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The very special thread for bereaved mums , dads , grandparents and anyone who has felt the agonising pain of child bereavement . Whatever madness you are feeling you will find a knowing ear .

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travellingwilbury · 04/11/2009 10:43

Welcome one and all , old and new .

We are all here in all our different stages and memories to support each other along the way .

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charleymouse · 20/12/2009 00:20

Trips so pleased to hear H is in remission. Brill news. I know Christmas is hard isn't it.

triplets · 20/12/2009 00:21

Thank you Brandy, sweet dreams xx

triplets · 20/12/2009 00:24

Hello Charliemouse.......thank you! Long time no hear! I am away to my bed but it is lovely to hear from you,hope all is well in your world. Glad to see my mate Shabs is looking after you all still, she is such a god soul, love her to bits! Night night Charlie xx

shabbapinkfrog · 20/12/2009 00:45

thank you Trips - my head is full of emotions and, as for my heart, I cant even go there. I have only met my buddy Trips once, in RL, but our friendship will last forever and a day. I cant quite cope at the moment without my Gareth and Matthew....I know I will and I know I can....it is just so very difficult xxxx

shabbapinkfrog · 20/12/2009 08:07

Morning girls xx

shelleylou · 20/12/2009 09:23

morning. I cant believe people still dont know about my db! Went out last night, was outside one of the pubs (had to come out as too hard being in there as db used to drink in there). The barman came over to me and told me he knows my db, i asked which one and said you know what happened then. Nope had to explain for the umpteenth time and got upset.

shabbapinkfrog · 20/12/2009 09:29

About a week after Gareth died I still had my twin buggy because I couldn't afford to get a single one. I walked through our local town with just Danny in it. A 'neighbour' came right up to me and said 'Have you got rid of the other little 'un then!!'

I just stared at her and said 'Actually the other little 'un died last week!'

She then came out with the classic comments 'Well, its a blessing he was very poorly!!' and the classic line of all time, one week after 'ARE YOU OVER IT NOW THEN!!'

shelleylou · 20/12/2009 09:45

your nieghbour is a moron!! sorry cant think of any other way to describe someone spouting those sort of comments. Some people have no sense at all.

My mum was asked if she had any other children, mum told them she had me and another son who lived at home. Then came out with well you still have children, its not like its your only child.

shabbapinkfrog · 20/12/2009 09:48

Oh aye I have heard loads of those 'foot in mouth' lines!!

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shabbapinkfrog · 20/12/2009 10:06

Morning Everlong - so good to see you xxxx

Yes I know all you lovely ladies are always here for me and I hope you all know the feeling is mutual.

There's only here really where I can put my 'strange' comments and emotions

xxxx

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 20/12/2009 12:24

Hello ladies

How LOVELY to see you Trips. Such fantastic news about your dh. I think of you all often and wonder how you are getting on.

Hello Brandy, you're always welcome here. Even if you only want to come on here when things are too much, or if you want to talk about Christina, that's fine. The door is ALWAYS open xxx

triplets · 20/12/2009 15:08

Me again, will you all please send love up to heaven for a girl I have never met? I belong to the Macmillen Cancer support group and have just heard that Claire died this morning, just 23, bowel/liver cancer like Harry. Her Dad Gary has been posting for over a year, we are a lovely group of about 20, patients or carers. Anna died in Aug, same cancer, age 27, I feel gutted, so so sad Thank you xx

shabbapinkfrog · 20/12/2009 15:11

Thinking of the family Trips....a life hardly begun? xxxx

hazygirl · 20/12/2009 16:27

thinking of everyone,big hugs my dd1 is 26 today,shes working today and im working tnite but will see her,i just wish i could give her the one thing she wants ,but i bloody cant ,shes choose to work it to escape it all god i hate this week.
trips thinking of claire today and all them that shes left behindxxx

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travellingwilbury · 21/12/2009 07:26

Good morning all , Trips , thinking of Claire and her family .

Big hugs to everyone xx

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shabbapinkfrog · 21/12/2009 07:58

Morning girls xx

shabbapinkfrog · 21/12/2009 23:08

Hope that everyone is doing whatever they need to be doing to get by at this strange time of year.

Thinking of you on Tuesday Lottie and already lighting a candle for a few hours in deepest respect and love for Jack xxx

shabbapinkfrog · 22/12/2009 06:54

Morning girls xx

shabbapinkfrog · 22/12/2009 08:08

Candles lit here in snowy Lancashire to respect and send love to Lotties son Jack. Lottie hope my boys and your Jack are giving them 'hell' in heaven Can just imagine them all celebrating his birthday xxxx Hope you find peace on this difficult day xxx

Deemented · 22/12/2009 08:37

Will light candle for Jack when i get home. Lots of love to Lottie x

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 22/12/2009 12:12

Will be thinking of you all today Lottie and will be lighting a candle for your darling Jack xxx

hazygirl · 22/12/2009 16:15

candle lit here in yorkshire,thinking of you and jack,lottiexx

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travellingwilbury · 22/12/2009 17:07

Candle lit here in Sussex for your gorgeous boy Lottie xx

I hope you manage to find some peace today xx

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crumpette · 22/12/2009 17:24

Candle lit in London for Jack, Lottie. Thinking of you x