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I had that when I put Toms name down at Primary school. I filled the form in and wrote down all my sons names and ages!! When they asked about them I gave them the full story weird really, they never asked again LOL xx

Oh FM that is so hard (understatement I know)
I remember with Jamie having to do an "All about me" thing for when he started . I did all the usual stuff about what he liked to do and who he liked to play with blah blah blah .
Then on the other side I told them all about Harry and how he was well aware of him and to let me know if he was upset at school as he was going through a bit of a stage at that point . Asking lots and l;ots of questions about death . Funnilly enough they never brought it up with me .

However a wee while while one of the chickens they keep at school ( I know ) died and they all had a big chat about it . Did they let me know ? No did they buggery .

Sorry just realised I am [probably not helping

Ssssh TW .

I do wish I could give you a hug though (and a large glass of wine , I have had a couple already , it is Jamies 6th birthday WTF ! )

I have copied and pasted this list from the previous thread. I think this is the most up to date list we have

If you havent been added to this list yet please feel free to add your little one's details and copy and paste to a new post

JANUARY

20th Jan,1992 Billies birthday (Chegirl)

FEBRUARY

28th Feb,2008 Lucies birthday (Crumpette)

MARCH

11th March 2008, Eris's Birthday & Remember Day (FeedMeNow)
26th March 2008, Noah's Birthday (TheLighthouseKeeper)

APRIL

3rd April,2007 Benjamins remember day (Charleymouse)
12th April,2009 Lucies remember day (Crumpette)
13th April, 2005 Frasers remember day (FMummy)
15th April, 2005 Frasers birthday (FMummy)
27th April, 2006 Billie's remember day (chegirl)

MAY

10th May,1992 Matts remember day (Shabbs)
24th May,1993 Christinas birthday (B.Butterfly)

JUNE

04th June 2008, Noah's Remember Day (TheLighthouseKeeper)
25th June,1993 Christinas remember day (B.Butterly)
30th June, 2009 Niamhs birthday and remember day (Woolly Jo)
30th June, 1984 Matts birthday (Shabbs)

JULY

13th July - Callums remember day (LittleMissPMeno)
21st July, 1982 Gareths remember day (Shabbs)
23rd July,2009 Nimahs funeral (Woolly Jo)
29th July, 2008 Caitlins birthday (Olissa)
30th July. Coles birthday (Liketomoveit)

AUGUST

3rd August, 2008 Caitlins remember day (Olissa)
5th August,2009 Felix's birthday and remember day (Tinkerbelle)
8th August - Callums funeral (LittleMissPMeno)

SEPTEMBER

9th September Ciarans birthday and remember day (Deemented)
18th September,2006 Jaydens birthday (Hazygirl)

OCTOBER

1st October - Ciarans funeral (Deemented)
7th October,2000 Harrys birthday (TWilbury)

NOVEMBER

6th November 2008 - Oliver's Remember Day (Everlong)
7th November - Coles remember day (ILiketomoveit)
20th November 1987 - Oliver's Birthday (Everlong)

DECEMBER

1st December,2006 Jaydens remember day (Hazygirl)
2nd December,2001 Harrys remember day (TWilbury)
18th December,2006 Jaydens funeral (Hazygirl)
22nd December,1994 Jacks birthday and remember day (Lottie)
28th December,1981 Gareths (and Dannys) birthday

Hi, have added Archies details, I hope thats okay.

Abs

xx

JANUARY

20th Jan,1992 Billies birthday (Chegirl)

FEBRUARY

28th Feb,2008 Lucies birthday (Crumpette)

MARCH

11th March 2008, Eris's Birthday & Remember Day (FeedMeNow)
26th March 2008, Noah's Birthday (TheLighthouseKeeper)

APRIL

3rd April,2007 Benjamins remember day (Charleymouse)
12th April,2009 Lucies remember day (Crumpette)
13th April, 2005 Frasers remember day (FMummy)
15th April, 2005 Frasers birthday (FMummy)
27th April, 2006 Billie's remember day (chegirl)

MAY

10th May,1992 Matts remember day (Shabbs)
24th May,1993 Christinas birthday (B.Butterfly)

JUNE

04th June 2008, Noah's Remember Day (TheLighthouseKeeper)
25th June,1993 Christinas remember day (B.Butterly)
30th June, 2009 Niamhs birthday and remember day (Woolly Jo)
30th June, 1984 Matts birthday (Shabbs)

JULY

13th July - Callums remember day (LittleMissPMeno)
21st July, 1982 Gareths remember day (Shabbs)
23rd July,2009 Nimahs funeral (Woolly Jo)
29th July, 2008 Caitlins birthday (Olissa)
30th July. Coles birthday (Liketomoveit)

AUGUST

3rd August, 2008 Caitlins remember day (Olissa)
5th August,2009 Felix's birthday and remember day (Tinkerbelle)
8th August - Callums funeral (LittleMissPMeno)

SEPTEMBER

9th September Ciarans birthday and remember day (Deemented)
18th September,2006 Jaydens birthday (Hazygirl)

OCTOBER

1st October - Ciarans funeral (Deemented)
7th October,2000 Harrys birthday (TWilbury)
28th October 2009, Archies birthday (AbiAbi)

NOVEMBER

6th November 2008 - Oliver's Remember Day (Everlong)
7th November - Coles remember day (ILiketomoveit)
20th November 1987 - Oliver's Birthday (Everlong)

DECEMBER

1st December,2006 Jaydens remember day (Hazygirl)
2nd December,2001 Harrys remember day (TWilbury)
18th December,2006 Jaydens funeral (Hazygirl)
22nd December,1994 Jacks birthday, remember day (Lottie) and remember day Archie (AbiAbi)
28th December,1981 Gareths (and Dannys) birthday

right normal service is resuming.. thank you for your support

tw what did you do abour ratty ... ??

thanks for the hugs shabs..really helped

Morning girls xx

Morning all

FM , we put a trap down , which it ignored
we put poison down , which it ignored
In the end we ignored it and it seems to have buggered off . It was a strange creature , it seemed to just come and visit every now and then for a few days and then we wouldn't see it for weeks / months and then it would suddenly appear again .

Bit how I imagine having a teenage boy is going to be

Sorry not very helpful am I ? We did get the council to come out and they put all the poison down for us , we could have kept getting them out until he went and the charge was about £45 but as he left anyway she has never been back .

LOL - that does sound like the description of a teenage boy

Hazy are you around love? Ive no credit on my mobile and my Facebook is unavailable because of site maintenance!!!! I dont want you to think I am ignoring you....it drives me mad when I have no credit!

hello, how are you all. Im having so many down days lately. DB and i had a cry together the other night. I still think its a nightmare im going to wake up from dont believe its true. Does anyone mind if i add my brother to the list?

How can any of us mind Shelley? get his name on there this very minute young lady xxxxx

Just me being me. I will put it on now had to collect ds from preschool.

JANUARY

20th Jan,1992 Billies birthday (Chegirl)

FEBRUARY

28th Feb,2008 Lucies birthday (Crumpette)

MARCH

11th March 2008, Eris's Birthday & Remember Day (FeedMeNow)
26th March 2008, Noah's Birthday (TheLighthouseKeeper)

APRIL

3rd April,2007 Benjamins remember day (Charleymouse)
12th April,2009 Lucies remember day (Crumpette)
13th April, 2005 Frasers remember day (FMummy)
15th April, 2005 Frasers birthday (FMummy)
27th April, 2006 Billie's remember day (chegirl)

MAY

10th May,1992 Matts remember day (Shabbs)
24th May,1993 Christinas birthday (B.Butterfly)

JUNE

04th June 2008, Noah's Remember Day (TheLighthouseKeeper)
25th June,1993 Christinas remember day (B.Butterly)
27th June 1987 Matt's birthday (shelleylou)
30th June, 2009 Niamhs birthday and remember day (Woolly Jo)
30th June, 1984 Matts birthday (Shabbs)

JULY

13th July - Callums remember day (LittleMissPMeno)
21st July, 1982 Gareths remember day (Shabbs)
23rd July,2009 Nimahs funeral (Woolly Jo)
29th July, 2008 Caitlins birthday (Olissa)
30th July. Coles birthday (Liketomoveit)

AUGUST

3rd August, 2008 Caitlins remember day (Olissa)
5th August,2009 Felix's birthday and remember day (Tinkerbelle)
8th August - Callums funeral (LittleMissPMeno)

SEPTEMBER

9th September Ciarans birthday and remember day (Deemented)
18th September,2006 Jaydens birthday (Hazygirl)

OCTOBER

1st October - Ciarans funeral (Deemented)
7th October,2000 Harrys birthday (TWilbury)
19th October 2009 Matt's Rememberday (shelleylou)

NOVEMBER

6th November 2008 - Oliver's Remember Day (Everlong)
7th November - Coles remember day (ILiketomoveit)
20th November 1987 - Oliver's Birthday (Everlong)

DECEMBER

1st December,2006 Jaydens remember day (Hazygirl)
2nd December,2001 Harrys remember day (TWilbury)
18th December,2006 Jaydens funeral (Hazygirl)
22nd December,1994 Jacks birthday and remember day (Lottie)
28th December,1981 Gareths (and Dannys) birthday

ignore the last one got confused as i was talking and typing lol.

JANUARY

20th Jan,1992 Billies birthday (Chegirl)

FEBRUARY

28th Feb,2008 Lucies birthday (Crumpette)

MARCH

11th March 2008, Eris's Birthday & Remember Day (FeedMeNow)
26th March 2008, Noah's Birthday (TheLighthouseKeeper)

APRIL

3rd April,2007 Benjamins remember day (Charleymouse)
12th April,2009 Lucies remember day (Crumpette)
13th April, 2005 Frasers remember day (FMummy)
15th April, 2005 Frasers birthday (FMummy)
27th April, 2006 Billie's remember day (chegirl)

MAY

10th May,1992 Matts remember day (Shabbs)
24th May,1993 Christinas birthday (B.Butterfly)

JUNE

04th June 2008, Noah's Remember Day (TheLighthouseKeeper)
25th June,1993 Christinas remember day (B.Butterly)
28th June 1987 Matt's birthday (shelleylou)
30th June, 2009 Niamhs birthday and remember day (Woolly Jo)
30th June, 1984 Matts birthday (Shabbs)

JULY

13th July - Callums remember day (LittleMissPMeno)
21st July, 1982 Gareths remember day (Shabbs)
23rd July,2009 Nimahs funeral (Woolly Jo)
29th July, 2008 Caitlins birthday (Olissa)
30th July. Coles birthday (Liketomoveit)

AUGUST

3rd August, 2008 Caitlins remember day (Olissa)
5th August,2009 Felix's birthday and remember day (Tinkerbelle)
8th August - Callums funeral (LittleMissPMeno)

SEPTEMBER

9th September Ciarans birthday and remember day (Deemented)
18th September,2006 Jaydens birthday (Hazygirl)

OCTOBER

1st October - Ciarans funeral (Deemented)
7th October,2000 Harrys birthday (TWilbury)
19th October 2009 Matt's Remember day (shelleylou)

NOVEMBER

6th November 2008 - Oliver's Remember Day (Everlong)
7th November - Coles remember day (ILiketomoveit)
20th November 1987 - Oliver's Birthday (Everlong)

DECEMBER

1st December,2006 Jaydens remember day (Hazygirl)
2nd December,2001 Harrys remember day (TWilbury)
18th December,2006 Jaydens funeral (Hazygirl)
22nd December,1994 Jacks birthday and remember day (Lottie)
28th December,1981 Gareths (and Dannys) birthday

hi ,yep im around just worried with so much going on ,sometimes life is so crappy, i can scream sometimes ,shabs thanks for your help,i realy do apperiate you

nah shelleylou you cant add to the list.. its full....
sarcy cow alert

what are we all up to this weekend..now the roads are clear I will need to go take down Frasers xmas tree...I feel bad about it still being up

fm, ner ner i beat you to it. :P lol.

Preparing myself for another milestone with db. Might try organise a little surprise for dp as we'll have been together a year on monday.

Morning girls xx

Morning all.

It's been grey, wet, cold and windy all day here today. I actually prefer the snow

Another poor soul touched by a stillbirth

I have posted a link to our thread

another bloody awful stillbirth

Morning girls xx

hello ladies, i wondered if i could ask you a question?

i know some of you saw lockets thread yesterday about her poor friend whose baby died.
I really want to send her a card, but not sure what kind to send? just a blank one saying i'm thinking of them? i want to acknowledge the baby, but don't want to be insensitive!