May 2011 - Bring on the 2nd Trimester!

[MummyWilliams]

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oringinally i had planned to just have from end of april (week before c section) until sept but now feel it would be silly not to use as much of full pay maternity as i can. Going back to work early isnt too much of an issue cos baby will be with me anyway (perks of being nursery deputy manager!) lol just dont know if i can find enough to keep me busy for 11 weeks before the birth!

hello all just a quick one b4 i scan the amazon sale will be back later but just wanted to say

loopy- i completely understand how u r feeling i know if at 20 wk scan they say its a girl dp will have a sad not pleased look on his face and it really bothers me, it will also be my fault agen he determines the sex lol, its horrible that they put this pressure on us

bonkers- i agree take all the leave u have in the last trimester u will ennjoy putting your feet up and having lunches out with people, i normally start my mat leave 4 wks b4 due date

loopy Why don't you book for the early scan and go together. As you are feeling the pressure right now, it would be easier on you if he got 'his' answer sooner. Then you won't have to spend all this time waiting and worrying about his reaction. Get the scan done together then he can get over his sulk (if need be). At least then the next 3-4 weeks til your 20 week scan won't be spent worrying, and you will be able to enjoy the 20 week scan. If it turns out to be a pink one, he would be over his sulk and both of you can bond and enjoy the big 20 week scan. But of course it could all go very differently if it is a blue one. Put him out of his misery and book the private one together. Also you don't want a grown man sulking over christmas. Gosh! I hope all that makes sense.

xxx

Hi all. Antibiotices seem to have kicked in so feeling a bit better. Still feel really tired though. Have exams next week, eeek. Working my notice for my current role and start my new role at the end of Dec, and everything feels a bit pressured.
I am still bleeding, not due to see the midwife until 8th December I think. I dont think the doctors or hospital know I'm still bleeding, its been 23 days now; its not heavy, not soaking through pads or anything, but should I call the midwife and ask at what point I should worry?
Not feeling any movements, but I am a larger lady, and my placenta is firmly at the front (as was last time) so I think that absorps some of the blow as cushioning.

Sorry to hear people are still feeling ill, and suffering many trips to the loos. I am also up to the loo several times in the night. V annoying!!

loopy
I can lend your DH a couple of boys for a while and he might be grateful for the pink bump . Boys are a joy but they are exhausting!

I would be happy with either a boy or a girl. Because I have 2 boys everyone assumes I want a girl, but I am genuinely not bothered.

16 weeks now and pretty sure I felt some serious movement this morning - like something was drumming inside!

loopy Glad you like the advice will you tell us too? Seeing midwife at 2.45pm today. I hope everything is ok.

elf I echo what loopy said, its best to tell the midwife, see what she says.

I can 2nd that boys are exhausting. Having one of each I can honestly say that boys are harder work but give lots and lots of affection. Easy as babies, but requiring slightly more frequent feeding. Oh! yes I also remember that when you first take the nappy away, its best to put it back straight away, coz as soon as the air gets to that little 'tinkler' its starts weeing It's when they get to move about, they don't seem to have any fear, you need to watch them like a hawk with 2 sets of eyes.

16+2 today (I think we should all sign off with what week & day we are at)

xxx

Tired and Grumpy Also have weeing issue as think I've become a little allergic to our cat!! Have to stand still and cross legs when I sneeze to avoid weeing! Doing lots of pelvic floor now... I'm afraid it's my tried and tested snort salt water tip that makes colds and allergies more bearable...

Bonkerz Top tip - don't try and find things to keep you busy, enjoy springtime strolls, relaxing and crap on TV, and generally do anything that you enjoy doing on your own at your own pace cos when baby comes along you won't be able to! Good that you can have baby with you at work, that rocks!

Loopy go and find out together, this is clearly bothering you a lot and if you start preparing now (if it's a girl) he will at least be happy enough when you need lots of support just after the birth IYKWIM. And if it's a boy, well, you deserve spoiling for the next 5 months!!

Elf maybe call the MW / docs for reassurance as you've been bleeding for absolutely ages now. Hope all is ok.

I'm sure it's not ideal, but if anyone is having trouble feeling movement, I have noticed that if I curl up in a foetal position myself, LO gets a bit squashed and gives a good healthy leap! Might work for the rest of you too!

Helpful DH took DD out yesterday for a bit and she didn't get her nap so I have a lovely grumpy child today! Nice.

Have also woken up consistently every night for nearly a week at about 4am for an hour. I'm not amused.

Hi! All

Back from Midwife yay! everything is ok phew! Have a massive grin on my face now.

Just had bloods done again for iron level coz I was slightly anaemic at booking in bloods and have been taking my own iron supplement from Tescos. But feeling very breathless so just thought I'd get it checked again, if it gets too low its so hard to get back up to normal again.

Happy! Happy! Happy!

xxx

Hi all....
Loopy and jbells - what do the housewives tales say? Might be a good way to brooch the subject of the baby being a pink one vs a blue one? I still swear by the ring on a string test!

I finally told everyone at work today... they were all very sweet so that is a great relief.

loopy I hoped you would Have you booked a date?

I get the feeling this one is a boy. Heartbeat sounds like a train too! I'm not fussed either way though! When we do find out, I am going to go out and buy something pink/blue, this will be our first purchase.

xxx

ugh, Loopy, I hate that queasy feeling...
hope it improves soon..
I don't have any queasiness anymore, but still can't eat red meat.
My sides are starting to get that s-t-r-e-t-c-h-i-n-g feeling!
Sorry, Mummywilliams didn't see your post earlier (X post) but congrats- glad all is good :)

Still no word from Zinnia...

bonkerz- if you're getting paid for it anyway then take the time off- you'll find things to do I am sure even if it is just shopping!

Elf- Maybe ts worth a call just to make sure they know. Re the placenta, hope this does not sound like a stupid question but how do you know where it is?
They didnt mention anything at the scans so does that just mean its normal. I will have to abmit I dont know what that is!

Loopy- I think have the scan but also a good idea to take DH and get it over with as such, I dont know about you but I dont think I could know without telling him and if I did he would be really annoyed when he found out. To start with I thought DH only wanted a boy buy now we both really dont mind, he said on the weekend it was because he had not found a girls name that he liked but now he has its fine! LOL!

Still feeling super tired today but not as snuffy so I can cope with just getting some more sleep. I have now survived a whole week in my new job role and I am really happy, infact it could not have come at a better time for me as the new manager is being really supportive and I didnt realise how much I missed having someone there for me in RL not just a 'virtual' team miles away!

Also one of the ladies on my new team gave me our 1st baby prezzie today; a very cute little lemon knitted cardigan which nearly made me cry that it was so thoughtful x

Well i managed to speak with my boss today and had a long chat about maternity leave etc, its all been agreed and i have just written a lengthy letter explaining my intentions. Looks like my last official day at work will be Feb 18th! My pay will drop from £130 a week to £117 a week but when you consider i wont be paying travelling costs it will actually mean i will be better off! LOL
So i now have about 10 official working days left or 40 work days which sounds quite scary really! better get cracking and porve my worth so they miss me when i am gone! LOL

Thank you all for welcoming me back :)

I think however, i spoke too soon in my last post about feeling much better as i was sick all night and have not been able to stand up all day. Had to ship poor ds off to his grandparents for the day. So i feel like a guilty parent now too, as Mondays are our day together. Could not have managed though. I agree with all others who say that boys are exhausting (but lovely) but then i don't have anything to compare him too.

Have to say though, dh and i have got a little bet on regarding the sex. He thinks girl (cause i have been so much more ill this time i think), i think another boy. Really not bothered either way but baby's name is residing on it. Dh can choose if its a girl, im choosing if its boy - pretty convinced its another boy though :o.

Bonkerz im very jealous that you are finishing so early but i read you earlier posts so i completely understand why. You will find plenty of things to occupy yourself with. I finish on 1st April as Easter Hols at school but official leaving date is not unitl first day back around 18th.

Sorry to hear others are feeling pretty miserable too. Im just sick of feeling sick now and want to crack on.

17 + 5 today :)

cowboylover - with regards to where the placenta is, they noted it on my paperwork when I had my scan. I dont know if they only note it if it is low down (in which case I think they recheck position later) and at the front as opposed to the back, or if they make a note all the time. With my DD the placenta was at the front as well, so I remember it on my notes then too.

Shall re-ring the midwife tomorrow. Colour wise - its a bit odd, and changes. Sometimes its a dark reddish brown, sometimes it looks purple. I think that because it is mixed with discharge too, it makes the colours paler sometimes. Fingers crossed though, since I made the earlier post, there was none on the tissue paper when I went to the loo earlier.

morning all, scan day today really looking forward to it, but its not till half one so have to keep myself busy till then

elf- did u ring midwife about bloodloss? hope everythings ok

york- sorry to hear your still feeling sick at 17 wks how annoying, thankfully mine subsided around 12 wks, fingers crossed it will go for u soon

Bonkers- u have def done the right thing taking the time off, come feb we will all be very jelous lol

mummyw- glad your midwife went well u must be feeling more reassured as the wks go on now :)

loopy- did u book scan to find out sex?

hope everyones ok, ill update u with any news later

elf hope everything's ok and the midwife was useful if you've rung her.

bonkers good decision! I'm planning to be off work from end January or mid February at the latest, although with a toddler at home, I won't have any trouble filling my days! I second those who say make the most of it - once the baby's here, you will look back fondly at the concept of doing nothing and watching films in the daytime will become the ultimate luxury...

mummyW hurrah hurrah indeed!

Shall we update the stats list with what our "instinct" says we're having before we find out (and then update it once we know)? As pistachio says, it would be fascinating to see how right/wrong we are as a group!

loopy have you booked your scan?