May 2011 - Bring on the 2nd Trimester!

[MummyWilliams]

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sesame, home leave hasn't really been necessary, but is company policy as there have been quite a few miscarriages in staff so we're not required in the office until after 12 week scan and we are happy for our peers to know we are pregnant. I'm an airline pilot but policy also applies to cabin crew.

Good evening! Thank you for all the welcomes. :)

MummyWilliams I hope that your DP's nan is OK.

sesame good luck with telling stepson. I am trying to tell as many people as possible face-to-face, and I'm worried that somebody will post something on my Facebook page before I see some close friends in a couple of weeks.

jbells I'm sending some positive thoughts your way, and hoping that you start feeling better.

Justtrying I remember going for a job interview at an airline years ago and the recruitment place seemed to be entirely staffed by pregnant cabin crew. Trying not to be too at your home leave. I could have really done with some of that a few weeks ago because I was so tired.

Loopymumsy you are the opposite to me - I feel mostly fabulous during the weekend and then utterly awful come Monday morning maybe it has something to do with going to work.

I managed to make a cake this afternoon, and tomorrow is chutney making. We had a first look in our local baby shop this afternoon and had a shock. I'm in France and everything seemed really expensive and not that nice. I think I'm going to have to get my parents to drive over with lots of stuff from the UK. It's going to require some planning ahead I think.

I got my 2011 year planner at work last week. I had a happy few minutes counting when I might be on maternity leave next summer, but that was short-lived when I also worked out that I won't be able to fly back to England for Easter because it falls very late and I will beyond the limit for flying. But it's probably not a good idea to go travelling about post 36 weeks!

Big post - going to watch x-factor now (will miss first 15 mins 'cos DP's watching Grand Designs) and I suspect that there will be either some ice cream or some of this afternoon's cake on the agenda this evening too :o

Hello!!

It sounds like most people are tripping along nicely. All that 3rd trimester loveliness kicking in!

Mummy Williams hope your trip goes well and you get to spend some nice time with DP's dad.

BizzeeBee - double check with the airline re: last travel dates. AirNZ have no 'last travel date' as they term anything less than 3hrs flight time OK as long as you're not actually crowning as you check in, but other airlines have different policies. As for travel post 36 weeks it is entirely up to you and how you feel at the time, last time by 36 weeks I looked like a bus but felt fantastic (as long as there was somewhere to sit down and a loo handy at all times!). Good luck with your chutney making... am in awe of jam and chutney makers!

I should be packing instead of larking around on here... DS and I are off to NZ this afternoon! Blood tests tomorrow and scan on Thursday. DH is staying here and my mum has very important sports day with her students so won't be able to make the scan either. Suggestions please on how to entertain 11mo whilst mummy flat out with gel on her tummy!

Oh, and I double checked the hummous ban... it's a listeria risk, as for all dips nothing to do with chickpeas, tahini or anything else. Hmmm, I'm now in a real dilemma because I can hear it calling to me from NZ supermarket shelves... it wasn't a problem before because it is not available in Fiji but now it will be within reach.

OMG! Told stepson age 14 and many, many tears. Says he feels as if he's being replaced. Much talking later, and he seemed more accepting when I told him that it's not all puke & wailing, but that when he/she smiles at him for the first time, it will melt his heart. He seems fine this morning, so cross fingers...

Had a cute time yesterday - 3 friends/relatives due in the next 6 weeks, so went to buy baby clothes as pressies - how cute are they?!!!! Also went to the charity shops and picked up a few gorgeous bits that look brand new for very little cash.

Bizzi Bee I'm exactly the same. Must be stress-related. Weird. Hopefully it will ease soon... On coming to UK - what about the Eurostar?

Ugh baby clothes. Gave away all baby clothes on the basis we were never going to have any more children . Am trying not to think about it bury head in sand and remember they mainly live in baby gros for first two years-- 6 months at least....

morning all, had a lie in till around half 8 yest as it was DP's turn to get up and this morning DD was kind enuf not to get up till half 7 but poor thing is full of cold so its going to be a fun few days, im sure ill catch it to, least feel a bit better afta some good sleep, my energy levels r so low tho really cant be bothered keeping on top of housework and have ordered so many takeaways as cant be bothered cooking in the evening at all :(

pistacio ilovemydog i also gave away most of DD's things as didnt think i wud be having another one so soon, gave a load to my step sister tho so if its another girl hopefully i will get it passed back but i am keeping my fingers crossed for a boy anway 2 will be plenty and if we have 2 girls i know dp will want to try for a boy further down the line (so fingers crossed)

sesame i think it is a very normal reaction for older children to have i was 10 when my mum told me she was pregnant she took us to mcdonalds as bribary to break the news and me and my younger brother both burst in to tears and changed tables everybody was staring wondering what the evil woman had done to us lol took us a few weeks but we got over it my brother quicker than me, think they worry about all the attention then being on the new baby and not on them. my mum def regreted taking us to a public place to tell us hehe

fiji- i agree with what the others have sed whenever i want to keep DD a bit quiet while im out doing something i always go armed with snacks definately will do the trick

bizeebee- thanks for positive vibes, is there no clothes etc that u can order from the uk and get delivered to france i know play do things like baby bouncers etc or amazon one or the other and i think they deliver free to most countries, play def delivers free to malta so shud be the same to france, how did your cake turn out i intend to make a nice chocolate cake today but wot i plan and what i do r 2 diff thing at the mo

loopy- i have been looking at the netbooks cheapest i can find tho is 220 pound will have to keep looking around

Did battle with Oxford St this afternoon on a quest for maternity basics. Foolish, foolish move.

I think I have now officially died of fatigue. And for all my efforts, I come bearing two pairs of black maternity tights from H&M. Baby's clothes shall wait until the purported energy burst of the 2nd trimester strikes. I'm still waiting...

This evening shall involved Grand Designs and Downton Abbey. Pretty buildings and pretty frocks. It's all I can cope with.

And mental note about the listeria and possible connections to dips of any variety. But at the rate I'm going through my Mediterranean dips it might not be a problem.

LittleMilla I think I saw that one and cried as well, can't believe how much I cry now and I'm really not a crier!!

Toast im hoping the energy rush will come in time for Christmas for me as it's our buisiest time of year by miles in the office and the functions and formals are really mounting up already!! Usually would love it but I'm baised in Cardiff and with events so far in Birmingham, devon and Manchester I better get my car full of snacks and take my own pillow! I hate hotel beds sometimes and be even worse now I think.

I spent Friday shopping with my mum for ideas and so far disappointed with the mainstream shops so I hope to be able to spend some time in a few baby boutiques. Or something in the hope of finding something just a little different but not expensive!!

Saturday I went to visit my friend and her newborn and I loved every bit of it even his little crys so I am really excited for me and DH to be experiencing it for ourselves after feeling so low last week.

Got another scan on tuesday and DH was talking to the bump this morning to get ready for its photo shoot and get it's face in!! I was smiling so much.

We also looked at 40001 baby name book my friend lent us and came up with 2 for each that we both had already liked.

voucher code 25% off Dorothy Perkins: Quote DPVIPE at checkout. Ordered a bunch of maternity clothes with 25% discount and free returns via post or in store, free postage above £75 (which is easy if you plan to send stuff back if it doesn't fit). Go shopping without the hassle girls!

Hi all. I'm back to work tomorrow, but its only a short day as I have my dating scan tomorrow.
Am feeling really nervous as I have been bleeding / spotting since last Saturday night, and it making me panic that its bad news tomorrow.
My sister is going with me as DH cannot get out of work.

Good luck, Iheart. It won't necessarily be bad news at all. Shame your hubby can't be there

Oh, IheartRPatz I will be thinking of you tomorrow, I hope the news is good. Many people have pregnancies like yours and the baby is fine. Stressful tho :(

Toddlers and scans? We took DS to my scan and afterwards he said he had liked the show!!! So sweet..

Have had a horrible few days... fighting with DH and general misery. Seems to be improving now, not the best time to be having relationship issues.

But today was a lovely day, we took a visitor from the UK on a day trip around the Cape Penninsula - saw seals, penguins, baboons and most excitedly - whales! He couldn't believe it :)

A colleague of mine - he passes a lot of work our way - asked me on Friday if I was planning any more children and I was so taken aback (as I was planning to say something after next scan at 13 weeks) that I blabbered on about how I do want to etc etc. It was at a social function so I didn't think it was the right time to tell him, and in front of everyone else but now I am feeling paranoid that everyone can tell and I should have taken the opportunity to come clean! To be honest, I think in 2 weeks time there will be no hiding it anyway - def have a bump EEK!

Loopy, don't want to say too much but I work for a middle of the road airline, not one of the locos but not one of the posh ones either, worse luck .

Morning all!

Apologies for not messaging sooner- I too have been maniackly busy and fed up, falling out with DP but think it's resolved for now. Wedding workload related- my mum's too ill to help, bridesmaid refuses to do anything and DP understandably wrapped up in his own problems of being made redundant soon and a man cold. I'm exhausted with it all but after much discussion DP's stepped up to the fore so hopefully things will ease.

Good news is I had my first fitting for my wedding dress and it fit! My bump is lower than the fitted bit and the lacing can give a bit more so fingers crossed for the wedding. A big relief as couldn't afford another dress! Bad news though is that I've got hip pain and docs concerned I should avoid driving (I have a 50 mile round trip to work then drive in the day). Apparently I have to get a new wardrobe of clothes that don't crease in my hip joint when I sit either as i've a nerve trapped down the front of my leg and the sheath on the side of my hip is swollen. Doesn't bother me much, other than a restless leg and uncomfortable to sit in one position long. Oh and it hurts when he presses it- dur! Will mean more doc apts though which boss won't like :(

Sorry for banging on about myself, I'm not able to name check cos I'm on my mobile and can't scroll up and down so will just mention those I can recall:

Qwerty - sympathy re falling out with DPs. Can feel awfully lonely at times but remember to moan on here if you need to let off steam

MummyWilliams hope everything's ok with DPs gran

Try not to worry too much Iheart- the bean's hung on so far, that's a good sign :) let us know how it goes

15 weeks today for me, wow! Hope everyone has a happy and relaxing week :)

Qwerty Sorry to hear about your stress. I think it's all too common with the hormones... My usually supportive hubby is being a total a^*$! Where are you based? Sounds so exciting! And I'm sure no-one will notice your bump - it's the other signs they pick up on, grrrr!!!

Loopy yes - a relief. He's much better now and is asking questions, and even asked to touch my bump (and mistakenly laid his hand on a different, higher up, fat bit of my belly, hmmph!). Just can't wait for the blood test results later this week so we can finally go public officially. That's horrid about the 48 hours thing, but keep positive, somehow!

Tinwe that's pants about your hip/drive. My sis and fiance are both high powered sports/physio-type people. They would tell you to go straight to a physio. From my own experience, it's helped me several times where doctors/chiropractors can't, so I would totally recommend it. And I soooooo sympathise about the wedding stress. I ended up doing a huge over-sized board, and putting all the to-do's on it so that everyone in the house could read it and do their bit, and tick it off as we went, as opposed to constantly demanding things from me like cook their dinner etc etc... (Had dad and semi-disabled step-mom staying also for added aggravation.) Glad the dress will be good though - you'll look fab :)

At home today with a stinky cold hence able to post! First proper full sick day during pg so trying not to feel guilty. What's sick-pay for if not this?! Shame about poor little students who won't get their lessons though...

Have a good week everyone

morning all sounds like there is a few of us having relationship problems, to be honest thought i was the only one and that every other couple who was having a baby were extatically happy which made me feel even more sorry for myself

my DP has beeen being really unsupportive he just doesnt seem to grasp that u feel like shit most the time at the stage because i dont look ill and u cant see exhaustion of naausea its like he thinks im just trying to suck up symapthy or something have spent since friday either argueing or just trying to be civil to one another not good

sesame- hope u get rid of your cold soon my DD has got one at the mo and im sure im catching it :(

Tinwe- great news that wedding dress fit and that your now 15 weeks i know its only 2 and a half moreweeks than i am but seems way more pregnant than i am, the days seems to be going so slow at the mo

loopy- yep made chocolate cake i find baking quite calming, will prob put on loads more weight tho as will prob pick on it all day lol, i hope as the weeks go on u feel less anxious this first stage must be horribe for u afta wot u went thru

qwerty- mine still looks more like a fat belly than any sign of a bump, looking forwardto when it gets some shape, your day out sounds lovely :)

iheart- good luck for your scan today i hope it all goes well for u

Well good morning everyone (just!)

Tinwe Pleased to hear that things are a bit better with DP and that your wedding dress fits! I presume your bridesmaid knows that your pregnant??? Pity she won't help, you need all the help you can get when a) organising a wedding and b)you're pregnant! Now that you're 15 weeks you should be able to see someone like an osteopath or a masseur that could help relieve the trapped nerve in your leg. Would have thought that would be a better idea than just changing the clothes you're wearing so that you can put up with the pain?

Iheart Hope the news is good, at least it's spotting and not loads and loads of blood. FX for you and the little bean.

Loopy you do such a good job of keeping positive and keeping everyone else buoyed up. Really hope all is well with your bean.

Mummyw How are you doing?

Sesame thanks for the voucher code!

Hotbuttered Love Downton, very sad that last night was last episode until next year. May have to start again on the P&P dvd's with Colin Firth...mmmmm....

15 weeks yesterday and still being sick. Getting bored with it now but at least it's always the same time of day and I feel fine afterwards. DD is being an absolute gem; she's taken to having a good lie in every morning so I'm not having to get up until 8am which is really helpful!

Jbells I have my fingers crossed for a boy too as DH would very much like one and I'm NOT doing this again after feeling so awful with this pg. Agree that 2 is plenty!!

Jbells posts crossed, hadn't read your latest when I posted. We went through the unsupportive bit and I ended up getting really cross and reminded him that I wouldn't feel like this forever so a little help right now would be much appreciated. After all, he doesn't have to lose his body shape for a while, feel sick, tired or give up alcohol etc so he can damn well help out for a bit!! Oh and owning up to having raging hormones and apologising for being grumpy and no fun helps soften DH enough to help! Hope you guys are ok.

morning all sounds like there is a few of us having relationship problems, to be honest thought i was the only one and that every other couple who was having a baby were extatically happy which made me feel even more sorry for myself

my DP has beeen being really unsupportive he just doesnt seem to grasp that u feel like shit most the time at the stage because i dont look ill and u cant see exhaustion of naausea its like he thinks im just trying to suck up symapthy or something have spent since friday either argueing or just trying to be civil to one another not good

sesame- hope u get rid of your cold soon my DD has got one at the mo and im sure im catching it :(

Tinwe- great news that wedding dress fit and that your now 15 weeks i know its only 2 and a half moreweeks than i am but seems way more pregnant than i am, the days seems to be going so slow at the mo

loopy- yep made chocolate cake i find baking quite calming, will prob put on loads more weight tho as will prob pick on it all day lol, i hope as the weeks go on u feel less anxious this first stage must be horribe for u afta wot u went thru

qwerty- mine still looks more like a fat belly than any sign of a bump, looking forwardto when it gets some shape, your day out sounds lovely :)

iheart- good luck for your scan today i hope it all goes well for u

I had to explain to DH that although I look like I am coping well I still have crazy hormones and anxiety and he needs to try not add to it :(
you would think he was the hormonal one by the way he is acting! Shouting, swearing, name calling, all very ugly and upsetting. Not to mention juvenile. That is how he gets when under stress.... We must find a better way for him to deal with it.
Sorry my posts are all me, me, me just feeling yuk. Think I have mild food poisening or a bug too!
Sorry Jbells and Tinwe that you are also having problems let's hope 2nd trimester is easier!!!