Gareth and Matthews thread for bereaved Mummies - the special thread where the light bulb at the end of the tunnel is always lit xx

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So pleased that we are all here helping each other walk the 'crappy' path xxxx

Thinking of you and all your boys today Dee.

Light and love to you all today Dee.

A candle will be lit here in honour of Ciaran xxx

Thank you all for you love and thoughts.

Well today has been.... busy! Boyo has had such a wonderful day, he really has. He loved his presents and really enjoyed his party, which was horrendously hectic, but fun nonetheless.

After the party i took myself off for an hour or so, and went up to Ciarans grave, where i spent an hour just fussing and chatting. Twas good just to have that break.

Thanks again for all your love x

Awww Dee - your post sounds so much more calm...you gave your lovely boyo a fab birthday and still spent time with lovely Ciaran. Well done you xxxx

We bought 3 new candles last week - I explained to Tom about your boys and asked him which candle we should light...he said 'All three of them, one each for Dees twins and one for my big brothers!' So all 3 are lit A Strawberry scented one, vanilla scented one and a toffee scented one. It smells so good in my living room - think tom had the right idea. xxxx

Good morning all

Dee it sounds like yesterday went as well as it possibly could have done . It sounds like Boyo had a marvellous time .

How we all doing this morning ? I have been feeling a bit bleurgh the last couple of days but not sure why .

Dee - glad you were able to get a bit of space.

Felix was still born on 5 August 2009.

Hope everyone is well - I had a lovely morning with a friend yesterday. I haven't known her long but she was wonderful. Her mum died last year and she really understood. We talked about Felix and her mum and cried a bit. I felt really comforted.

Morning girls xx

Morning ladies and hello to the new ladies I have not seen before, I have been lurking again sorry. On a positive note new baby is a proper little wriggler and makes my tummy look all sort of shapes at night Have added Bs details below.

Benjamin's Birthday and Remember day 3 April 07
Niamh's Birthday 30 June 09
Callum's Remember Day 13 July
Niamh's Burial 23 July 09
Caitlin's Birthday 29 July 08
Cole's Birthday 30 July
Caitlin's Remember Day 03 Aug 08
Callum's Funeral 08 Aug
Ciaran's Birthday and Remember Day 09 Sept
Ciaran's Burial 01 Oct
Harry's Birthday 07 Oct
Cole's Remember Day 07 Nov
Harry's Remember Day 02 Dec 01
Jack's Birthday 22 Dec 94

morning girls

how are you doing this morning Dee.. its a real empty feeling when you realised you have survived another year without your ds isnt it?? how can the world still be spinning and actually seem to be spinning faster than before??

I have come down with flu again ...I reckon I am run down and need a week at a spa.. reckon I could get it on the nhs???

I have added Frasers dates to the list

Benjamin's Birthday and Remember day 3 April 07
Frasers remember day 13 April Frasers b/day 15 April 05
Niamh's Birthday 30 June 09
Callum's Remember Day 13 July
Niamh's Burial 23 July 09
Caitlin's Birthday 29 July 08
Cole's Birthday 30 July
Caitlin's Remember Day 03 Aug 08
Callum's Funeral 08 Aug
Ciaran's Birthday and Remember Day 09 Sept
Ciaran's Burial 01 Oct
Harry's Birthday 07 Oct
Cole's Remember Day 07 Nov
Harry's Remember Day 02 Dec 01
Jack's Birthday 22 Dec 94

I cant remember much of Frasers funeral let alone the date.. there are lots of blanks that day. The weird thing is I can remember every detail of the night we lost him

Can I make a suggestion for the list???

I was wondering if we should add our posting names to it, I know we dont have any duplicate names at the mo but there is going to come a time when we have 2 frasers for example and someone thick like me is going to post to the wrong person..

Just a thought.. feel free to say thats rubbish

Hiya FMammy - You are right about adding our names. I've been writing down all the dates on paper (old fashioned???) and have made a note of everybodys MN names next to them.

Will put on what I have, up to now, probably over the weekend.

I've just realised that I love organising people

Hi all.

Wondered where you've been TW. You alright love? If you need to get anything off your chest you know we're always here.

tinkerbelle - it sounds like you had a lovely time with your friend. It often helps to remember, talk and cry, it can be a great release and as you said a great comfort.

Hi Girls

I dont know if any of you are members of sands..

I wander over there from time to time and notice tonight that their forum is shut due to people making deflammotary posts

I think they are wrong to close it.. I mean sands is a reocognised organisations for bereaved parents

anyway if any of you have posted over there and would like to retrieve anything from the board you need to do so before 21 September when they will delete it all

FMammy I heard about that on Facebook - sounds like there has been some awful, bitchy, nastiness going on. How pathetic to behave like that - everybody in the same boat but arguing - I cant imagine that ever happening on our thread...think it would break my heart if it did.

Thanks Ilike , I think it is just the time of yr (Harrys birthday in Oct then remember day dec 2nd) . I can feel the change of the season and I know it is all just around the corner .

fm, that is awful , I don't post there as Harry was 14 mths but I have posted somewhere in the past that got caught by someone pretending to be a bereaved parent . It was awful , they were very lucky not to end up with blood on their hands .

I hope everyone who wants to manages to retrieve their posts for the future .

How is everyone this evening ? I have already poured myself a vodka and d coke This diet lark is all well and good but having a glass of wine while making the dinner feels ok where as having a vodka feels a bit trashy .
Hasn't stopped me though

Hi all, Im busy cooking dinner for my lovely new friend Ellie and I, her husband is in Sardinia on work (lucky bugger) E couldnt get time off so she is coming for dinner a la Grey Gables!! Pork Cider and Cream Casserole, Mashed potatoes and beans fried in garlic butter,,,,,,,,,,, then Creme Brulee with Raspberries!!!

Any of you ladies having trouble getting onto Facebook tonight? Have tried for about half an hour but cant get any joy!

No Shabs , I have just logged on and all seems ok , but a couple of friends on there have said they are having trouble today .

My friend, Chelle, just texted me saying 'Cant get onto bloody FB' - and other more strong words

Oh Dear , good luck to her and you , you may well be getting a lot of irate texts until it sorts itself out x

{{{TW}}}

lol at the trashy vodka, that did make me

How's the diet going? I really need to get my arse in gear and lose some weight

I have lost half a stone in two weeks (need to lose two more stone)
I am feeling pretty motivated which makes a bloody change .

It is very boring though

Well done , what will power!

Yes it is boring though isn't it.

well done tw .. I need to join you but cant find the motivation

Still no joy with facebook - apparently Virginmedia customers (I'm one) cant get onto FB or Hotmail - they are working on it now Yeeeeeeeees...right!!

I'm with virgin and can get onto both!!