would you call your child by your niece's middle name?

[amber5]

We were going to call our dd by a name which really suited her, but is my brother's dd's middle name. We're not particularly close and don't have the same friends, and we really didn't think it would matter.
After we'd called her this name for a week and really got used to it, my brother sent a text message to me asking us not to. We changed it to another name, but i'm not sure it suits her as much. I haven't seen or spoken to my brother since (dd is 9 weeks old)
What would you have done?

Write them a letter

Dear bullying brother and pathetic mother (incidentally is he bullying her too?)

Although I realise that this may not be what you want, we are going to call our daughter Emma as this is the name we have chosen. This is in no way a reflection of how we feel about you - in fact we did not even consider that it was X's middle name until you mentioned it.

Given that X is known as X and not Emma, we can't see that there is an issue with this. If you choose to make it an issue that is a matter entirely for you.

Regards

Poor bullied Amber

changed it to elizabeth which we shortened to lizzie. this was goign to be her middle name - emma elizabeth. now she's elizabeth ruby (cos she's got red hair).
mum told me this morning she and dad don't like the name lizzie.

Oh honey, you've got a very small baby, your hormones will be all over the place and none of this is your fault. If you really don't think you can change her name back to Emma, then that's fine, we won't bully you into it! Its easy for us to sit at PCs and give advice but its very different when you are living.

If you are not going to change her name, then live with that, think hard about what name you are going to give her, its so important, then try to just relax and enjoy your baby.

And don't forget, your brother is a cock and I would put some distance between you.

xxx

What about Emmeline, then you could call her Emma and tell her all about the marvellous Mrs Pankhurst who got us the vote

But to be honest your brother sounds totally bonkers, I would be hugely flattered if someone wanted to use any of dd's names

well tell her to FUCK OFF

It really is none of her business

they sound like charmers, no wonder you are upset..

No, Amber, you're not being pathetic, they are. My dsis has given her youngest child my ds's middle name as his first name. I did a mild double-take when she first told me, but I don't mind in the slightest. As with 'Emma' the name in question is a pretty mainstream name which makes a good middle name and is not unusual as a first name, either. I suppose if your brother had gone out of his way to call his dd something really unusual, Esmerelda, let's say, or Rosamunda, then he might reasonably feel a bit miffed that someone was copying him, but he can hardly lay claim to the copyright on Emma!

My ds doesn't mind in the slightest that his cousin is called by his own middle name, although little cousin does look slightly perplexed when I address ds as Firstname Middlename (usually when he's done something wrong!).

If that's the name you really want, and you feel is right for your dd, then go for it. Otherwise you might go all through life feeling odd about the name she actually has.

Elizabeth is also a lovely name- i prefer Libby to Lizzie tbh, or even Ruby as a first name, we have friends who have just had a little girl called ruby.

still think though that you should have emma as your choice, and stick two fingers up to immature brother

i have to say Elizabeth is one of my all time favour names and was a potential name for both my dds, other factor stopped us using it.

and love Elizabeth Ruby

oh god, does your mother want to pick the name herself? Is she going to critise every name? I think you really need to tell Mum how much she is upsetting you, amber.

poor you, don't let your family bully you

they sound very mean

I wanted Elizabeth for ours but DH wouldn't let me :) It's a lovely name

Oh yes, I love Elizabeth shortened to Libby :)

i wanted a Libby too got a Phoebe and an Annalise instead!

By the way my cousin and I have the SAME first name and it's really nice :)

Sod him!

I agree with Frogs (and everyone else on here who thinks you should call your dd what you want to) - Emma is hardly Frideswide or Wilgefortis is it? It is a pretty, deservedly popular name. Really sorry you are being bullied and manipulated at a time which should be such a happy one, Amber. I'd be inclined to tell your mum you've plumped for Kerenhappuch or Fanny - she'll soon come round to Elizabeth, or Lizzie, or indeed Emma.

I love the name Elizabeth too - would have had it for dd but friends got there first (as a first name). Love all the shortened forms too. Ruby is great as a middle name as she has red hair - it has real meaning to it.

Hope you feel better about the name soon - as all have said your brother is being an ar$e and your mum isn't being much better .

But we did pass on Ellen Lucy because of the ear-bashing we know we'd have received from both our mothers, I have to confess

How about Gemma

Gemma's a good one . I was going to suggest Anna as its my dd's name and we have friends with an Emma and its surprising how similar they sound.. can get very confusing !!

Gemma!! thats a good one- or emma-louise as a double barrelled first name!

COUNTESS DRAC_ there is a thread with YOUR name on it in CHAT. ( sorry to hijack amber)