am seeing friends this weekend which will be lovely.

xx

I agree Kittycatcat, weight is a naughty subject to bring up when you're pg IMO.

I still have six days until my 20-week scan and am now getting all excited! Baby was really wriggly while I was on the tube this morning with my sister. We were very disappointed that she couldn't feel it as it was really going for it.

I'm desperate to find out the sex, I figure it's gonna be a surprise, just sooner rather than later roll on next thursday!!!

Like your thinking there stuffed

Hi all,

The scan was amazing. It turns out that my intuition was out of kilter as it's a girl baby! She's developing perfectly, all organs as they should be etc. - the consultant said he'd be very surprised if they found any problems at the 20 week scan. I'm really pleased that we found out as it's lovely being able to refer to her as her rather than "it" or "The Blob." Looking forward to seeing her again in a few weeks time and very impatient to meet her .

Petalouda I know what you mean about the excess of pink clothes for girls, I love the tractor, dinosaur and rocket designs intended for boys, so our girl shall certainly be wearing some "boy" stuff .

I wanted to know during my first pregnancy what we were having and found it. I was convinced it was going to be a girl and was rather surprised at my 20 week scan as there was no doubt it was definately a boy.

It gave me time to get used to the idea and now I have a boy I can't imagine what it would be like to have a girl.

Until recently I was going to find out this time too but have now decided to leave it as a surprise. I'll be very happy if it's a boy as I like the idea of 2 the same and think same sex siblings are closer. Alternatively i'll be just as happy with a girl as it's unknown territory

Hello! And happy friday!

Kitty we do have names, although DH has vetoed my favourite already. His favourite, however, is rubbish, and so I shall race him to the registrar! Wiggler is still known by his "stable name" of 'Timmins' (no idea where that one came from, definitely from DH - see, what does he know about names?!) although (like the cat) is variously also referred to as Wiggler, Wriggler, Belter, Whopper, etc! (to clarify, the cat is known as fatty, chunky, stinky, mental, fluffy, etc. We don't call her wiggler!).

CountScout congratulations on your daughter! Good luck with the less-girly clothes, let me know how you get on. And if you (or anyone) needs fuel for their feminist fire check out www.pinkstinks.co.uk/

I've now been booked in for a glucose tolerance test between xmas and new year (fingers crossed it's not GD), and got another scan in 4 weeks as DH might have been exposed to parvovirus. Had a letter today saying should these things both be ok, I'm cleared to birth at our local mat unit! Woop!

Otherwise, it's the RD&E. (boo)!

Have lovely weekends, all! x

We will defo find out the sex. Got one of each already and have been hanging onto everything for number three. But no moRE ROOM! Excuse for a clear out and NCT sale.

I am getting uncomfortable already. I reckon half of my bump is gas. I seem to play my own orchestra wind section at night.

Oh and spots. Lots and lots. When will I bloom? When will I sleep through???

Is it just me? The huge spotty, trumpeter?

PLUS you would laugh if you saw me shaving my legs. And it's not even half way through. I'll add hairy to the spotty, trumpeting elephrump!

SaorAlba glad to see I'm not the only scottish lassie on here. Was beginning to think no one else up here was pregnant!!! I'm originally from Aberdeen, moved to central belt just over a year ago! I get homesick terribly sometimes!! Plus people have trouble understanding my accent sometimes! I'm only from 150 miles away!!

It's great to see all the 20 week scans coming through! I've got mine on the 1st December and can't wait! I always said I wouldn't find out and people that do just spoil things :o. However the present squeezer and shaker in me wants to know. My mum said she knew i would! But somehow my dad wants to get to April not knowing! That's goign to be hard considering my mum has lar4eady knitted 2 cardigans in white and is waiting to do a "gender specific" one when we know, oh and he's insisting the baby will call him Hercules instead of grandad!

I love Saturdays! Lazy days with rubbishy 80's films on the telly!!

Ohhh I'm so tempted to find out the sex! So is DH....

Anyway we went pram testing today. Firstly I got so (hormonal pregnant woman) stressed with the sales people because they didn't have a LoolaUp on display, then incoukdmt remember the word for carseat, then the Loola they had out didn't have a seat attached, just a bassinet.

Then to add insult to injury DH and I had a huge argument because he wants to spend ?800 on a travel system whereas I could swallow ?535 on a Loola Up plus carseat but think a Mila with carseat is much more practical and ?200 cheaper!

Aaaaaaargh. We can't even buy a pram. What about everything else we need to get? And the BIG parenting decisions?!

Don't worry Frakkin, I think the pram is one of the big parenting decisions . And certainly it's purchase, delivery and set up is sent to test us!

Hello All! I'm due on April the 20th and so glad to have found mumsnet as I've been feeling very lonely and isolated recently.

It's great to read about all your experiences and to see things that I've been experiencing too.

I don't really know any other mums/mums-to-be and this is my first pregnancy. I've been really sick with HG and off work for several months. I feel like my life has been kind of violently turned upside down, it's left me feeling very fragile and weepy (ah hormones).

Does anyone have any tips for staying upbeat? I'm finding it difficult to keep myself from getting depressed sometimes, which makes me feel so guilty as my husband and I have been wanting this for years. I'm trying to keep as busy as I can, distract myself, find little positive/exciting things to do every day etc. It's just so difficult sometimes.

smaych I think how you you're feeling is totally normal. If you've been poorly and feeling wretched I'm not surprised you feel down sometimes. I definitely feel more vulnerable and tearful and I haven't been through what you have!

Also if you've wanted this for a long time and your going through it, it doesn't mean it's any easier. If anything, there are loads of additional emotions to deal with.

Take care of yourself. I've found being weary affects my mood. I've started making myself lie down with a book, and I amaze myself that I just drop off.

The other thing that I have enjoyed is thinking of baby names - the forum can be great fun. And I've started buying little baby things each week. It def cheers me and helps make it feel more real. This is DC3 and I still can't believe it's happening! It can be overwhelming, and I'm supposed to be an old hand. (really not. Just OLD).

Thank you MuffinMouse, that's really reassuring and good to hear :)

I love the idea of buying little baby things each week, I will definitely do that! Such a lovely idea. And baby names! I'm so excited to think about names, as you say it will make it all so much more real. My husband is wary of thinking too much about names before we find out the sex (we're hoping to find out at our next scan on the 3rd December!) but I have just loads of ideas :) I'll check out the baby names forum.

Thanks so much for your encouragement. This really is such a great place, I'm glad I found it.