April 2011 - back to back sex and other mysteries

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Here we go ladies, a brand new sparkly thread that should see us all into our 2nd trimester

Many thanks for the warm welcomes

I've felt lots of movements this evening, I was sitting in quite a twisted position which is why I think I felt it so much.

I'mwiyh you Iliketomoveit i'll be 16 weeks on Thursday.scan not til 14th dec. Got the midwife in the morning.

Baby has started proper booting of my innards. Have felt wriggling for a while but it now feels like I'm being flicked from the inside.

DP is captain of a local amateur rugby team so is thrilled.

Just in from the midwife. Mine wasnt there so didnt get to meet her, but this one was nice enough. Kitten is a wriggler apparently. Took ages to get the hearbeat, and keep it, cos it kept moving. But all is well and i am beaming today :)

Am so jealous of you lot with your 20 weeks scans. I have to wait until 23 weeks :( That's 6 weeks away!

I don't understand it tbh as surely the scan is for anomalies so the sooner the better? Heaven forbid anything were wrong and I don't know what we'd do in that situation but if things can be identified from 20 weeks why wait longer? I'm technically underweight and the only reason I can find for delayed scans is high BMI.

I don't have another ob/gyn appointment for another 3 weeks either...

23 weeks?! You must be furious!

I'm a bit peeved that instead of bang on 20 weeks I have to wait until I'm 20+3

I have to wait until 21+5 for my "20wk" scan too. No idea why some trusts book them for 20 weeks and some make you wait until 22/23 weeks. Do you think there's any reason?

Am not NHS so apparently 22 weeks is standard and when I'm 22 weeks it's resit week at uni so I cannot, cannot, cannot have the time off. Plus DH is at sea. I asked if it could be done at 20 week, could have done 20+6 if they'd wanted as DH is still around and it's the end of term but that wasn't allowed. So now I have to wait until the week just before Christmas

I'm terrified something's going to be wrong and it will be the worst Christmas ever. I so wanted to be able to tell people as well and put it in the Christmas cards which need to be sent by the end of the first week of December when I'm 20 weeks at the latest too...

It's just one extra stress. Fingers crossed all is fine but I understand your worries. Any delay is stressful. We ended up booking a private dating scan because my hospital resolutely refused to believe I could be more than five weeks pregnant and couldn't book me in for aaaages, by which time I knew I'd have missed the early tests for Down's. I was in fact 10+3.

Everything was fine and I needn't have been so stressed but I was hysterical about it!

That's shocking! Why wouldn't they believe you were more than 5 weeks?

I think they should always err on the side of caution, especially with the nuchal translucency test having such a narrow window. We booked our scan in a tearing hurry too, although I got the dates slightly wrong due to have a 3 week gap before ovulation so was only 11 weeks and stressing that I was 12...

My periods are massively irregular but they asked whenabouts in the month it should have been (it was September, I hadn't had one since February) and took it from the previous month. CRAZY.

We'd looked at my symptoms and, ahem, likely conception opportunities and it turned out we were bang on. Ha.

Again though, everything was fine, it was just unnecessarily stressful.

Is anyone else aching massively? At 17 wks today I have really achey hips/backs/buttocks/pelvis. The pain seems to shift around, and it's not agony but it's definitely uncomfortable. I know all the books say to expect twinges and a few aches, but I'm not sure if this is normal or not? Anyone?

I think there are lots of variations of normal ecuse, and what you're experiencing is normal imo.

When pg you produce a hormone called relaxin which means you become more flexible - which isn't always good as it means you can over do it and do yourself a mischief, but it does mean you can get into wicked yoga poses

I've also found that aches and pains seem to come and go over the pregnancy, so just because you're aching now it doesn't mean you will for the whole pregnancy.

A good habit to get into is to keep your knees close together when you stand up or when you're getting out of the car and bed.

I feel like a whingey heavily pg woman today. Someone recently mentioned about their ms coming back, and mine seems to have as well . I had a vomitting fit on an empty stomach this morning and I thought my stomach muscles were going to burst out of my stomach, and they're still sore now.

This is only baby number 3, how do people have more than that? Or maybe it's just my body that's a bit of a wreck after two

I had a bout of nausea on Saturday but it seems to have settled again now thank god. My hips and lower back give me jip regularly and I can't walk around for too long or I regret it :( can't believe I'm only 19 weeks and already waddling around like I was at the end with DS.....trying not to think about the next few months. I can't get my head around how different this pregnancy is from the last one...I think someone decided I didn't have enough symptoms last time so has sent every single one this time

Hello All!

firefrakkers I can't understand why they would delay the anomaly scan, don't they say 20wks for a particular reason?

When they were talking about booking mine, they seemed in a rush to get me in before 21 weeks.

And massive sympathy for you, cyclebump, why do these medical types think we're all clueless about our own bodies?

So, now, being the March-due imposter that I am, can I gush about the scan I had this morning?

Well, I'm going to anyway! Look away now if you don't give a hoot! I won't mind, honest!

I had my scan this morning at 20+4. It was one of the most fantastic things I've ever experienced! We're now at a new hospital, since the first scan, and this one had a screen at the foot of the bed so I could see everything. It was AMAZING! The sonographer clocked that we were sciency types and gave us the full guided tour. Showing us brain hemispheres, heart chambers, we all had a good laugh at the poor blighter's Massive nose (well, we'd expected that with our honkers). We saw kidneys, the stomach (full of amniotic fluid), the cord and the doppler of the blood flowing through it. All the measurements were good. And we found out the sex!

Only one slight issue in that I've had glucose in my urine again, so I've got to have a glucose tolerance test in a few weeks. But I don't mind that.

So, gush-fest over! Thanks for humouring me! I hope everyone has such an amazing experience as we've had. It really is worth the wait! x

petalouda sounds amazing, is it really that detailed?????? Am quite excited now. I feel a bit bad with all of you having to wait weeks between scans.

Funny but I too was sick all weekend this weekend, Saturday was really sick for no reason at all it seemed. had a headache all day and then of course come Monday, back at work feel totally fine !

Have a good evening ladies. Will be back with my post tomorrow and will let you know how everything is. Im in fighting mode at the moment so look out docs !!

Hello all,

Good to see we're all getting towards the half way through phase. On the one hand it feels like it's going so slooooooooowly but on the other it doesn't seem that long ago that I was logging on and droning about being 8 weeks.

My 20 week scan is a week on Friday, at which point I'll be 20+2. I've got a bit of a shadow hanging over me actually as I've been flagged with potential praevia and accreta. (I had placenta praevia last time with the twins and had a full on shocker of a time). Nothing is certain but the placenta looks to be low and anterior which throws me into the risk category of accreta, which is a nightmare (note to self: don't google). The good news is that I'm seeing a specialist sonographer whose field of expertise is placenta issues so hopefully she'll be able to give me a clear message (this is why my scan is a few days later as she only works certain days). As soon as I see her I'm heading off to see my consultant to celebrate/sob on his shoulder.

So I'm a bit glum and not really enjoying this stage at all as it's pressing down on me a bit. Last time was so horrific and I just don't feel I have the strength to go through all that crap again (and then some). What will be, will be I guess. I've just got to twiddle my thumbs until next Friday and hope it goes quickly.

WOW Petalouda that sounds incredible. Are you keeping the sex a secret? All my mates were tryin to guess the sex based on the heart rate yest :)

Kitstwins Hugs. Fingers crossed for you xx

Ooh, I hope all is well Kitstwins.

My scan's not til the 18th (I'll be 20+) but am already excited! DP desperately wants to know gender so I think we'll probably find out. I was hoping for a surprise but, having had a peek at baby things on the weekend was shocked by how little is unisex!

Plus DP can NEVER keep secrets and is oh so excited about finding out that I think I'll let him have this one. He was disappointed about not being able to feel the kicking and sometimes I think he feels a bit left out.

Petal - yey for your scan :)

Knew we must be coming up to them starting but hadn't checked dates on other thread.

Who's next?

I think I'll be 19 + something at mine, sooner the better i say :)

Your scan sounds amazing Petalouda Congratulations!
Kitstwins hope all is well at yours.
I have my 12 week scan this saturday when I'll be 12+2. In some ways I can't wait but also feel scared of something being wrong and getting bad news. Since a mmc at my 12 week scan earlier this year I seem to anticipate the worst case scenario prior to any scan or midwife appointment .
Still not decided whether to find out the sex or not on saturday so think we'll be making up our minds on the day.
Good luck to anyone else having scans in the next week or so.

I've never had a mc and even I was scared about my first scan. I reckon it's normal to be nervous, even more so if you've had a bad experience in the past. Good luck Poodle, hopefully all will be fine xx

hey ladies havent posted in a week or so. so thought id just drop a message.
PETALOUDA congratulations on your scan, mines in 1 weeks and 6 days, i cant wait.
had my 16 weeks appointment on the 3rd, and tbh i really wasnt ammused, it seems when i ask questions they just dont listen. with ds i had a terrible birth, lost over 2 litres of blood they could never explain what the cause was so that makes me feel worse about this birth, and then when ds was 4 weeks old i heamorrhaged again to find out that i had membranes left in me which had infected my womb. and when i said to mw im so scared i really dont want to give birth all she could say was if it happens they will deal with it. but that has just made me feel worse im petrified.
had to start physio on monday too, as i have pubis dysfunction syndrome (pelvic girdle pain) its a right nightmare and agony cant even get out of bed for the pain somedays, have to roll on to the floor whilst screaming.
sorry about the big long rant

Beckie90 that sounds awful - both the lack of support over your fears about the birth and the pelvic girdle pain. I don't really have any suggestions or knowledge of either but am thinking of you and hope the pain improves with the physio as much as it can. Maybe try speaking to a more sympathetic midwife at some point about your birth fears.

and thanks Cyclebump. I know everything will probably be fine - I just need to start believing it. Will update at the weekend

ecuse def normal to be aching. I am too. I get up feeling worse sometimes than when I went to bed!

Anybody particularly flexible please be careful. I am naturally 'hyperflexible' apparently, and had to see a cons rheumatologist after my first because of lots of ligament problems after pg. Not in my pelvis surprisingly as much as arms, wrists, other joints. So whatever you do, take care of yourself and def don't overdo it - or the yoga poses. Seven years on I still regret doing just that! Sorry to rant.

firefrakkers could you ask for any cancellations for your scan? Point out that you are concerned that they won't be picking up any anomolies early enough. (It'll probably be just fine though). Don't see why they are making you wait that long. I'd check it's not a clerical error with your dates.

stuffedmk I'm there with you. I don't know whether it's because this is DC3, but I feel rotten and weary all the time. Where's the second trimester energy boost?? And I've started getting migraines this pg.

OK Moan over. Thanks