April 2011 - back to back sex and other mysteries

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Here we go ladies, a brand new sparkly thread that should see us all into our 2nd trimester

Many thanks for the warm welcomes

I've felt lots of movements this evening, I was sitting in quite a twisted position which is why I think I felt it so much.

Hello all, I've added myself to the stats but to recap i'm 32, living in Thetford with my boyfriend and my 2 boys 11(emcs) and 3(elcs). I'm due 18th April and hope to have a vbac at the West Suffolk Hospital.

It's lovely to be on here as I'm not 'out' to any of my family, including my children yet. Hoping to change this once we've had the 2nd scan on the 29th Nov when I'll be 20 weeks exactly. We'll be taking the boys to it so better 'fess up slightly beforehand to the eldest at least!

I've been feeling movements for a little while now which is so reassuring. Last friday saw a MW and heard the heartbeat, lovely. BF was at work so very sad to have missed it. This friday (yesterday) had to see MW again for uti test and said about sad bf and she let me video her doppler-ing me so i could play it for bf later! He cried!!

It would be so lovely to find some local MNs as I've only recently moved here and get a bit lonely in the days. Must try harder!

Hi all! Hope you're all well, not been on for a while but am pleased to say that I'm feeling much better nowadays, with just sickness every few days rather than all day every day!!

Have also been feeling more movements, not quite any kicking but definitely more than a flutter!

Exciting that you've started having scans some of you, and really exciting that some of you know re boy/girl. Our scan is next Tuesday.

Have a great Sunday, off to bed as on nights this weekend.

Hey gormers, so glad to hear the sickness is getting more manageable for you! Mine has been getting better too. Fingers crossed it all keeps getting better :)

Hey all, not much to report so just hovering, scan in 8 days, not finding out sex, like many I open and hunt for presents long before I should have them and it's just not possible for me not to tell the world what we are having so then that leaves 4 and a bit months of waiting when I could still be playing guessing games.

Think we have a good list of names but not telling anyone as there is always someone (my mother) who tells you an awful or really off putting example of the name you thought was cute for example as soon as mum found out she asked names I said we liked Lucas! Perfectly ok name but nooooo, she knew someone who's baby was allergic to formula milk and was violently sick until diagnosed hence 'pukey Lukey'! So that put me off, then Isobel for a girl was met with laughter and a story about a girl she knew from school who always had a water infection and smelt! Hrmm....so now no more sharing with mum lol.

Rambling on here..I came on to say I'm reading a really wonderful book which has lots of good advice and takes ideal baby products that you just can't live without as they are so cute or everyone has one and tells you what you need, what you don't and what to be careful of along with everything from start of pregnancy to the first few months, with real mums tips and funny comments, even a dad's read this bit about support during birth!

The Babymoon Experience by Caroline Deacon 2010.

TIP: Use your library it's free and they have lots of new editions. Also NCT website good unbiased info and not a pampers ad in site!

Keep well and really happy to hear all your exciting news, it's a nice lift in a hectic day!

Totally agree with Salted about using your library but then as i'm employed by one I also have an alterior motive

I havn't been reading up as much this time around but when pg with DS I really enjoyed Becoming a Mother by Kate Mosse (she that wrote Labyrinth) It's not a manual but has interviews with women on their feelings about pregnancy etc. Naturally I borrowed mine from the library but I'll put in the link to Amazon if you want some more info on it.

I also like the more humorous Rough Guides bu Kaz Cooke and Mel Giedroyc's From here to Maternity had me laughing out loud on the bus.

www.amazon.co.uk/Becoming-Mother-Kate-Mosse/dp/184408440X/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1289764482&sr=1-3

www.amazon.co.uk/Here-Maternity-One-Mother-Journey/dp/0091897505/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1289764772&sr=1-1

I'm now 20+1 so at the halfway stage and finally it's scan day tomorrow
I took DH to a wine tasting evening for his birthday last night. I abstained until the very last wine of the evening and then treated myself to a teeny tiny glass of Sauternes. Felt baby wiggling away when I was in bed last night so he obviously enjoyed it

Hi all

I'm not even at the half-way point and had to get DP to do up my boots today because I couldn't reach the zip.

Another non-physical development seems to be inexplicable irritability. Just back from a weekend with the out-laws who I've always got on well with and I spent good chunck of last 48 hours wanting to strangle DP's Ma. Her heinous crimes included NEVER turning the TV off. Yet talking all the way through anything I was interested in watching - which was only Strictly, I have a thing for Matt Baker. - Not being able to eat with her mouth closed. And inisiting on giving me the back story on every soap character in Corrie, Eastenders, Emmerdale and I HATE soaps and have never watched any. The list goes on and I feel a total cow as she's been really good to me. It must be the pregnancy as I'm usually a chilled out person. Will have to just avoid any long visits for next 20 weeks as was practically stuffing my fists in my mouth so I didn't start sniping at her.

Rant over with.

And Lisa McA I'm also an ex-Aberdonian living in central belt, working in Edinburgh. There are a few Scots on here.

Right - off to find out who got booted off of Strictly without a monologue going on in my ear.

Typical like buses! Wait ages for an Aberdonian to turn up ... :o

Hi all! Just popping in to catch up on everyone's news. Got my scan today so will post again with an update and hopefully the sex! 1st got to try to sort out some fraud on my bank account first. Way to dampen an exciting day.

Hi everyone, just back from a week's holiday and skim reading to try to catch up on what's been going on. Hope everyone's well and that all the stresses and niggles are fading. I can recommend a week in the sun, reading and sleeping, for feeling better!

Lucky me. Back at work now though and already feels as thought I was never away. Developed a rather worrying addiction to Magnums while away, which I am going to have to curb now I'm back. I don't normally have a sweet tooth at all and now I am all over chocolate like a demon. Had a four bar Kit Kat on the flight home which lasted all of 10 seconds. Bloke next to me looked quite horrified as I stuffed it in.

I've been feeling really queasy again recently, which is most unfair, but I think I've had a bit of a growth spurt and have almost got a proper bump going on now, can't do up the last pair of pre preggers jeans this morning - held together with a hairband at the moment - so I might have to take the plunge and get some maternity ones.

MuffinMouse I am also suffering with spots. I get these massive ones that are really vile and stay for ages - I have one on my neck at the moment, which is especially sexy.

LOL Frakkinup at your pram experience. I am so daunted by all the choice that I am ignoring the need to get one at all. It's too difficult. Head firmly in the sand. I would like someone else to do all the research for me and then present me with a series of options that I can select from. Presumably if you can get wedding planners you can get baby planners?!

Kittycatcat so sorry to hear your MIL is upsetting you. I would say something to her directly - husbands are rubbish at this sort of thing anyway! Just tell her to stop mentioning your weight because it's upsetting you and it's hard enough being pregnant without someone mentioning your size all the time. Hopefully she'll be so embarrassed that you've had to mention it that she'll shut up.

So exciting that everyone is getting 20 week scans done. Mine is on 6th December so a couple of weeks to go. Not going to find out the sex, we've decided that we'd like the surprise after the main event. I am so curious though....

Right, better get on with deleting all the spam in my inbox - oh and it's nearly lunchtime. Hurray.

Hi Everyone

I've not posted much since joining up, but I'm due 25th april, 17 weeks today. I wanted to say thanks because I've been checking in loads with my anxieties and panics and you ladies always put my mind at rest (we've been trying for four years and all of a sudden, we did it, haven't quite been able to relax since!).

I had my 16 week Midwife appointment today and wanted to add my bit, since I have a little time and hoping someone else will read and take a bit of comfort. So...

I'm having an achy pregnancy so far, it's round ligament pain combined with constipation (Midwife today tells me don;t take Senna - I have been, on the advice of the first MW...) and scarring from a particularly bad pelvic appendix rupture years ago.

Today, I heard the heartbeat - well I kind of did, it was quite blurry but MW assured me it was nice and strong and there - I made the right noises! I have low blood pressure, baby is drinking me dry and the answer is to drink gallons, I'm peeing for England already.....I have slightly elevated platelets at 415 (they worry about anything over 400), anyone else? My iron is through the roof - yay me and thats about it, except for a suspected UTI - pus apparently contaminating sample - yucko.

Urm, I've had 24/7 nausea until last week, touch wood, it's easing now, restless legs which are driving me INSANE, super tiredness (was a certified insommniac before so apart fromt he lack of social life, it's lovely), crazy volumes of discharge - TMI? sorry, and of course the dreaded constipation. I defo have a bump (but also a new double chin...!), but am still just about squeezing into my jeans.

20 week Scan is 7th Dec, so am a little behind some of you and am now going to keep calm and start enjoying myself, hit the shops and try and find some decent threads.

Thanks again for the constant if unknowing re assurance from you Mumsnet regulars, good wishes to you all with your scans x

Hmmmm, after waiting and waiting for my 20-week scan it's now four days away and I'm suddenly having an attack of the jitters. Grrrr, damn these hormones. I've been quite laid back about most things but am suddenly nervous about it all being ok.

I think it's because they call it the 'anomaly scan'. It's clearly the NHS's naming policy that's put the wind up me!

Oh Sarahjinx, sounds like you've been having a time of it! After weeks of pain, constipation, exhaustion etc I'm suddenly feeling better and more energised so hopefully you're on the verge of a surge...

On the good news front, having had unresolved and at times severe, acne since the age of 13 (I'm now 28) I'm suddenly informed I'm glowing by people and my skin's turned a corner and is better than it's been in a long time. Hurrah!

Super exciting about your scans lowra and Cyclebump!

I know what you mean about the name of it being a bit scary. Definitely prefer to think of it as the 20 week scan! Pregnancy is far more anxiety-inducing than I expected it to be, for sure.

I had a question, at my last midwife appointment (16 week appointment) a fortnight ago I had a blood test which I was told is the test that tells you if you have an increased risk of Down Syndrome. Now I'm reading about people who have had a scan, something to do with nuchal? We had a scan at 12 weeks but nothing was mentioned to us at the time about Down Syndrome or other chromosomal problems, the tech who scanned me said that the baby looked fine as far as things they could detect at that stage. Would this have been the nuchal scan thing? And how long until we find out the results of the blood test? This is my first baby and I feel like a bit of a newbie with no clue about anything :)

Nuchal scan is where they measure the amount of fluid at the back of the baby's neck, often known as the nuchal fold. It's not routinely offered and can only be done before a certain point in pregnancy. Your sonographer would probably have mentioned it, but they look for other soft markers like absence of a nasal bone too so if all looked fine it probably was :)

Blood tests should give a relatively accurate idea though and if a problem shows up you should be offered amnio.

Pregnancy is very anxiety inducing...

Thank you very much for the info frakkinup! It certainly is a very anxious time.

I try my best not to worry too much, but sometimes it's hard to push things out of my mind. I'll certainly be very glad when the results of the blood test get to us.

Well it's all excitement round my way because I've been able to feel the baby somersaulting for the last few days (started at 17+3 for definite, although I'd thought I'd felt it once or twice before that I couldn't distinguish it from wind).

Also my bump popped out last week and is quite obvious now (I only told work 2 weeks ago so they're all highly amused that I've become pregnant apparently overnight to them). Confusingly I still seem to be fitting into my trousers, I think because I'm carrying it quite high, but I've got a definite defined quite solid bump, and am wearing a belly band to cover the gap that's appearing between the top of my trousers and the bottom of my tops. I love it!

Still very achey around the hips/groin/pelvis which is not much fun but other than that I've sailed through this far, so can't really complain.

Now I'm just impatiently waiting for my 20 week scan (which is not until 20+6, frustratingly) which is a whole three weeks away.

Just got the results of my blood test in the post - it says the outcome of the test is that there's only a low risk of any of the things they test for, so no further action is needed. I'm feeling pretty relieved! :)

Hello all,

I've just sat and had a good catch up on here. Rushing around like a mad woman has obviously caught up with me and I'm off work with a sore throat and next to no voice so MN seemed a good use of my time.

My 20 week scan is on Saturday (though for me its more like a 21wk scan!) and am starting to get rather excited. Still can't decide whether we'll find out the flavor (though in my head I keep thinking it's blue flavor) I don't want everyone to know in advance to avoid an avalanche of gender specific stuff but DH has been very honest and said couldn't keep quite if we knew

After the scan we're off pram testing, after much t'internet researching, though typically there is no one place that sells all 4 I want to look at. Grrr

The only other updates I have are that on Saturday I ended up at the Emergency Drs with a suspected kidney infection, was all clear and the medical opinion was "Well, the baby has probably just shoved your guts up under your ribs to make room, it'll hurt for a bit, then stop...hopefully" Given the way this one is kicking it isn't unbelievable, which leads me to last nights development of actually being able to see my tummy move as baby kicked! Was awesome though a bit freaky!

After that epic update I'm going to go find something else to do...maybe find some more trousers as I'm down to 1 pair jeans and 1 pair dungarees that actually fit, my bum seems to be expanding along with the bump

Hi Smaych much like you I am suffering with HG and have been off work since September. I am now at the stage where I can be around people who have eaten and I am no longer using pound shop washing powder (didn't smell - couldn't bear the smell of clean washing). So hopefully it is lifting.

I found it peaks at around tea time and the only way to get through it is to occupy myself - so I've been out visiting, or inviting people round. Apart from that I have no good advice - I'm in tears most evenings because I feel so helpless and useless - which is not like me at all.

Our 20wk scan is just over two weeks away, I'm so excited, and of those who have had theirs. We will be finding out - we have one of each already, so it means we can sort out the bits we won't need and ebay them on - as this is definately our last.

On the pram issue - we're going for an icandy apple. I had one for DS who is 3 and it ticked all our boxes, so we're sticking with what we know. Had many others over the years so anyone who needs help just yell!

Are you all feeling movements? I'm not much.

Loulou, pram expert, any opinions on the Loola?! Particularly the Up version.

Is a travel system worth it if you won't be going for long walks with the pram? We drive everywhere here and max would be 1hr shopping trip or into sling so I was thinking the Mila stroller which you can attach a carseat to would be more practical.

Have been catching up as I haven't been on here for a while.

I just had my 16 week check and heard the baby's hb - hurrah

Know what you mean about the 20 week scan cyclebump - I've got mine on Monday and am already feeling a bit nervous about it. Though even if they do find potential problems, a lot of things can be fixed so I am really trying to be more relaxed about it!

Best of luck with your and everyone else's who are coming up :)

Not even thinking about prams etc yet!! All feels a bit unreal still at the moment but maybe that will change after the next scan!

Good luck for those with scans this week. Lowra how did you get on today? Mine is on Friday (I'm 20 weeks tomorrow) and I'm very apprehensive - it will either be crap or good news on the placenta and I feel a bit sick of it all. Still, at least the wait is nearly over.

As for prams, I'm going to some babylist company in a couple of weeks to get all the stuff that I foolishly chucked out/passed on after the girls were born - convinced they were my last babies! And, having been totally limited with twin prams and now with ALL THE PRAMS IN THE WORLD to choose from I'm still probably going for a Mountain Buggy, albeit a single one this time. Oh my God, the thrill of being able to push a pram through a doorway!!

Anyone glowing yet? I look crap - bright red face the whole time and strange, itchy skin. I imagine it's the oestrogen overload as apparently this can give you itchy skin.

OOh I'm also really itchy, went through the same thing at about 14 weeks, then it went, now it's back, up my nose, between fingers and that bit between your shoulders you just can't get at!

I have been told I'm glowing a couple of times but I don't believe it....

Have rather fallen in love with the iCandy Cherry pram-wise. This is DC1, we don't have a car (I can't drive) and we're in London. The cherry looks nice and light, small enough to get on and off the bus easily, has a decent sized shopping baskety thing and I like the pram attachment.

Is pricey though so am making sad faces at DP when talking about other ones...

lol cyclebump can you find a second hand one if they're very expensive? If not it's probably the purchase you'll most use so definitely needs to be right - I used to live in N London and manoeuvring a pushchair can potentially be a nightmare so definitely a good reason to get the one you want :) Tell DP we think it's essential :)

I've been told I'm glowing.. but I suspect that is down to falling asleep early every night and not drinking!! I certainly don't feel very glowy!

What other prams are people getting? (you may detect a cunning plan to just copy someone else as I am so confused by them!) My pregnant friend bought her 9 in 1 system at the weekend and am totally bamboozled by what the 9 things are! Oh my goodness, so much to learn