Harry's thread for bereaved mums , Wether its a hand to hold or a shoulder to cry on we are all here one for all and all for one .

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Many thanks to ILike for passing on the baton to myself and Harry . I know we are a bit previous but I am worried I will get the timing wrong .

I feel like I have only been here a wee while but it is invaluable to me .

This is a poem that has helped me in the past .

I have not turned my back on you
So there is no need to cry.
I'm watching you from heaven
Just beyond the morning sky.

I've seen you almost fall apart
When you could barely stand.
I asked an angel to comfort you
And watched her take your hand.

She told me you are in more pain
Than I could ever be.
She wiped her eyes and swallowed hard
Then gave your hand to me.

Although you may not feel my touch
Or see me by your side.
I've whispered that I love you
While I wiped each tear you cried.

So please try not to ache for me
We'll meet again one day.
Beyond the dark and stormy sky
A rainbow lights the way.

Frasersmammy yes I did try to listen most of the time.....I had to stop doing it after a couple of years I just couldnt cope with the raw emotions of 'early' grief. It made me very depressed. The fantastic thing is that I 'found' my lovely, lovely friend Triplets through Compassionate Friends. xx

afternoon girls ,hope you are ok ,i know how you feel ,today at work walked into a room there was a man in his fifties crying,his wife is dying today he looked at me and said you dont understand my life is f--g over,i said i do understand mate i thought my life was over two years ago but had to find strength to carry on to get the others through it, at end of shift i went said goodbye and he hugged and kissed me and thanked me, no probs mate i do know where you are and i went got changed and cried for him,life is so bloody shit sometimes

Awwww Hazy he will remember that conversation for the rest of his life. You are right life is a load of shit. x

Hey ladies! Just checking in briefly.

Lots I want to say about the conversations that are going on but don't have time, so will just say that I am thinking of you all and think you are all fab!

Hi again,

Shabs thanks for taking the time - as always. That job must have been so difficult for you to do, but you did it anyway - you are so strong. I hope I can be as strong. I want this job to be one I stay in and learn and give my best for a long time. I think it is so worthwhile and so important.

Hazy I agree that the man will remember your compassion and understanding for ever. It is moments like that that stay with us. You could have walked away and saved yourself the pain of sharing his pain but you didnt. That is amazing.

Dee I am sorry to hear that your little lad has been so poorly. I wish him all the best.

To all who find themselve here. Hello. I come in and out . I cant always find the words. Ironic because this is my best thread if you see what I mean. I find it 'easier' to post flippant comments on the more silly threads. But I find myself back here because there is always a warm welcome and kind words.
I wish you all didnt have to be here but I hope you find what I do.

just bathed the girls had for a bit after work,was telling them tales of when iwas a kid and my mum put all five of us in bath together,ol said gran was that when you were little,before you got fat eating everything ,that little one always makes me laughx

chegirl...know exactly what you mean

to the rest...I can't keep my eyes open any longer, so I will bid you all a good night!

chegirl - I dont think I am strong.....I have this weird thing about getting on with stuff!! Have had cervical cancer twice and got away with it....I really think that the greater our sense of humour and the more we put a face on - the more we get away with it!!!! Life is a bunch of crap - its how we clean up the crap that counts xx

Morning ladies xx

Morning all... Wilf didnt wake up till after 9.30! He took advantage of his extra hour in bed! He has been watching Are We Done Yet? He loves that film!

Bloody hell shabs you've been to hell and back soo many times havent you.

And yet here you are with a smile on your face taking care of your grandson and helping others..here have a glass of nice white wine

The whole "you are really strong" thing used to annoy me

I used to want to scream at people who said this I am not strong I need support

Nowadays I just think well I must be cos I have dealt with all this crap and I am still getting on with life

Im off to a healing service at church tonight so will pray for those of us who need healing...i was thinking particularly of Trips husband..........how is he Shabs?

afternoon ladies ,hope everyone has the sun now it was freezing this morning but lovely.had the girls for a couple of hours and ive got a night shift yetx

bugger bugger bugger

sorry for the language but my pc has a horrid horrid virus and it seems the only way to get rid of it is to rebuild my pc.

Do these bloody malicious people have nothing better to do

so I guess i wont be around for a few day

Awwww Frasersmammy - every time I go on instant messanger either on Facebook or MSN we have the same problem. Hope you are back soon xxxx

Good night girls xx

Morning all, am off to London for my hospital appointment this morning....Antonia is coming with me!

Good morning girls. Good luck Lottie - let us know how you go on xx

Hey folks.

My new (to me) car is buggered. The clutch has gone almost completely, and i've got a chip in the windscreen which has gone down to the second layer of glass so the whole windscreen needs replacing. Am so now impressed as i haven't had the car two months yet. It'd cost more to fix it then i actually paid for it. Am seriously out of pocket now with no car and am not a happy bunny. Just for once, i'd like something to go right. Gah.

dee...so sorry to hear about your windshield. I have been in the same boat for the past three months, mine chipped back at Christmas on a drive to Wales...been waiting for the weather to get better to get the screen replaced.

In other news, and this is bittersweet to put this on here, but I just found today I am again expecting. Had been thinking it might be the case for a while, especially since my emotions have been all over the map. Anyway, I hope my news does not offend anyone, that is not my intention, so please do not think it is. I thought long and hard about whether to post it on here or not.

Good evening all,

Melissa thanks for sharing your news. I wish you all the very best for your preganancy and beyond. I got pregant a year after I lost my Billie and it was an emotional time. Of course is was well worth it but it was hard all the same.

Congratulations, Melissa

Congratulations - how wonderful.

We have had quite a few new babies on our special thread and, in my opinion, it is always lovely news. How exciting! How far along are you?

Congratulations Melissa
Hope you have a healthy and happy pg.

Boo to broken PCs and windscreens though!

OMG I just saw the advert on TV about speeding! Just OMG!!! That was a bit of a kick in the bits!!