The very special thread for bereaved mums , dads , grandparents and anyone who has felt the agonising pain of child bereavement . Whatever madness you are feeling you will find a knowing ear .

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Welcome one and all , old and new .

We are all here in all our different stages and memories to support each other along the way .

That's a lovely thing to do Dee, thank you xxx

If you do want to read a poem Dee I really don't think being pg is inappropriate. You are a grieving parent just like everyone else there.

We get invited to a memorial service at the hospital C was treated in and at our local, but I can't face either tbh. For me it feels like a step too far. I really don't think I'd be able to hold it together. One day maybe ............

afternoon girlsx and dee that is a lovely idea x

Hi girls I am sorry for not getting on here for the last couple of days but I have been thinking of you all esp hazy and tw

I thought I was the only one who wanted to slap folk.. usually happens in my work!!

I have seen a few of those of kind of services in our area Dee.. I have never done it because I thought I would think it completley impersonaland led by folk who have no idea. But your posting has made me think again

Can I play devil's advocat Dee and say will you feel bad and feel like you have let Ciaran down for not doing your poem just cos you are expecting again

Please dont think for one minute I think this of you .. just want you to consider how you might feel afterwards if you dont. I think people will be pleased for you and possibly bring hope to others who are newly bereaved

I havent been offered the swine flu jab for
Ross yet but I am thinking no. Its all too new for me at the moment and the actual virus doesnt seem that bad

Hi fm , I have no idea what I am going to do about the swine flu jab , I keep reading up about it and getting nowhere .

Evening girls xx

Well done Everlong - I am procrastinating (love that word) with mine!!

Good morning girls xx

Good morning all , I am thinking of doing the tree this weekend . It does mean I will have to clean the house first so maybe not

How is everyone this morning ?

Morning TW - Im a grumpy old fart but at least its Friday!!!

So chuffed with Tom - one of the knobheads bully boys at school used to go to Wrestling club with Tom. At the wrestling this kid was very agressive - he would do anything to win a bout - biting, scratching etc. He came up to Tom in the dinner queue. The conversation went like this - bearing in mind I have told Tom either to ignore him, fight him or use his sarcasm.

Kid: Come on then fat, gay boy lets fight!!
Tom: No thanks Ryan!
Kid: Come on I'll will kick your head in!
Tom: I dont want to fight you Ryan because I love you!
Kid: Freak!
Tom: Im not a freak Ryan I have just fallen in love with you!!!

All year 11 boys in the dinner queue screaming with laughter as the bully walked away flabbergasted!!

One of them said to Tom 'that was just class, funniest thing I have heard for ages - if you ever need my help with anybody you just have to shout up!'

In Toms words, his new found bodyguard, is 'really tall and 16 years old - all said with great reverence and admiration!

shabs that is bloody brill ,tom were all proud of youxx

morning,
shabbs thats classsic from Tom. I bet the kid didnt know what happened and was embarressed that the year 11's were taking the mick.

Well done Tom

What a marvellous reply to the pillock .

You must be so proud of him .

Awwww ta girls - glad he has inherited my sarcastic sense of humour - stuff falls out of my mouth and I think I really shouldn't have just said that

Just Brilliant Shabs!! Before I read your last comment I was just thinking I wonder where he gets that from??!!!!!!

I'm struggling just now. One day is just rolling into the next and I just don't want to do christmas but i have to for DS1's sake. It's also my DH's birthday tomorrow so I'm looking for one of your shiny smily faces Shabs to stick on for at least today and tomorrow. We're taking DS1 to see the Paed this pm who treated Gregor in A&E. Not looking fwd to going back to the hospital as I've got to meet the consultant in the kids ward.

Do you think it's too much to ask for a quiet couple of days sometime soon?

Sending these for you and a loan of my Elanore Rigby face (thank you for that song The Beatles) you are doing so well my love. As for a few peaceful days????? If I find any I will post them straight to you xxxxxx

Good luck at the hospital - it is a daunting prospect - after I lost Gareth I got a job cleaning at the childrens hospital [slightly mentally ill emoticon] and they put me on the Heart ward and cleaning the mortury!!!!!!!!! In a weird way it brought me comfort to see Gareths little pals getting through their operations and going home - I felt closer to him when I was at work.

Indulge me I need a laugh!!

This is a live performance in Bolton and we know half of the people in the audience!! Afraid to see that Peter Kays accent is our accent!!

Thanks Shabs. My head keeps feeling like its gonna explode. One day at a time.

One of the school teachers in DS1's small village primary school died last week very suddenly aged 55. Her funeral is this pm at the same crem we went to with Gregor. Sadly we can't go as we're taking DS1 to the hosp at the same time. RIP Miss A xxxxxxxxx

I love Peter Kay

Now I am going to have to play on youtube rather than being constructive with the cleaning .

Shame eh ?

I used to feel as if I was stood in a suit of armour with the helmet on as well....if I stumbled on this crappy path of bereavement, just once then the whole suit would crumple!! That sounds barking mad when I read it back but its just how I felt.

So sorry to hear about Miss A - that would be hard to go to her funeral - so difficult.

Could be worth having your blood pressure checked love - I have very high blood pressure (managed with tablets) and thats how my head used to feel before I was put on medication. BUT I know thats not your problem - at the moment, getting to the end of each day is causing your head to feel like that. All will be well my dear friend - all WILL be well xxxxx

I always, always believe things happen for a reason (however shit they are!) so I think this hosp appt came up to prevent me going back to the crem just yet.

You're right my head usually doesn't feel this stuffed until later in the day - just too much going on this weekend i think. Picking up DS1 early from school this pm so we're going to make DH and DS1's best friend (who share a bday tomorrow) a cake! It's the little things in life that are so important.

OK off to get to grips with the day! Catch you all later xx

Do you ever wake up in the mood for a good shouting match ?

I am in such a grumpy bloody mooid this morning . I really want to go and have a good old barny with someone . I think I had better lie low today

Only wake up like that every morning TW xx

I hope all went ok PPM xxx

Yes I do wake up feeling like that TW. I call it 'feeling shouty'. Luckily it's not too often but when I do I seriously feel like I could rip someones head off