Calling The Viroids - Just Shagging Graduates!

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Just thought I'd start a thread for all those JS graduates, whether a newbie graduate or even if you left us a while ago and are well on your way. Would be good for us to keep in touch, see if we're all staying 'sane'.

Don't know about you ladies, but I am still filled with the overwhelming urge to PIAR (that's POAS for all you older graduates - after you left us we went a little mad and started harnessing the power of the ramekin!) I think once you start the habit it doesn't leave you!

Well, it's good to know that the Just Shagging method works. Even if we did once in a while just cheat a teeny tiny little bit!

I guess one of the good things about having a life that seems to be falling apart around our ears is that there are to many distractions for the preganancy to be all consuming and defining. Kinda wish there was a bit more focus on me and my swelling tum at times, but then I suppose I'd just get all annoyed and [grrr] if that actually happened.

Nothing wrong with that at all Frakkle. The one I remember most fondly was a bikini line one too. It took bloody ages to shift. Only prob with ones on the leg is the mark it leaves.

Brassica wait till you get to your second pregnancy, then no one will give a shit

coaaf I know you feel. Having a total freak out here.

Went to see the nursery next to DH's school. Compared to the one on campus it was really disappointing. It has a good Ofsted but it's basically in a shed surrounded by temporary garages. The garden backs onto a huge main road from which it is separated by wire mesh. The woman was friendly but she was really shocked I was going back to work at 6 months, which freaked me out (they had 2 babies there at 6 months so I don't know why). She was also really shocked I work so far away, and seemed sceptical when I told her I'm going to work full time but only do 3 days in the office and the rest from home when DH is there.

Got home and realised someone had crashed into our car and driven off while we were there. And got a letter saying a £150 loan payment had bounced this month. Checked our account and we have £60 between us to live on until next week. We have a car loan, a loan for our couch, and a £5k loan we just took out to pay for house repairs and another bloody car so we can both get to work when the baby is born. I'm terrified our finances are spiralling out of control and we don't even have the baby yet. I'm terrified that we can't afford to eat/pay the mortgage if I don't work, but my work/life plans are unrealistic. I don't want to leave the baby in a shed with an unsympathetic carer 3 days a week and then not even have enough time to do my work properly (this is a massive irrational exaggeration - as I said, good Ofsted with outstanding features and lots of other teacher use it, but I just felt uneasy there).

Cried all the way home from the nursery, and I'm teaching Henry James tomorrow and I haven't even read the whole novel and I have nothing to say about it. Supposed to be going out for dinner with my old boss tonight but I can't afford it and I need to work. DH has fallen asleep! So I can't even rant to him (hence ranting to you).

Sorry for me me me post. I just feel trapped. We can't move. We can't stay. I can't afford to work. I can't afford not to work. We need two cars. We've got ourselves into stupid debt to get them. I just feel like whatever option we look into it's worse than the last. Sorry for being a pain the arse.

Massive hug TTL

I'm not going to go into details of my day, but DH is kinda mid melt down, we're trying to put through an application on a new house that we both love but his dad is being bolshy about acting as a guarantor, I sometimes wish I'd gotten a job instead of pg (even though due to childcare costs there is no point my working at the minute). We have to move in just over 3 weeks. I've been on an immigration rant thread and am now thinking about my visa application at the end of the year (even though I shouldn't be).

And I've caught conjunctavitous from DS, so we both have manky eyes.

Yes that is the short version.

See this is why I talk usually about ingrown hairs and food

Only a quick post from me as I'm on the stoopid phone, but I didn't want to read and run.

Sorry you are having a crap and stressful time ttland coaaf. Nothing useful to say but love and (((hugs))) anyway x

Massive hug to you too confessions and a big thank you hug to you and bb

I'm really sorry you're having such a crap time. I hope your DH's dad acts as guarantor in the end and does it without causing further annoyance and I really hope your DH starts feeling better soon. And that you get over the conjunctivitis - I've had that before and it is rubbish. Some days are just so shit, aren't they? Most days I feel there are 2 or 3 problems and I can deal with them all and keep cheerful but when they all mount up in a single day and every time you go to find a positive solution it falls to crap it really gets too much. I really really hope in 3 weeks time you're sitting in your new house feeling brilliant :)

I'm feeling a bit better since my old boss cancelled on dinner (well, I texted her to cancel and at the time we should have been at the restaurant she emailed to say she'd forgotten about it and had a fever. Tsk! At least I have time to read sparknotes now ) and DH woke up and we sat down with all our finances and worked it out. It is going to be tough but it is doable, I think. Well, just so long as no other fucker crashes into our car again and drives off without telling us and leaves us with a massive bill

I don't know what the bloody hell we're going to do about childcare because DH and I are both agreed that we didn't like the nursery. Even he's got tearful about it now. If a nursery makes both parents cry it's probably not the one, lol. Now we're looking at a really good one near home, but since neither of us works near home (he's 20 mins away, I'm 70 mins away) and since we don't have family nearby (minimum 2 hours) it seems a bit ludicrous ...

Anyway, I don't want to be self-obsessed, so back to the ingrown hairs it is I'm still worried that initially I a whole bulb of garlic up stuck up a fanjo seemed impossible (thanks bb for that image), due to relative sizes of garlic and fanjos. Only later did I remember that the baby is already bigger than a bulb of garlic and has got to get out of the same orifice

Hugs for all the shitty days out there today but at least it's Friday tomorrow!

Sorry to be moaning but I am having a total crisis of confidence and rational me knows that it is just made harder by being over emotional but how ever rational I am trying to be the crazy inner crying lady keeps jumping out! Today it was when do I know what to do and what if I can't do it, as DH said I will know because it will be like nothing else and if it's not it will just be a false alarm and no one is going to be angry with me if it happens and I will be able to do it in whatever way happens as she can't stay in there! I was so annoyed with myself for wanting her out now and having a c-section with a date and time; how can I be so silly as to wish for a premature baby and major surgery

Thanks for letting me get that out!

Anyway a whole garlic up the fanjo? Now that's something to make me

And DH and I have just managed a decent shag (avec condom) despite rampant thrush .....

Just thought I'd lower the tone!!!

TTL what's your childcare budget? Is nursery literally the only option?

BB well done

DH is going away for 10 days tomorrow for work. This is shit timing. I'm ostriching about it...

Oh TTL and coaaf sorry things are so tough. I am in denial that this baby will cost us anything and am assuming that the £100s for strollers, clothes, nursery crap etc of course exists and will be there noatter what I spend at the moment, oh and of course I will be able to live like a lady that lunches throughout the year I am planning to take as maternity leave because I can, not because I have actually attempted to budget and thought about saving part of my salary at the moment. Feel like a shiteous wife as just assuming DH will cover all our living expenses, despite knowing he currently gets to the end of the month with little left (although a trimming of his beer budget would probably pay for all of us to be SAHMs! )

Quick rant, friends hen. £150 FOR A DAY! Which includes plenty of booze. Emailed to organisers to say if it wasn't too inconvenient could they let me know how much it would be without booze and I hear nothing. I am assuming I will be subsidising everyone's drinking...a pet peeve.

Having a lovely time on hols although seem to be struggling to keep dinner down most nights also have hideous, itchy heat rash down my arms and in my, now ample, cleavage. This despite the fact for two days the wind made it too cold for any sunbathing! Oh, baby not a massive fan of sunbathing. Can manage about 20min stints before I get paranoid I am boiling it in the bag. Currently lying here with period like cramps so stressing at that too

To think I came on here just to say hi!

Hmm I know a bulb of garlic is far smaller than a baby in terms of fanjo insiddes, but I think a baby smells a damn sight nicer and is probably better for cuddling too

I am sorry about everyone elses crapness, although in my own selfish way it makes me feel a tad better. It's good to get a reality check that shitness affects everyone, not just me.

Anyway DH has managed to drag himself out towork today, though we haven't spoken about anything much, so I must now make some help me phone calling before Gilmore Girls starts while I have the peace and quiet.

Good point coaaf. Babies smell nicer than garlic. I had not thought of that, and weirdly, it makes me feel better! I totally know what you mean about it making you feel better ... it's so easy for me to start thinking 'why me?' and pitying myself and to think I'm the only person in the world who hasn't sorted it all out. So it's reassuring to know that nobody has got it all figured out perfectly. Anyway, it's the weekend now (nearly), thank Christ!

Oh cowboylover I'm sorry you had a crappy day yesterday too. If it's any consolation, I think we're mean't to have crises in confidence. If we didn't have them, it'd probably be because something wasn't right! If we're having them, we should know we're on the right track to parenthood! You will be brilliant :)

about the sex bb - thrush or no thrush!

Right, I've moved from to now

This morning I was teaching from 9-11am and my class, which usually finishes at ten to eleven, went right up to 11 as the students had lots of questions about the exam. Another lecturer was waiting outside to teach her class and was evidently annoyed. As I left with my group a very shy student approached me and asked a question, and she waltzed in and shouted at him 'why don't you ask that outside the room' and tutted very loudly. The student forgot what he was going to say and went off.

Anyway, I sent her an apology afterwards by email to say I didn't mean to run over - it's never happened before and won't happen again, and it was just that I had a shy student I was dealing with - and she's just replied saying, 'I wouldn?t normally have asked you to talk outside, but it was 6 minutes past and classes are meant to stop at ten to. And being week 10 time is not on one?s side with evaluation forms to fit in as well as the usual workshop. Which is why I felt I had to start.'

End of email. I am putting it on here so I don't go and punch her in the face.

Clearly pregnancy is getting to me

ttl she sounds like a twat.

Sorry to hear of general stresses and work-life balance bolleaux. If it cheers anyone up at all, we had our scan today and everything is fine and we are having a girl :) Which DH and I are both super-happy about :)

Awww star that does cheer me up. Congratulations! I loved the 20 week scan - it just felt like I'd passed so many hurdles to get there and I loved finding out the sex too (I know everyone feels differently on this). I hope you're going to do something nice to celebrate.

Two snotty email exchanges later and we have made up. I'm sure I was being a twat myself, tbh . Off out for dinner now with work colleagues, which is very lovely since it's all hectic here and I live so far away that getting to know people isn't the easiest. And it's all nice, young, non-twattish people going

Yay Star

Awh congrats star x

Catching up! Sorry everyone seems to have some shitty-ness going on, I hope houses, childcare, money worries and thrush all sort themselves out for you all!

As I'm coming off call at work that reduces the amount of money I can save towards rubbish satutory maternity leave - so a bit pants I can't do it but lovely care free weekends are nice and hopefully a bit of a money diet over the next few months can make same net effect.

Star glad your 20 week scan was all good and congrats on your little baby girl!! I too love knowing what we're having - I love imagining what our wee boy will be like and picking out things with this image in mind!

Im waiting on a RL friend popping at the moment - she was due on thurs and no sign yet .. she's having a surprise so a bit more exciting to find out!

Another lovely day of sunshine here - its been gorgeous all week ... enjoy your sunny Saturdays girls

TTL: thanks. She sounds like a total cowbag!

Star: exciting with the girl! I loved my 20 week scan, think it was my fav! Got another scan tomorrow so will see how she has grown, getting to big to fit nicely on the scan pic now.

My friend had her 2nd baby on Friday and was a real suprise. Spent the afternoon in the park with her Ds then I saw her in the chippy at 5.30 getting tea and had a text at 6.50 to say she had DS number 2! I hope i can do that!

Hmmm, just came across Nicklebabe on another thread and she's name changed to Nickelbabyhatcher. Am wondering if she has some news for us, or just given up on snatching babes at last...

Off to snoop.

Oh yes, she got a BFP the other day - I randomly saw it on another thread. Get her over here quick!

Snooped, confirmed and recruited . I suspect there are a couple of recently upduffed Viroids hanging out until they're to fat to get through the door (rather like most of us did )

Does that mean our door is supersize? hmmm.

I think of it as one of those slow-moving revolving ones, extra enormous to accommodate us all

LOL at the mental image of lots of woddling ladies in a revolving door!

Had another scan today and now only one more til she arrives! All good, growing well, big head like her dad, still a girl and might have just been me but I think shes very cute already and now looks like a little person not strange out of poportion alien style. 7 weeks left and now and est weight of 5lb so now trying to guess the weight at birth.

Now putting the 1st layer of paint on the nursery so we have progress!

It'll need to be supersized or I won't be able to get out of it! Maybe I'll just hang out in here until I slim down enough

cowboy I keep telling myself the scans aren't foolproof. There's a margin of error of about 1lb....either way.

Yeah for star and her little baby girl

Oooo for Nickel. What great news!

Watching OBEM for the first time ever. A mistake I wonder?!