would you call your child by your niece's middle name?

[amber5]

We were going to call our dd by a name which really suited her, but is my brother's dd's middle name. We're not particularly close and don't have the same friends, and we really didn't think it would matter.
After we'd called her this name for a week and really got used to it, my brother sent a text message to me asking us not to. We changed it to another name, but i'm not sure it suits her as much. I haven't seen or spoken to my brother since (dd is 9 weeks old)
What would you have done?

have you already registered her Elizabeth Ruby?

yes already registered, have to do it by 6 weeks.
dh come home from work with the suggestion that ella is short for elizabeth. mmm, maybe?

Ella is nice. So is Libby

What???

Just read your original message - that is so weird!!!

Why would someone be bothered by that?

He does not own the name!

I would call her what you want.

How often do you use your middle name anyway?

When dd was born and as asked her name I always gave her first, middle and surname. Now I just say her first name.

Ella is nice.

Your Mum is way out of order commenting on the name at all unless positive

your Brother is jealous: he wants his DD to be the only granddaughter I'll bet you, thinks you are usurping her role. But we don't like bullie, do we?

tell them you're keeping Ella / Libby ? Lizzie (all very nice) because 'you realised that Emma was the baby in friends, and naming a baby after a TV character is such a chavvy thing to do'.

Ella is great as a shortening.:) What a fab idea. I actually love all your choices- you have great taste in names. I think Elizabeth Ruby with Ella for short is just GORGEOUS. Enjoy her- I bet she's a cutie.

So is she registered as Elizabeth Ruby ? Liza, Eliza all spring to mind as similar in soudn to Emma but there are so many derivations of Elizabeth (take it from one who knows, lol!) that she'll probably be called something different at school in a way that can happen less easily with Emma.

thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat - i've read your advice before and think you are remarkably perceptive. what is your job in RL? you ought to be a psychologist imo

Ella!!! yes!!! wow your DH is clever!!

My dd is Emma and I allow you to use it

Ella ruby is lovely :D

Dont let your brothers insecurities spoil your precious time with your little one.

You can re-register a baby's name in the first 12 months IIRR. So if you want to you can change your little girl's name formally as well.

If you look on the back of your daughter's birth certificate, it has a printed section which tells you how to change a baby's name in the first year. This must happen a lot for it to be printed on the actual certificate, so you are certainly not alone.

Would you consider stopping talking to your family about your daughter's name? Why don't you give yourself a few months to decide - in the bigger scheme of things it's no time at all. Your daughter won't respond to her name until she is quite a few months old anyway.

Amber - thanks. I don't do anything remotely related to such matters. I do remember when I was at university though doing a careers service quiz it told me I ought to be a vicar!

Ah Amber I really feel for you! My latest dd was really hard to choose a name for, she's a Jessie and I have real difficulty calling it her for some unknown reason. I know she will grow into it eventually but I keep calling her Babs! Dp is horrified that people will think her names Barbara

Elizabeth is a lovely name and it can be shortened to many pretty names too :)

PS your brother is a dickhead

I think we should all call your brother Dikshit in honour of this thread.

Megglevache, that's a fab story about FIL, Nigel, ha, ha, ha!

WWW, if only you could see a pic of him - that makes it even funnier.
Uwila I love the Dikshit reference

I think that all the names you have thought of are lovely but do agree with others that as she grows your dd may appreciate the variety of names that come from Elizabeth rather than Emma. Your brother and mum are clearly being unreasonable and I do wonder if you are so upset about this because their current behaviour reflects how they have treated you in the past and that this is just as big an issue for you as the name thing itself.

Families can be a bit odd about thinking that they have rights over what you call your child as a lot of these posts show. Love Megge's lol post. If we had been expecting a boy had planned on Archie. Mil said "you can't call a baby that, my friend's dog's called Archie!" As if I care.. Now we know we are having a girl so thinking again.

Take care of yourself and make sure you get plenty of support in general from your dp/dh.