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Harry's thread for bereaved mums , Wether its a hand to hold or a shoulder to cry on we are all here one for all and all for one .

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travellingwilbury · 26/02/2009 12:56

Many thanks to ILike for passing on the baton to myself and Harry . I know we are a bit previous but I am worried I will get the timing wrong .

I feel like I have only been here a wee while but it is invaluable to me .

This is a poem that has helped me in the past .

I have not turned my back on you
So there is no need to cry.
I'm watching you from heaven
Just beyond the morning sky.

I've seen you almost fall apart
When you could barely stand.
I asked an angel to comfort you
And watched her take your hand.

She told me you are in more pain
Than I could ever be.
She wiped her eyes and swallowed hard
Then gave your hand to me.

Although you may not feel my touch
Or see me by your side.
I've whispered that I love you
While I wiped each tear you cried.

So please try not to ache for me
We'll meet again one day.
Beyond the dark and stormy sky
A rainbow lights the way.

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Deemented · 08/04/2009 22:37

Back from my day out - am exhausted!!!

TBH i'd just like a car that actually goes, with four weels that go round and that isn't going to break down on me 12 days after i buy it!!! But i couldn't find anything in my price range....

shabster · 09/04/2009 08:31

Morning girls xx

Deemented · 09/04/2009 09:21

Morning folkses x

Did anyone notice that big fat full moon last night? Full moons like that always make me think of Ciaran - there was a big full moon the night that he was buried. God, i miss him.

shabster · 09/04/2009 09:34

Yes I noticed it Dee - in fact I pointed it out to Tom.

I can identify with your words - the longing to see our precious children is mentally and physically so strong. xxx

Deemented · 09/04/2009 17:38

Evening ladies.

I have had such a strange day. Was feeling down today, yunno, general missing everyone stuff, when i got a letter from the charity that are giving free counselling to boyo.

Because we are 'one of their families now', they have decided that we need a break, and have offered us the use of one of their caravans completely free of charge, for a week!So, we are going on holiday to Tenby from 27th June to 4th July!!!! I am so so excited - there was no way i could have afforded a holiday this year, but it will be great for us all to get away and it's nice to have something to look forward to!

frasersmummy · 09/04/2009 17:41

I tell Ross that Fraser can see the moon from heaven the same way he can see it from earth. I catch him gazing at it sometimes and wonder what he is thinking.. probs nothing more sinister than.. wonder if its made from cheese???

It will be 5 years next week since we lost Fraser.. does anyone else ever feel like what happened was just a bad dream or that it happened to someone else ... before reality hits again

gardeningmum05 · 09/04/2009 17:48

great news deemented

frasersmummy...i spent the 1st year convinced i would get a knock at the door and someone from the hospital would tell me it was a mistake. erin was still alive and they had got the babies mixed up.
the run up to the anniversary of the death is the worse time i think. a big hug to you from us here in nottingham x

Deemented · 09/04/2009 18:00

Yes, FM - i feel like that often. Like someone is going to come and say there's been a mistake, and he's not dead afterall. It's so bloody unfair, isn't it? Five years seems like such a long time, but yet it's almost like yesterday at the same time.

shabster · 09/04/2009 19:15

I couldn't move from our old house (matts accident happened on the road right outside the front gate) for years - because I thought 'if he came home and knocked on the door and nobody was there what would he do?'

Awwwww Dee - so thrilled for you about your holiday. Tenby is beautiful. WOW some good news

frasersmummy · 09/04/2009 20:37

we x posted dee.. thats fab about your holiday

are you going to a haven type place or a private park do you know

Deemented · 09/04/2009 21:12

It's a Haven, so there will be plenty for boyo to do

shabster · 10/04/2009 07:24

Good morning girls xx

Deemented · 10/04/2009 07:38

Morning folks.

I sold my car last night. SO it's Shank's pony from now on, until i can find another. I'm actually going to look at one later, so fingers crossed!

Hope everyone has a good day x

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 10/04/2009 08:14

Good luck with finding a new car Dee, and great news about the holiday. You'll all have a fab time

I feel just like you FM. Sometimes it feels like it was a bad dream, then other times it feels like it was yesterday. Let us know your anniversary so we can light a candle and think about you all xxx

lottiejenkins · 10/04/2009 11:14

Hi all, im not at all well today........
Ive been on the sofa and been sick........Wilf has gone to friends for the day!

frasersmummy · 10/04/2009 11:31

sorry Ilike I think you already asked me that...

Fraser would have been 5 on the 15th (Wed)

I still find it hard to call it his b/day because he wasnt actually born on that day if you see what I mean.

Its soo bloody hard when I remember carrying my dead baby in my tummy for 2 whole days

Its not fair its really not and its not right either.T hat lazy/incompetent midwife has a sin to answer for...

sorry small rant there

lottie hope you feel better soon

dh has taken ross to the park so I have managed to clean all my toilets (why do new houses have soo many)and do 2 loads of washing. even though dh went out with the words.. i'll go out you have a rest (aye right)

and seeing as dh has no self control at all we are apparently opening the first easter egg this afternoon

shabster · 10/04/2009 11:55

Awwww FM - I would really, really struggle with what went on.....I think I would rant much more than that.

Will be lighting our candle for your little fella xxxx

Olissa · 10/04/2009 22:17

Hello all, sorry not been about. Just been having a bit of a catch up, the messages about expecting a knock at the door ring a bell... I felt so conspicuous out in public and thought everyone must know what had happened to me, felt really silly. Then a friend told me that when her brother died she kept expecting it to be on the news! Felt more 'normal' after that.

DH and I have been back to Relate again, our new counsellor is much nicer but DS's nursery called half way through the session to say he was ill and we had to go pick him up. He's got hand foot and mouth and is all spotty. On the plus side, he's doing really well with potty training.

My mum and dad are coming tomorrow, haven't seen them since Christmas and can't wait. (Neither can DS - DH may have a different opinion!)

Love to all - I will light a candle for Fraser on Wednesday FM. How is your mum doing?

frasersmummy · 10/04/2009 22:57

I know not everyone on here believes in God but its Good Friday and this quotation someone sent me years ago popped into my head..

"God has written the promise of resurrection
not just in books but in every leaf in springtime"

shabster · 11/04/2009 01:05

FM - I do believe in God - but Im not sure if he is my companion, or even my friend.

Can you imagine how his Mammy, Mary, must have felt to see him crucified today. I watched a film today about the crucifixion (spelling?) and tried to imagine, if the story is true, how she must have felt.

Our beloved children are so very special to us.......if the Bible is true how must Mary have felt? xx

shabster · 11/04/2009 01:06

Good night my dear friends xx

Deemented · 11/04/2009 08:06

G'morning folks.

shabster · 11/04/2009 08:09

Good morning girls xx

lottiejenkins · 11/04/2009 08:50

Morning all. Wilf is off to a birthday party this afternoon, he wants to wear "posh clothes" so i have had to buy a shirt from the charity shop and found him a tie reduced to £1 in Primark to wear! He is very excited about it! We have had a fairly good week, he was very excited with the Chelsea score on Wednesday night!!

frasersmummy · 11/04/2009 08:54

morning girls

Its a gorgeous day in Glasgow .. I reckon all outdoor activities in our area will be mobbed..

Ross got loads of outdoor toys for his b/day so we might just play in the garden

have a good day all

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