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would you call your child by your niece's middle name?

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amber5 · 29/03/2006 22:42

We were going to call our dd by a name which really suited her, but is my brother's dd's middle name. We're not particularly close and don't have the same friends, and we really didn't think it would matter.
After we'd called her this name for a week and really got used to it, my brother sent a text message to me asking us not to. We changed it to another name, but i'm not sure it suits her as much. I haven't seen or spoken to my brother since (dd is 9 weeks old)
What would you have done?

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amber5 · 30/03/2006 10:33

think i'll call her stinky pete

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CountessDracula · 30/03/2006 10:34

oh yes that's lovely Grin

stink for short

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WideWebWitch · 30/03/2006 10:36

Amvber, she's mad! Change it back ffs, it's no ones business but yours! Now realise why this thread has 78 posts!

harpsichordcarrier · 30/03/2006 10:37

oh Amber a great big Angry and grrrrrrr at your family.
what a waste of space and I agree with mamaG your brother is a cock Grin
Elizabeth is lovely and so are all the shortenings. My sister is called Elizabeth (there is a lot of sharing of names in my family) and she loves her name. She gets called Liz, Lizzy, Bess, Betsy, Beth, Sillibeth....
I must say it was one of the proudest moments in my life when my sister gave my niece my name as a middle name. shame on your family not to be letting you enjoy this lovely time.
sending love HC xx

WideWebWitch · 30/03/2006 10:37

Bloodyu hell, just skimmed and you are being bullied big time, blimey. Poor you. Do whatever you think is best, sorry, didn't mean to order you about as your family are doing!

CountessDracula · 30/03/2006 10:38

show them this thread

harpsichordcarrier · 30/03/2006 10:39

lol at Stinky Pete

Enid · 30/03/2006 10:39

I like Elizabeth Smile

SoupDragon · 30/03/2006 10:39

Stinky Pete is fab. I don't suppose your brother is called Peter is he? :o

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amber5 · 30/03/2006 10:43

soupdragon, you've finally made me lol and i'm a miserable cow this morning. his name is daniel, so it's stinky dan then!!!
just thought how about Danielle?

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WideWebWitch · 30/03/2006 10:43

God, they're being REALLY horrible aren't they? Not only ordering you to change the name but then bitching about the new one, fgs, how mean and unkind and not nice to do to an hormonal new mother. Poor you amber.

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harpsichordcarrier · 30/03/2006 10:45

would you like to borrow my fave expression amber?

I find it comes in very handy for all occasions....
when you find them saying something annoying, say very quietly to yourself "you appear to have mistaken me for someone who gives a F Smile"
I know you do give a F... but maybe if you can convince yourself.....

oliveoil · 30/03/2006 10:47

How dare you chose Elizabeth, that is dd1's middle name and I therefore claim it as mine.

Change it immediately.

(I love it when CD swears).

x

CountessDracula · 30/03/2006 10:53

LOL!

Some things just call for it though Angry

Uwila · 30/03/2006 10:56

Oh, you have to change it back (Uwila is a bully too)! I have a dear friend who had a child many years ago. She watend to name her Charlene and her friends talked her out of it. She never really liked the alternative name (Jessica). Jessica later - and VERY tragically - passed away at age 10. My friend later had another child and when she was considering names she made it very clear that she did not care what anyone though. Told me she should have named Jessica Charlene because it was her child and she regretted bing talked out of it.

Hey, what is your neices first name? Did they ask you if you liked it? I can't believe your own mother has you renaming your baby. Tell her to be supportive or take a hike.

Uwila · 30/03/2006 10:57

Yeah, OO, I took note of CD's language too. It was shocking.

Uwila · 30/03/2006 11:01

Oh amd if you don't want your child to share a name with any other child, you shouldn't use one that is commonly know to other people.

By the way, DD was nearly called Emma. It lost out to another name because the other name had some significance to family history.

And I think it's rather weird of your brother to jump to the conclusion that you are jealous of him. Does he think he is better than you and that there is something to be jealous of? Weird and egotistical reaction in my opinion.

LucyJu · 30/03/2006 11:16

I like your taste in girls' names!

Your parents and brother are being crass, insensitive and downright stupid about this whole names business. It's hardly as if db has copyright over the name Emma, is it? Or any other name, for that matter. And as for telling you thay don't like the name "Lizzie"- well, that is downright RUDE as well as everything else. I've heard losts of names that are not exactly what I'd choose, but I'd never dream of saying anything derogatory to their parents about it.

Decide on a name you are happy with and then tell your mother firmly but politely that she is your baby, and this is the name you have chosen. You haven't chosen it to upset anyone, you just like the name.

And as for db...

yomellamoHelly · 30/03/2006 11:18

How about adding Emma as a second middle name and calling her by that name. (My brother answers to his middle name because my mum quickly grew to prefer it to his first.) Officially she'd still be an Elizabeth and you only rock the boat rather than upset it completely. With time I do think your family will get used to it.

Nightynight · 30/03/2006 11:23

why on earth shouldn't you use the same name? and why on earth should they mind?

they didn't trade-mark the name, did they??

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amber5 · 30/03/2006 11:36

We did think about elizabeth emma and calling her emma, but our argument for it not mattering was that it's only niece's middle name therefore she's not known by it. if we then call lizzie by her middle name we're contradicting ourselves aren't we

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LadySherlockofLGJ · 30/03/2006 11:38

Call her what you want to call her.

Tell your Mother to F88K off, and as for your brother, what a waste of skin and bone and vital organs.

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