May 2011 - Bring on the 2nd Trimester!

[MummyWilliams]

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's A-line loopy, strapless and corsetted to the waist then wide skirt, material is gathered/pleated across the waist. Was picked to show off my hour glass figure which is rapidly disappearing :( hoping the tailor will be able to do something to accomodate the bump... I was hoping to go fitted and proud but family think it should be discreet at the wedding so h'll probably end up in a tent :(

Glowing?!!! No, make-up, to try & cover up how washed out I look! Thanks for your positive thoughts on that though!

Re scans/blood tests at 16 weeks - it's really concerning me as my doctor at the first appointment said to have things done at 8 weeks, but the first scan/blood test is 12+6 - marvelous! Not much faith in the NHS... 16 weeks is a horribly long time southpacificfish to wait, but the stats are excellent if your nuchal is fine.

And I agree - wearing my hubby's warm fleecy jumper already, yum, yum.

Anyone tried braces ?

cowboylover - you will feel better soon!

Tinwe Just read this and have got to say you will be fine!

My great mate who is due this week got married in the end of August and her dress sounds very similar to yours and with a good hoop underskirt and a dressmaker for alterations I can honestly say she looked amazing, not at all tent like and you had to look from the side and try and see the bump before you could and in all the pics I cant even notice it. You will look gorgeous and dont forget comfy shoes as weddings are a long day on your feet at the best of times. I ended up in flip flops and she had her crocs on under the dress!

Really am going to sleep now x

The weekend is here hope it's good for everyone.

I'm just up the road from you in Luton! Did you have your first baby at the L&D? We might end up on the maternity ward at the same time!

Desperately need more clothes - have people found it easy to get maternity gear in charity shops?

Welcome, Pistachio! Fingers crossed for your scan - we've got a few coming up in the next two weeks.

Loopy - I'm really not sure what to say. Sounds like you don't want the early tests for Downs, so if you and DH are of the same mind then don't worry about that. I suppose you need to look at what the other tests are for and what the implications would be if the baby had any of those conditions - my tests are a couple of weeks away and I haven't swotted up on them yet. I suspect pistachio is right, that the anomaly scan might show up any serious abnormalities?

A friend of mine decided to have NO screening at all in her first pregnancy - no scans or anything - and then an unassisted birth! Everything was fine, but I can't help feeling that was a bit bonkers.

Loopy, I am also 5'8" and a size 14 :)
I found H&M maternity trousers really useful in the third trimester, when my other trousers were falling down, but I didn't try their jeans.

Hi all,
Welcome, Pistachio, glad all seems to be going well for you now.
Interesting to read all your views re: tests. I am just "assuming" it will all be fine, but am going to do the standard tests, I would like a little reassurance if possible re: downs as I am 37.
Just got back from a pretty unsuccessful maternity shopping trip... damn, I miss Topshop and H&M! I think I might order some stuff online and get MIL to post it over. ASOS pretty good too.
In fact I think I might waste an hour now doing a virtual shop to cheer me up!
Hope you are all having good weekends.

Loopy you're probably right. It's possible to have an earlier scan and various bloods, plus the CVS. I don't know what he meant. It was a doc not mf or O&G.

Was amused/sympathetic bout the weight thing. I tried everything to lose weight, so I thought. It was the trigger of the doc saying 'you really HAVE got A LOT heavier', plus wedding dress to get into, that made me do the Tesco diet - really good. I lost nearly 2 stone in 6 months and enjoyed it.

Re screening: I have been thinking that there's nothing I would do if I found it it was high risk, or worse, but I think I would rather know and be prepared. I would worry far more if I hadn't had the tests done. It really is a conundrum though, and I'm sure if the time comes, we'll all make the best decision, armed with the right information.

Hi, Pistachio!

The tests are confusing and wih my Alpha1 I get the feeling with some of the Docs they just want to do everything just in case or to give them a clue (not during pregnancy just everything and normal life) so I am glad now to have a great consultant who doesntpush me into anything.

We have decided to have the Downs test ect but also so we may be forewarned as I know it wont make a change to our decision as like you said they can not garantee anything either way. Not sure if that sounds like I have got my head in the sand or anything

morning all

piastacio- nice to meet u :) im not in mat clothes yet i have bought sum, but all my normal clothes and jeans still fit except my skinny jeans, i wore my normal skinny jeans up untill about 18-20 weeks last time but i was skinnier that time round and also i do feel like i am getting bigger quicker this time round and i feel a really bloated this week :(

loopy- problem is i am only 5ft 1 so 12 stone is massive for my height lol, in first pregnancy i started at a size 8 this one im starting at a size 10 never did manage to quite shift the mum tum, also never really had the motivation as knew i was going to have another one, think my fave bit of pregnancy is about 5-6 months where u look pregant rather than fat but u r not massive and bloated like u r at end. AS for screening i have never been offered an nuchal scan but i did have the blood tests last time not sure wot i wud do if i was high risk as i havnt tought about it yet, but i think i wud prefer to prepare myself b4 the birth if there was a high risk of any problems

looby- i have never looked in charity shops for clothes do look on ebay tho

tinwe- i am also not skilled enuf to do my own clothes going to get someone else to do it for me :)

Welcome to Pistachio!

no I gave birth in the midwife unit at Watford last time and this time I'm hoping for a home birth, so unlikely we'd end up on the same ward I'm afraid - shame, would be fun to identify a fellow MNer on the ward!

loopy, it's a very tricky one. I've always opted for all the tests, but that's because I've been banking on all being ok and being reassured by the results - luckily, so far, that's been the case. I can see why you might not - a friend of mine has declined anything other than the basic 12 and 20 week scans. I think I would take the view that it's better to be forewarned if possible, so you can prepare yourselves and the children for any problems picked up, but that's an entirely personal view.

Seconding the request to tinwe for a link to the dress!

Hi long-lost lovely ladies on our May thread (our NEW may thead at that!). Sorry I have been silent for 2 weeks - I haven't had a second to come on MN since starting a new job (after 4 months off sick) which has taken up all my time and left me too tired to get online at night.

How are we all??? It's going to take me an absolute age to go through everything Ive missed in the last fortnight so forgive me for now for not referring to individual pieces of news or new members.

I had my dating scan last Monday. It was wonderful - v emotional. We saw him/her sucking it's thumb, waving and got a lovely photo showing its little turned-up nose and smiley face. I have an agreed due date of 26th April. Which means that I'm a month out from some of you guys. I dont know what to do, as I feel close to you all and we've been through lots together, but I've started wondering if I should maybe join the April thread as that is my due month and I'd perhaps be more at the same stage with some of the april members. I don't want that to sound offensive though, or hurtful to any of you lovely lot. I just think that if I joined a group which is due at the same time or a bit before, it might give me more idea of what to expect (ie being the 'youngest in the year' who can learn from the older kids, rather than the 'oldest'. Does that make any sense or am I rambling afte too many prawn crackers/x-factor?

Anyway, let me know what you think. I hope you're all really well.

Thanks for setting up the new thread by the way - it's fab.
xxxxxxx

Hello all!

Welcome Pistachio!

Lifescomplicated - great to hear from you again. I'd love for you to stay with us but can completely understand you wanting to share the experience with others at the same stage as you.

Tinwe - third hand raised to see a link to your dress!

Scans - oooh, it's a tricky one. We went for the triple test after having the nuchal and the triple pushed up the odds of Downs from 1:1100 to 1:460 (ish). It wasn't sufficient to warrant amnio, which our obstetrician only offers if risk is more than 1:200, so I was just left fretting about stats. I have a friend whose Downs baby was identified through nuchal screening followed by amnio to confirm and she elected for a termination, the weeks of waiting were very traumatic but a year later she gave birth to a beautiful baby boy. On the other hand my cousin was given odds of something like 1:4 of Downs and gave birth to a baby without Downs so it is hard to tell AND as mentioned before not everything shows up on the scans/screening.

I'm 37 and will be taking the tests offered because as you say better to be forewarned and personally I found the scans really reassurring, DH's 2nd daughter had learning disabilities and this is a really important factor in our decision making. We are very much of a 'get as much info as poss before even having to consider the situation' mindset. At the moment we don't know anything so we have nothing to worry about!

Best of luck with everyone's decision making... it's not easy.

Pistachio I'm still in normal clothes. Went shopping for new shorts about 6weeks after DS was born, then continued to lose my tummy and regretted buying the bigger size (never made it back into my skinny jeans though)... NOW I'm delighted as I just loosen my belts and not worry about it! Initially DH stated very clearly that we would only have 1 baby but he changed his mind and so the minor guilt I had about spending $$$ on some lovely maternity trousers only 3 weeks before DS was born has evaporated as they get a 2nd airing (well 3rd as they were lent to a friend recently). Living in t-shirts and shorts means less clothes shopping generally and as I don't have to worry about looking smart for work (SAHM) my wardrobe is a pretty scanky collection of sun bleached, moth eaten, baggy tops, most of which will be burned before we return to civiisation!

Good morning all!

Before I go any further, here's the link to my dress which you requested - thanks ladies for the interest THE dress ... My dress is in a very pale ivory though, not gold :o Thanks Cowboylover for the reassurance too. loopy first thing mum said (after a few choice words) was that i'd need a bigger bouquet! I quite like the idea of challenging DP's Catholic family's views rather than hiding my bump away but don't want any tears or fighting on the day! To be fair though when the news broke DP's parents took it better than mum who just panicked about the wedding. My first fitting is just with the shop lady on 6th November to see if it will go anywhere near me- she didn't sound very impressed when she heard my good news! Have just left the shoes issue for now as I have no idea how I'll be by then. Since I'm 5' 81/2" I'm not too worried about heels, might even go barefoot except for photos which might be outdoors if the weather's clear. Enough wedding talk, hope haven't hijacked thread too much.

Re tests, I wish I could offer advice/ an opinion but I'm torn myself to be honest. I know my mum was very high risk with me and even went through 2 high risk amniotic centesis (without scan as wasn't available at the time) and it came out inconclusive! Will prob go with what DP wants.

loopy I'm having trouble sleeping too! Mainly vivid dreams so I wake up lots in the night and am tired in the morning. I normally sleep like a log so it's hitting me hard - much sympathy loopy Any tips ladies?

Hi pistachio! My scan's on Wednesday too! Will b thinking of you :)

qwerty I've now had three unsuccessful shopping trips in different towns and have given up on buying from the stores, have decided to go on eBay and online.

looby I normally love charity shop shopping normally but have been sadly disappointed with the maternity choices - not found any yet to be honest!

Tinwe Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful. I'm sure the dress maker will make it fit for you. And bring on the wedding details... love to hear about your plans!

Tinwe - that's strange - I wore Maggie Sottero (Celeste) for my wedding because when I tried dresses on it was the only one that flattered my overly large belly & gave me a waist. You'll look gorgeous and they're such beautiful dresses, as well as being flexible in the fitting. No-one saw my shoes at all. I had more than one pair to choose from as the underskirt can be made fuller if wearing lower heals.

Not wearing maternity clothes yet - too nervous to go and buy them until after the scan. But really feeling my waist-band today in my trackie bottoms, eek!

Thanks for all your reassurances re the scan. I guess things will just happen the way they're meant to, just like the Olden Days!

Afternoon ladies!

I've not been posting for the last few weeks as I've been feeling better & have been trying to catch up with all the stuff I should have been doing while I was lying in bed, feeling sick. :) It was going well until the nausea returned this morning.

All is still well as far as I know. I'm another one with a scan on Wednesday. Hope it goes well for all of us, and anyone else who has a scan this week.

I've caved & got one pair of maternity trousers out. My other clothes still sort of fit but make it VERY obvious that I'm pregnant so I've been wearing a lot of pashminas to try to hide it. It'll be a relief when I finally get to come clean at the end of the week! I'm now on a quest for some nice maternity jumper/cardigan type garments. DiddyDragon was a September baby so it wasn't an issue last time round. If anyone finds any nice ones, please let me know!