The PESH Deli - No ESH left behind

[PerfectDromedary]

I have opened the virtual gin, found the Desperate Romantics and am about to start playing I've Never. Who's with me?

Hey Cass I feel your pain. Pregnancy is definitely detrimental to my relationship with TG (see moaning in the spa for additional info!). I feel I am being perfectly rational and normal, but apparently any outburst/request/discussion is 'hormonal' and therefore not rational. And of course,therefore ultimately ignorable. Fucks me right off. He spent the whole of my first pregnancy swearing that I was different/highly strung/hormonal/mad. And then he saw his sister pregnant and said 'actually, I take it all back, you weren't mad at all. THAT is mad' whilst pointing at his sister crying about an upside down chicken!

Yeah it's hard on us too. In a different way to poopy... it's more that I tend to feel really vulnerable in a very hard to describe way, our sex life completely disappears (sort of a mutual thing but makes us both feel a bit weird,again would take ages to explain..)

Add to that the fact that he is working really long hours, I am working and it's not going very well, we're both knackered, the business may be going down the pan (tho rationally I'm sure it's fixable, is more bloody hard work), we never go to bed at the same time, etc etc etc....

AND I have dreams about mr gin leaving me pretty much every fucking night. Which is actually really upsetting despite having no foundation in reality.

But IT WILL BE WORTH IT.

And I love him to pieces.

Ps stew don't worry, I have ordered it. And I have a general one that cunty sent me. If tour house is anything like mine you will be relieved to call of the search :)

Y our house

I'm with you on the relationship woes. If I'm honest, mine is because I usually am being irrational. I have mood swings like you wouldn't believe. But sometimes MrM is just infuriating all by himself.

Thanks Poll . Last night's debacle was due in part to him completely forgetting I'd been bleeding since the previous day and not asking anything about it, whilst moaning about feeling 'taken for granted' which, as far as I can see, stems from having to man up and do more than usual round the house at the moment due to my selfish habits of puking / sleeping / revising.

I've had flowers. I don't really want them. They're lovely, don't get me wrong, but what I want is to not feel like a fucking burden just for trying to survive the various things going on right now. Shit, crying again. Quick, show me an upside down chicken to blame it on

Oh, sorry. I am such a bloody misery at the moment. It really isn't like me, for those who've not long known me. Honest.

Sex life? What's that? I heard that in your second trimester you get the raging horn. Ahahahaha.

I too love MrM to pieces and the thought of him not being around makes my blood run cold.

Oh stew have a dead arm from me. It is bloody horrible sometimes. You have a lot of stuff to deal with right now and your fella needs to get his head around that. You are not being needy and crap, you are having a shit time. And it's your man's job to help you get through it.

muse lots of our friends with kids are suddenly splitting up in all manner of awfulness. This is not helping my nocturnal craziness.

TB is being really sweet at the moment but I am pretty sure the novelty is going to wear off fairly soon. :o

I feel like shit again today, which I suppose is good timing as I am off, except I had a rather ambitious list of chores to do based on my relative wellness of the last few days. Caught sight of TBs bottle of cod liver oil in the kitchen which nearly made me spew all over the nice clean work surfaces.

cass I haven't known you that long and I can see this isn't like your normally ebullient self. I suppose at least you have the small comfort of realising this isn't 'normal' although it would be good if HE realised that. You have a lot on your plate with the revising, ministew and being diffed all at once, so cut yourself some slack. I'd have a nap in between revising if I were you, but then I am a great fan of naps at the moment.

This second semester "raging horn" thing is a massive fucking lie peddled by the media so that men will impregnant us. They are silently counting off 90 days and waiting for us to turn in to sex vixens. All that happens is that we're a stone heavier and so can deliver a heartier punch with that "NO! Fuck off. What is wrong with you? All you ever think about is sex." when they stroke us lovingly on the arm.

Currently jailbait and I are not fighting - this is because I'm spewing bile at my parents instead. It's like being 15 again.

gin you know the dreams are just the craze making hormones and stress. Mrgin is no more leaving you than my friends all think I'm boring because I read the Sunday papers (that was the actual premise of my dream).

It must be awful seeing other people split up though. I think it's happening to my brother's circle as well and proving difficult. I can't imagine any of my friends' marriages splitting up, I like them all too much.

muse fanks. I do know that, but seriously does it have to be every fucking night??? Is very wearing.

Oooooo hahaha just felt some actual proper 'oh my god there's a PERSON in my TUMMY!!!' movement. Heeeeeeheeeeeee!!!!

Now, I think I left my first born in a wash basket somewhere in the kitchen (he is a pirate.) Must go and see if we've found the treasure yet.

Am pathetically glad to know that no one else is shagging either :)

Hell, there is no shagging in our house and hasn't been for months. TG is sleeping in a separate room due to my snoring so at least I don't have to punch him think up excuses any more. I don't like feeling like housemates though, rather than partners. Tis vey odd.

Brilliant news on the proper movements gin but fucksticks to the dreams. I am having weird preggo dreams too. I do actually dream about sex (3-somes with strangers, Jeremy Clarkson etc yuck) but agree that the 2nd trimester shagathon is a complete lie. I think we did it a few times after the BFP and once in the 2ndT. It just felt weird and wrong.

ha, I have a pirate that loves the washing basket too! Ooh, speaking of which, I'd better step away from the triple choc cookies go and collect her from pre-school.

gin those dreams sound horrible. :( not eating too much cheese are you? Seriously tho, I know I don't have to tell you they are just dreams but every night must be nasty especially with what's going on around you,]. Not that any of that has any bearing on your relationship. OK i'm going to shut up now.

Can't imagine ever having secs again, Not sure puke down the back would be a massive turn on. But it's the weekend so expectations may well be running high, I am hoping recent new purchase of Fifa and a massive cooked breakie will be enough of a distraction.

rocket ha! I went out on the day of release of the latest FIFA (in the pissing rain, might I add) so mr gin a)got to play it straight away which is important to the small child that lives in his brain, b)had a distraction from the mega stress he has going on at the mo, and c)felt all loved and cherished, even if his missus is a hormonally insane tellytubbie.

The fact that d)it makes me feel less guilty about being No Fun is NOT THE POINT

In summary, I believe it'll get you thru the weekend.

On release day, TB made a massive detour to get it cheapest from Asda only to find they were all preordered. So he payed full dollar at HMV only to get it home, play one game then come downstairs to watch tv with me as 'he didn't really feel like playing' I asked him who he was and what he had done with my husband. Normal service has been resumed now tho so I am sure you are right.

Its funny that inner small child isn't it? Are all men like that or just gamers?

So sorry you are both having such a hard and busy time of it, is there light at the end of the tunnel?

All I know is I've never understood women who moan loads about their partner playing computer games. They always seem to be the same people who think it is their partner's duty to watch, and feign an interest in, many many soap operas...

Hell, there is no shagging in our house and hasn't been for months. TG is sleeping in a separate room due to my snoring so at least I don't have to punch him think up excuses any more. I don't like feeling like housemates though, rather than partners. Tis vey odd.

Brilliant news on the proper movements gin but fucksticks to the dreams. I am having weird preggo dreams too. I do actually dream about sex (3-somes with strangers, Jeremy Clarkson etc yuck) but agree that the 2nd trimester shagathon is a complete lie. I think we did it a few times after the BFP and once in the 2ndT. It just felt weird and wrong.

ha, I have a pirate that loves the washing basket too! Ooh, speaking of which, I'd better step away from the triple choc cookies go and collect her from pre-school.

Gah, fail. That is not what I typed!! Bastard bloody computer.

You read my mind gin I almost typed that very sentence. Comes in well handy when I want to watch endless True Blood or spend the evening on MN. :o

Apparently I am a bit of a legend on his video game forum for being such an understanding wife, I think most women object on principle for some reason that I can't fathom Although I am not sure about him playing the war games around a toddler but we'll cross that bridge when we come to it.

I don't get the whole aversion to partners playing games either. TG plays computer games and also the type where small ugly metal alien type things stomp across our kitchen table to kill each other. It keeps him happy - he spends hours painting the things and I like that he has hobbies - it gives me time to myself to indulge in my love of property programmes or getting stuck into a good book without being deemed unsociable.

Oooh I want this It may or may not do up over bump, but I reckon I could fit baybee in a sling under there after. Or am I deluding myself? It is vey lovely.

Oooh, I like that coat very much. Definitely worth an investigation.

MrM also plays many a computer game. I don't mind, unless it's on the XBox which means I can't watch telly, or he stays up really late and then moans about being tired the next day. I think he may be playing Civilisation at the moment, I certainly haven't seen him for a while.

She doesn't disappoint, does she?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1057824-Spray-tan-when-pregnant

My gaming "husband" babysits when I go riding.