July 2010: The end is nigh... To antenatal we say goodbye!

[stac14]

We're all nearly at the end so here is our last antenatal thread

no hun did we find out who jenny is? X

My lovely little boy has given me loads of smiles today! Ive put 2 pics up on fb if you want to look, one of them is my profile pic.

Got lots of housework done today after a busy 4 days, one wedding down one to go!
The next one is DP's dad's on Sat, its in London and we're staying up there overnight. Im trying to put it to the back of my mind, I am looking forward to it but the whole thing is just going to be exhausting and theres so much to remember!

DH Ahh its so lovely isnt it. Devon is 6 weeks and has just started smiling at us and making the lovliest little noises, its so lovely.......
However he is still being a mare in the evenings and its really tiring, he just wants to be carried and up on my shoulder all the time and my back is breaking. Anyone got any ideas why he is like it? Did i mention that i think i fractured my coccyx when i was pushing him out? thats really horrible and uncomfortable and means that i find it really hard to sit for long so thats quite exhausting too. The docs cant do anything and pain killers are no good as its a sporadic pain. Devon is asleep in his swing now, i wonder how long ur supposed to leave them in there for?? He is usually ok after his last feed at 11ish but last night he didnt go down for over an hour then he was up again at 3.20 and didnt go down till 5ish, then awake grunting at 6.30. He had an hour and a half at 9 and an hour at 12 and some cat naps but thats it. He MUST be tired! Is everyone in some sort of routine now or not? I just feel like its really early days but im worried that he isnt sleeping in his own bed in the day/evening, what does everyone else do in the day?
Oh god, hes waking up, i love him to bits but i dont get a break unless he sleeps and when he doesnt i find it tough going.

vik Lyndon doesnt even sleep that much during the day, he wakes about half 7, then from that time to 8 at nigh he probably only dozes on and off having 5-10 min cat naps all day amounting to an hour in total, then he goes sleep between 8and 9 and sleeps til 2 or 3 then wants to play, my house is no getting messy as he wants to play all day so unless dh or mum comeover its down to me.
they are only supposed to spend no more that an hour in a swing or chair, but lyndon loves his.
dh lovely pic of dylan, i get so many smiles but once i get camera out they stop!!! i love love love your dress that you wore to that wedding!
im staying in the house today, need to try and get a few jobs doneif lyndon lets me but if not oh well, i prefer to play with him, everyone keeps saying take it all in it goes so fast so im determined too, i only plan on doing this the once!!! sick of people saying are you having another? and when you say im never doing that again they say hmmm we will see you will change your mind!!! why ask? if you make my decsion for me? it drives me mad, my MIL is the best, you cant just have one, youve got to have 2!! my answer was to say if you want your son to have 2 get him to leave me!!!
on subject of him we are arguing loads at the minute, he says im no fun anymore and i analize everything and im miserable!! i want us to have quality us time but the problem is his family and friends just knock on and never ever call before! usually 1st one being his dad at 7am his mum at 9am on a weekend!!! and this carries on all day... sorry rant ever!

Hi Everyone,
What sort of night did everyonr have???

WHAT IS THE BLOODY GRUNTING ALL ABOUT????

Its so annoying, i have seriously thought about putting him in his own room.......but im worried, for obvious reasons. There was a lady at the group i went to that said her daughter had been in her own room since 4 wks due to being noisy. My DH isnt sleeping well in the spare room coz the bed is crap and he wants to come back into our room but i know Devon will drive him mad. Who was it that said about feeling responsible for keeping the baby quiet because of DH? I feel the same, so if he comes back in it will defo put extra pressure on me.
I may go out today and look for a breathing monitor then depending on what u guys think I may move him.......please be honest and let me know.

memphis that would drive me mad people coming over without calling. It is normal to argue at this point due to tiredness etc. Dp thinks i should still be the same as before but priorities change. I agree with you it should be about us time, but for us dp has loads of work or wants to visit his mum. Soz your rants kind of the same as mine. Anyway i was trying to reassure that by trying to have time together, with or without lyndon you will get sorted. Hows lyndons reflux?

dh what gorgeous smiles from lo. Are you taking dylan to the wedding? Its like moving house transporting lo to another place isnt it lol

viksam rileigh doesnt sleep much during the day but i try for a nap in the afternoon. She also likes to be carried about and it is so hard to get stuff done. Someone suggested a sling but with your back thats not a solution. I know its bad but have you tried him in his chair with the tv on? I do this with rileigh for about 30mins to get bits and bobs done. They do have baby tv lol

tsc hows frankie been since his op?

2nd night in a row that rileighs slept till 6, we went to bed at 10 and she slept through yay!! Hoping the routine is set, think its the hungry baby milk lol. What you all up to today? I have the nurse at 2pm to check my wound again, its still not totally healed at one bit. X

If i had the spare room and rileigh didnt have reflux viksam i would defo have her in her own room. I dont know much about the monitors hun but they could be worthwhile. I have just had to learn to block it out but i can only sleep when i know shes settled. Let us know what you decide x

memphis thanks! I do love the dress but its bloody hard to breastfeed in, I have to undo the side zip, so easy to breastfeed on that side but to do it on the other side I have to like pull the strap over my head so they're both on the same side, not exactly subtle lol.

vik Dylan still grunts but Ive noticed not quite as much in the mornings now, maybe in a couple of weeks Devon will start to do it less. Dylan is 8 weeks tomoro (still no bloody letter from docs about vaccinations, am going to phone today)

Dylan fell asleep around 9pm last night and slept til 2:30, then woke at 5:30 and dozed til 6:30 but not fully so fed him again and he slept til 8ish so I feel tired but not like I want to die (well at the mo anyway, might be a bit different in a few hours)

stac yeah he's coming to the wedding, I still cant bring myself to leave him lol. I do love weddings though, its making me really want to get married lol.
DP and I have talked about it, we've got some money saved we just need to save a little bit more. It will only be a small wedding but thats all I want.

dh youve mentioned about getting engaged before, do you think once you are engaged you will get married quickly? i love a wedding, the one i went to last week was fab, no expence spared, very formal, expensive dress, but i went to one when i was pg, 45 people, cheap dress bought from wedding pair all about them, not formality and it was so much better!! loved it apart from being huge! so imo simple ones are somuch nicer , i havent even had my 6 week check yet let alone his vaccines, and hes 8 weeks next week, im finally booked in for next week!
stac reflux is a lot better, doc said any meds for reflux make baby have bigger appitite and yesterday in 3 hours he did 14oz so i bough hungry baby food last night too!! dh's family all live within 400 yards of us, they knock on so early im never dressed or just as were about to eat!!! dh wont just leave the door!! but when we move 5 miles away next year we wont see them unless we visit them and i bet they will moan they dont see us enough!
vik im with you on putting LO in own room, finally got dh to agree to it, he only wakes once but after that feed he wants fidgets in his sleep, do whats best for you

memphis I would love to get married next spring/summer Im just waiting for DP to ask me! Ive dropped enough bloody hints lol, we've got enough money saved to get married next year so Im not being unrealistic but maybe he feels its too fast? We have only been together just over 2 years! Why wait though thats what I say, we love each other and I know I want to spend the rest of my life with him.

memphis The unexpected visitors would really do my head in too, but because thay live so close i dont suppose there is anything u can do, it will be great when u move!Glad the reflux is better, 14oz in 3 hrs! dont blame u for getting the hungry baby food. Interesting what u say about his own room.
DH Yeah, lets have a wedding!! I had a small wedding and it was great, i didnt do the church bit, we were arranging a trip to America anyhow and decided to go to Vegas and get married there, just the two of us, so the smallest wedding possible!(because we were arrangig the trip anyhow DH got away with not proposing properly, cheeky!!!hence i havent got an engagement ring!!!even cheakier!!) We had a sitdown meal for 45 and an evening do when we got back, all i wanted really. Dylan is doing much better through the night isnt he, i expect u are feeling better right now, i usually feel sick with tiedness at around 5.30pm, just when DH is expected home!
mylife Hmmmmmm difficult with DH, sounds like u dont want to rock the boat, is this just the way he expresses himself do u think or is it said out of anger? If its anger thats not good, but if its just the language he uses then thats not bad(not respectfull of course) but not meant badly, do u see what i mean, its two different things i think.
stac wow sounds like she is really getting into routine what are u doing to help that do u think?

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh DH Thats sooooo lovely! They dont respond well to pressure though do they! I find it is better to give them time to 'come round' as it were, things are so much easier if they think its their decision, hehe!

Thanks yeah Im not going to mention it much anymore, we've even got the engagement ring and got it re-sized so it fits! (Its my mum's engagement ring :))
I really hope he asks me before xmas, I expect hes waiting til Dylan's a bit older so we can go out on our own and get someone to babysit.

Morning all! T'was first vaccinations day here today. :( Though I think I got more upset than Mindy! I hate seeing/hearing her squeal in pain... Will someone with older children please reassure me that it gets easier to deal with the gut wrenching feeling??

The nurse warned me that Mindy may be sleepy and off her food for the rest of the day... But she's currently wide awake and feeding ravenously. I guess she's not been too badly affected, but I'll keep the Calpol on standby!

viksam, I'm thinking of moving Mindy into the cot in the nursery from this weekend, so you're not the only one moving your LO into their own room. :) She's virtually outgrown the moses basket and I can see she wants more room to flail and squirm. She likes having lots of space - hated being swaddled! She's also reliably slept from 10pm to 6am all week, so will hopefully continue.

In terms of proposals DesperateHousewife, have you tried threatening to propose to him? I told DH that if he didn't propose to me before the end of the year, then I was going to do it! (Probably somewhere very public and embarrassing.) Needless to say, he proposed soon after. :)

yeah memphis rileigh was doing the same and i thought theres no way i am overfeeding her like that so i'm with you on hungry baby milk. Rileigh is far more content. What milk do you use?

viksam the hungry baby milk keeps her fuller for longer so when she started that she woke at 3 out of habit, took a few sips and fell asleep, the next night i decided to try and pacify her for a bit, and she lasted till 6 when she was starving. Now she doesnt wake till then. Oh she also takes an extra ounce just as shes going to bed. I also keep her awake from 8 to 10 while we do pj's, bottle and quiet time.

dh i didnt leave ds for ages but with rileigh i left her at 5wks. So exciting about you wanting to get married, we got engaged in 2007 and are waiting till rileigh can walk so we can get married. Like you we want a simple day its far too expensive for one day.

mlic rileigh hasnt been constipated with the change? Meant to ask before have you tried baby juice, it helped her. She did get constipated when moving from sma to aptimal but not moving to aptimal 2. Hope the bottle works for him, are they expensive? X

spirael lol threatening your DH! Although we've discussed getting married we havent even touched on the subject of the proposal, I want it to be a complete surprise (even though I reckon Id guess cos he never plans evenings out or anything!) I dont want him to feel he HAS to propose to me soon, I just want him to WANT to propose soon!

Dh thats so sweet what u said! I feel the same but we'r getting so much shit off his dad and granny that its turning me off getting married. We just keep saying to them we will do it when WE are ready and not when everyone else feels we should. Ideally id like to be married before we have another one but if we'r not its no big deal.
On the routine thing ellie is pretty good. She hasnt woke until half 8 the past 2 mornings she'l usually only take 2 or 3 oz and go back to sleep for couple of hours. She'l stay awake mostly after her next feed and then after her 3 or 4 o clock feed i put her up to her crib for her nap. Then wakey time after her 7 or 8 feed and she'l take her last bottle at 11 or so and thats her for the night!
Vik i think if i was being kept awake with grunting i would def have her in her own room. As it is she doest have much longer left in the crib so il be moving her into her own room in the next couple of weeks probably. Iv heard great things about them breathing monitor mats in that your mind is at ease with them. You may even find he sleeps better in his own room

I am booked up for zumba, heres to getting rid of my labby bum, tum and everything else yay!!!

spireal your her mum hun, anytime she is hurt it will hurt you, sorry to be the bearer of bad news

kk its great when they sleep through, i have felt far better for it. did it take you long to recover from the christening?

hows everyone else?? xxx

vik the great thing about our house is we have no windows to the front of the house downstairs so when im on my own in house i dont have to open the door and i can carry on with jobs without people realising im in (i can be very ignorant when i want to be) but dh doesnt like being ignorant, but tonight we've talked and hes agreed to leave the door if inconvenient!!! (minor result imo!!)
stac i use hipp organic as its the gentlist formula and its probiotic, i can safely say its not bunged him up and its the 1st time hes actually dozed off while feeding so its obviously filling him better!

mlic i didnt think you meant that lol was just saying rileigh has been fine with the change but i can see why you wouldnt want to change lo incase it makes it worse. Did your bottle come? Hope it works for him and you

memphis i havent saw that here, suppose i've not really looked. I defo will be using their jars and stuff but i hope to make a lot of my own and blend food for her but we'll see lol.

spireal that wasnt meant to sound so blunt hun, and mlic is right your better prepared next time. I have to say rileighs are next week and i am dreading them x