December 2010, where we waft about in mat gear eating icecream

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Yo December 2010 ladies, here we go - the mid-point of our pregnancies...and beyond!

he he aimee I find it a bit crazy. My mum was 19 when she had my sister and her own mum was 43 when she had my mum! I guess that means my child will have a baby at 18!

My mum is 62 and only has one grandchild who is still under 2 so she's wated a long time.

So sorry to hear about your friend

Kathsunn my due date is 13th December.

notso If they do change my due date then I will argue with them because I know when I conceived as it was through IVF. Hrrmmph. I didn't have the triple test so not sure how doon you would hear but I heard back from the Amnio in 3 days and then 2 weeks later withthe full result. Could you give them a ring?

Hope you feel better soon MrsS - the best thing to do is have a lie down and hope it passes.

Aimee - Wow, a gran at 41 - that is pretty young, but I'm sure she will come round when the baby is here and will love to be a part of it all. Has she been any more supportive recently? Not easy if you dont have much support and you're still feeling yuck. My mum had me in her late thirties and I'll be 38 when this LO is born so my mum (72) is older than your Gran. Phew!!! As has been said through, age doesn't matter so much when pregnant or got a new baby because most of what we'll experience will be the same .

GGG - Love 3 generations born 30 years apart - I bet you planned it all perfectly! . And yes there can be some real bitchy comments on there - especially bad when someone is just innocently asking for help and then they get a barrage of abuse about things like ear-piercing etc... .

Welcome Kathsunn! - I'm on dc3 too and am 38 so just a tiny bit younger. Glad to hear all is well with the LO .

All good here! We're doing good and feeling the LO more and more.

How old are your other 2 kath? Mine are 6 and 3 and likewise we thought we'd finished! This LO had other ideas though

Thanks DF don't know who to ring though, the results don't go to the MW. She said that if results are low then it will be 2-3 weeks, if I haven't heard by thurs then I will assume low risk. I am so paranoid about this pregnancy, I think with the other two I had the blissful ignorance of youth!

Hi all,

Totally agree with Strix that these guys don't get enough thanks - particularly the ones who get injured as so much of the focus is on the repatriations (which is also very very sad, obviously, but its easy to forget that some of the injuries are as life-shattering to the families as the deaths). Its got to the stage now where I think everyone has a friend of a friend whose been killed or injured. So very sad.

On the positive side though (and I'm a great believer in finding the positive whereever possible) as MrsS said, the care out there is truly world class - some of the advances in medical technology which the extraordinarily talented forces medical teams are developing are at the very peak of what doctors can do. There have been a couple of v good documentaries on it - (BBC's Wounded last year was spellbindin) - and were saying that people are surviving now that even as recently as 5 years ago would have died. So yes, fingers crossed for your friend Aimee, but have faith.

Aimee - you're lucky to be so young and to have parents so young. Neither me nor DH have grandparents still living and our parents are all past retirement age, which does make things very different - e.g. neither set of grandparents would ever be able to look after our LO as it would be too much for them physically.

GGG think I had the same comment a few weeks ago about some MNers being bitches high maintenance.

On a totally different and entirely unrelated subject, lavitabella don't change your name.

PS What does LO actually stand for? I've got most of the abbreviations on MN but this one is stumping me.

Little One?

Name change alert! Close enough so hope I don't confuse you all , doesn't really bother me so best to keep the peace

Thank you

hey all - hope youre all ok

court was crap yesterday, but done now... my ex got contact, but I managed to secure all the things I feel are important to safeguard DD. Stressful.

OOo....21 weeks tomorrow

Awwww... I can't stop crying... out of joy though... my best friend just gave birth today at 30 wks (!!) to a tiny 2 lbs boy! She wasn't prepared at all but the hospital will keep the baby till September so she will have time to get baby stuff... I am stopping work early to go and buy her comfy stuff for herself. So excited for her and now my 4 months wait feels much longer!

Aimee my mom was 38 when becoming grandma! She got sis at 19 and sis got a baby boy at 19! My sis is now 44 and has a 25 yr old and she loves it and my mom enjoyed being actively involved... very nice experience...

ggg let it roll off your back.
DF no due date adjustments from now on...

kath welcome 40 now is the old 30!
I am close to 40 too (37 when the child is here) and all my friends are around 40... we are young!

Strix I am so up to join for a blind date in Richmond. I live in Chiswick and most of my firnds are in Richmond so I go there every wknd! It would be awesome to find some friends in real world...

Thanks for everyone else supporting me to get rid of my fears. I have been ordering books and subscribing to hypnobirth and god knows what... I am still horrified though...

by the way, I really badly crave a glass of bubbly!

One more thing, I am multilingual (grown up with two languages) and want to give that to my future baby! How do I do that? DH will only talk English and what about me? Shall I talk both languages from the start and then just switch between them or how?

So, PJEN and LavitaWhateverYourNameIsNow, if Saturday afternoon suits you, list those you can make in the next month or so.

I can do:

31 July
7 August
14 August
21 August

So basically just can't do this Saturday (because DD has dance exams).

Oh, and I'm going to bring DD(7) and DS(5) if that's okay with you.

No, PJEN, you should choose one of the languages and speak it to the baby, leaving English for DHh to speak. And then introduce the other language when your LO (yes, little one) speaks the first two... I would expect we are talking about primary school at this point.

I am impressed, what are the two languages?

I speak English and American.

pjen I'm not sure about the bilingual thing - I am bilingual but My second language is not one that I think has any use here in the uk (obscure language). One lady I know speaks one language to her dd and her husband speaks english.

Feeling sooo low today. Wish I could perk up a bit, but ds in such vile form it's just not happening. Supposed to be going to friend's wedding reception this evening, but now not sure as I just feel like getting ds to bed and chilling out. But I have been loaned a fabulous maternity dress that really clings to the bump and makes it look HUGE! Really don't know what to do.

Forgot to say welcome kathsunn

Also DP's family has five generations all live and kicking - DP's great grandad, nanna, MIL, DP and DS. We even took a photo of the five of them all together DS's great-great grandad is 91!

i think my spd is starting just tried to walk around the shops to get a dress for funeral on thurs and i was in agony.i was only out about 40 min. i never had it this early with the others. i can't face the physio again, it's crap and i don't want crutches

welcome kath

df im sure the edd stays the same now, if they bring mine forward anymore i will have conceived before af started

off to put my feet up for a while, now i have an excuse!

kath welcome! I've not been here long but everyone is lovely.

aimee hi and sorry about your friend, positive thoughts going his way. I'm 39 and was chatting to a (very nice) young girl on the bus the other day - she'd just finished her GCSEs, her mum is 42. Did kind of make me laugh. She was very nice and said i looked about 32 (so probably quite old to her!!)

mumatron have you ever seen a chiropractor for your spd? I'm sure I was reading something the other day about that. Sorry to be so vague!

notso re counting the kicks - I only had a good lot of movement last night, which is 20 weeks. The count the kicks is more for when yo are futher down the line, but its more about getting used to when baby is active and what is normal rather than counting 'x' number of kicks per day.

pjen my friend is finnish and talks to her children is Finnish, her husband talks to them in English. Children are very quick to learn when they are young and will soon figure out which friends/relatives they can talk to in what language. I think it is a real bonus to be bilingual, multilingual is even better.

I have to apologise -I always seem to be waffly posts! BTW had my 20 week scan today, all good, another wriggly one, the little arms were going just like a boxer! The sonographer was the same as had for the booking and she is lovely and knows our situation and we got 13 pics on a disc to take away. Spoilt!

lavita I wasn't confused....

jobob I'll be 42 when DS is 16! Oh my god that feels weird to even think

mumatron you have my sympathy! mine is starting too. Had to do the pillow between legs thing last night. It's flaring on and off. So sometimes I'm going about normally, others it's excruciating! Had it with DS as well but it wasn't diagnosed till late on, so wouldn't have got physio before giving birth!

queen I'll be 55 hahahahahahaha

A rather amusing story about bilingual child-raising: My cousin has a French mother and an English father and they spoke only their mother tongues to her. She recently told me that she was really quite old before she realised why my mum was always so uncommunicative with her. She had assumed that all men spoke English and all women spoke French!

Cheryl unfortunately we had a similar experience today with the sonographer lacking people skills. Quite sniffy when I asked if we'd find out sex of baby (No, this is an anomaly scan) & when DH asked a question she directed her reply to me as if he might as well not be there (the receptionist blanked a question from him too).

Nothing serious to worry about with baby, saw lovely healthy heart, head & limbs but he/she does have 5mm fluid patches (2 patches I think)on kidneys which means another scan in October (hopefully with someone more personable!) - the fluid may have gone but if it's increased to >6mm it could mean baby's at risk of kidney infections in which case would need birth at big...ie same hospital (had been considering home birth as local hospital has no A&E anyway) & antibiotics & monitoring for baby after birth / potential future renal issues. Now I've read a few bits of medical abstracts online it seems it's the most common anomally found at 20wk scan (1/100) & it seems only babies with moderate or major fluid in kidney(s) by the 3rd trimester are likely to need treatment. I'm going to see if I can drink/eat any natural remedies to condition my own kidneys in case that will help baby. Any advice welcome!

Hoping to have another chance to work out sex in October...but seems only if we're able to see for ourselves. Not sure I want to go for a specific sexing scan.

Got one photo but really our 12 week scan one was better!

Hope the rest of you have better stories to report!

Hi there,

can I join in? I've never joined a thread before, but have been reading this one for a while and have found it very helpful and friendly, so thought I'd give it a try.

I am 18+2 (EDD December 19th) with my first and am still wondering what I have gotten myself into.

I am so rubbish, i just cant keep up with you guys! good to read all the news.

18+2 and feeling rubbish today, still getting over d&v attack following our belated honeymoon. went back to work and felt blurghhh. where is my second tri glow? got the date for my scan and my 16 week mw appt (will be nearly 20 weeks by the time i see her!)

PJEN - re languages, there is some evidence that teaching more than 4 languages at a time is not particularly successful, so 3 should be fine! it is always best for children to learn languages from native speakers. generally immersing the child from birth is best. multilingual development can be a little tricky at times, can seem as if lang development slows down at times, but it typically sorts itself out and the bonuses are awesome. i say go for it!! your lucky little one!