Gareth and Matthews thread for bereaved Mummies - the special thread where the light bulb at the end of the tunnel is always lit xx

[shabbapinkfrog]

So pleased that we are all here helping each other walk the 'crappy' path xxxx

Thank you Dee - going to write them all down and then post them - probably at the end of the week.

No wonder tomorrow is going to be hard going at your house....will be thinking about you. Passing you my 'painted on smile' mask to wear tomorrow. Boyo deserves a happy day BUT I know exactly how hard that is going to be. Keep the mask if you want - I've got loads more where that came from xxxxx

I think it's a good plan too .

Harrys birthday 07-10-00

The day our lives changed forever 02-12-01

thanks Shabs...

Caitlin's birthday 29.07.08
and her 'remember day' 03.08.08

Lets see if this works then, thanks shabs xx

www.davidpbrown.co.uk/poetry/edgar-guest.html

Just noticed the links info at the rhs of this message box, feeling really embarassed and thick now!! ha ha you live and learn heh!

I do stuff like that as well

Jacks birthday and the day he died 22nd December 1994.

Hello, good luck to all the little ones back at school this week hope it all goes well.

Just been in touch with the midwife who's been chasing the consultant for my follow up appointment regarding Niamh's birth/death. We were told it would take 6-8weeks to come through, it is now 10 weeks and I've just been told I won't get the appointment until the start of October! Don't they understand that we need to do this before we can take another step forward? We were ready for this about 5 weeks ago and whilst we know that the outcome is likely to be inconclusive going back to the hospital etc is going to be quite an ordeal and one I wanted to do before I went back to work just in case it sends me really low again.

As it is I have been doing ok recently and had decided to go back to work next week but this has set me right back again, not sure what to do now.

Niamh - death/birthday 30/06/2009
burial 23/07/09

Evening everyone,

Good idea about the names .

Callum = 13 July (the day he died)

August 8th = his funeral.

In case I don't get on here tmw, I will be thinking of you Dee x.

Evening all.

It is M's 1st birthday today. I feel a bit more like I don't have to hold my breath quite so much as it's such a landmark reached and he's not been ill - even though C's illness wasn't genetic.

Cole's Birthday 30 July
Cole's Remember Day 09 Nov

We will be thinking of you tomorrow Dee.

I am sure the 10th is a significant date for someone too

We need some order

cut and paste everytime one of our precious darlings are added.

Niamh's Birthday 30 June 09
Callum's Remember Day 13 July
Niamh's Burial 23 July 09
Caitlin's Birthday 29 July 08
Cole's Birthday 30 July
Caitlin's Remember Day 03 Aug 08
Callum's Funeral 08 Aug
Ciaran's Birthday and Remember Day 09 Sept
Ciaran's Burial 01 Oct
Harry's Birthday 07 Oct
Cole's Remember Day 07 Nov
Harry's Remember Day 02 Dec 01
Jack's Birthday 22 Dec 94

Oh crap, I have just read all of the previous posts and have realised I have waded in with my size 8's (yes my feet really are that big ) and I've gone and taken over Shab's job. So please ignore list

I'm really struggling tonight, folks.

I know the build up to it is always worse then the actual day itself - tomorrow i'll probably be too busy to sit and dwell - but i'm missing my baby tonight.

I long to hold him just one last time, to tell him i love him.. i just ache to be with him.

Niamh's Birthday 30 June 09
Callum's Remember Day 13 July
Niamh's Burial 23 July 09
Caitlin's Birthday 29 July 08
Cole's Birthday 30 July
Caitlin's Remember Day 03 Aug 08
Callum's Funeral 08 Aug
Ciaran's Birthday and Remember Day 09 Sept
Ciaran's Burial 01 Oct
Harry's Birthday 07 Oct
Cole's Remember Day 07 Nov
Harry's Remember Day 02 Dec 01
Jack's Birthday 22 Dec 94
Billie's Birthday 20th January 92
Billie's Anniversary 27th April 06

Is it terrible that I cannot remember the date of her funeral?

Dee thinking of you x

I cant remember the date of Jacks funeral either, it was at least two weeks after he died because of Christmas and New Year in the middle!

I'll link you to my other thread in Chat from this evening to lighten the atmosphere! Hopefully it will make you smile!
It could only happen to me!!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/821765-Ive-just-been-scared-to-death

Oh i forgot to say Happy Birthday Mac!!! Big Hugs from Wilfred and I from one side of Suffolk to the other!! (Arms across Suffolk)

Thanks Lottie

Oh Dee, I wish I could find words of comfort for you, but I don't think I have any. However I do want you to know that I am thinking of you and Ciaran.

I often think of Cole when I am bf'ing M (I think it's the hormones), and I then transport myself and believe that the weight in my arms is Cole again. To many I'm sure that sounds macabre and very very odd, but it gives me some comfort and makes me stop and think of and feel close to Cole again.

Maybe holding your dc close and giving them an extra tight hug may help lessen your longing?

Happy, Happy birthday to Mac. xxxx

Good morning all

Dee you and Ciaran will be in my thoughts today xx

Dee thinking about you today.

I wish I could say something that could help

Lots of love to you and your boys today Dee. Hope the day goes really well. Lighting my candle here in Bolton xxxx

candle lit here and thinking of you deexx
jayden was born 18th sepember 2006
jayden left us 1st december 2006
funceral 18th decemberxx

Morning all.

Dee, Am thinking about you today and sending you a hug. Hope you get through the day as best you can. Much love xx

Hey everyone x.

Just to say am thinking of you and your boys today Dee x.

Thinking of you and your boys today Dee, we have lit a red candle (as chosen by DS!)
Hope Boyo has a good party - and that you get some space for yourself xx