Harry's thread for bereaved mums , Wether its a hand to hold or a shoulder to cry on we are all here one for all and all for one .

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Many thanks to ILike for passing on the baton to myself and Harry . I know we are a bit previous but I am worried I will get the timing wrong .

I feel like I have only been here a wee while but it is invaluable to me .

This is a poem that has helped me in the past .

I have not turned my back on you
So there is no need to cry.
I'm watching you from heaven
Just beyond the morning sky.

I've seen you almost fall apart
When you could barely stand.
I asked an angel to comfort you
And watched her take your hand.

She told me you are in more pain
Than I could ever be.
She wiped her eyes and swallowed hard
Then gave your hand to me.

Although you may not feel my touch
Or see me by your side.
I've whispered that I love you
While I wiped each tear you cried.

So please try not to ache for me
We'll meet again one day.
Beyond the dark and stormy sky
A rainbow lights the way.

i know shabs just some days are so bloody hard i need a boot up arse todayxx

Me too!!!! Im having a really melancholy (spelling?) day today. My mums cousin who lived in Canada died on Friday night. He was diagnosed with alzhaimers about 10 months ago and got pneumonia. I have met him several times and he was just a lovely man. His wife emailed me and told me the sad news and I had to ring my mum and tell her it was so hard. I emailed her back and put at the bottom.

'Godspeed Tony, I am glad I got to meet you and know you. Will you have a look around heaven and if you see my boys tell them I miss them.'

Dont know why I put that but it keeps making me have a cry every time I think about it.

Trouble is I keep going back and reading it again!

That is really sad Shabs . When my nan was dying I really wanted to tell her to give Harry a hug from me when she saw him but felt like I should keep up the pretence that she was going to get better .
She was braver than me and told me herself that she would look after him for me .
I was so jealous that she would get to see him before me

shabs im so sorry, x

I know what you mean. I would love just one more hug and one more 'I love you'

Right - head up, shoulders straight, grin painted on xx

You need to go out and grab it by the balls Shabs

Grabbing them as we speak my darling

Well done you

I need to take my own advice now and get my backside into gear .

Hi all, Im feeling like crap, I have a thumping head and i feel sick! Am going to curl up on the sofa!

Hope you feel better soon Lottie xxx

sorry everyone is having a bad day
hope you all feeling better tomorrow!
i am really looking forward to tomorrow. for the 1st time in 2 years i have the babies at nursery, the older 2 at school dp at work and i am not at work..i have the house to myself
gonna drop them all off, quick trolley dash round asda, then home to ..wait for it ...quiet!! no shouts of mummmmmmmmm or mummy or love,will you just.....
lets hope the sun is shining
have a good evening all

Good morning girls - its our 31st wedding anniversary today

Good morning all

31 yrs ? that is ridiculous

How does it feel ?

LOL - a total and utter lifetime

Suddenly feel very, very old.

My Mum and Dad celebrate their 55th in August and my brother and his wife their 25 in May!!! Must be genetic.

Sorry in my shock I forgot to say

CONGRATULATIONS

Have you got anything planned ?

Enjoy the peace and quiet gardeninbg. I bet it will seem fab and a bit weird all at the same time!

Congratulations Shabs and Mr Shabs

It's my M&D's 40th anniv this year!

Yunno, you get less then that for murder! Congratulations!! My nan and grandad were wed for 68 years

Hope everyone has a better day today - love to all x

Morning all, am feeling much better today! Congrats Shabs!!! xx

Thanks girls - anything planned? Oh yes - excitement of excitement - big shop at Asda

morning girls

congrats shabs... not many last that long these days

Hope everyone is feeling a bit brighter this morning

This is one of my non working days .. we are looking out the window trying to decide if its weather for cycling along the coast or weather for the transport museum. Its one of those skies that could go either way

have a good day all

Im busy organising my 40th birthday party! I have so much to do! Am not having presents, but am having donations to Wilfs school and Winstons Wish! My actual birthday is 14th April but im having the party on the 25th as the school have agreed to keep Wilf for me that weekend so I can let my hair down. I feel a little guilty but I know if Wilf was at home i wouldnt be able to relax!

Oh Lottie that all sounds so exciting. 40? You are still a babe in arms I was pregnant with Tom on my 40th birthday and spent the entire day in the loo throwing up

Anniversaries and birthdays, how lovely!

Congrats Shabs & Mr Shabs!

Lottie, what exactly are you doing for your birthday? Big do? Special dress? Your party night is my birthday BTW. You can think of me as you down another glass of vino!

Dee, sorry you are having a crappy time of it at the mo.

Hazy, Shabs, what you were saying about seeing their eyes - I often wonder whether we were "luckier" or "unlikier" to have never seen Eris's eyes. Although I wish desperately we had seen them open and tell myself it would have been so lovely, I'm sure that we would then had wanted the next thing, you know "If only we'd seen her smile" or something. Don't think I'm explaining myself very well but I just think those wishes would go on for ever. And at the end of the day none of us have what we actually want which is our children/grandchildren safe and well in our arms.

Kyirrie is 8 weeks today and had her first immunisations this morning. Bless her, she was ever so good. Probably cos she got so used to all the needles in hospital!

For anyone who is my friend on facebook, have you seen her photos? Have a look at them if you get the chance. The last one in the album shows her sticking her middle finger up - thats my girl!!

FMN - I saw that photo the day you put it on FBook. It is brilliant. Proper cheeky madam

shabs congratulations your six years infront of mexxwell donexxx
fmn i always said just one chrismas,one step but i know your right we would never have able to let go,say goodye.
dee things have got to get better,how is ds doing.
lovely day here im going to pick two of the girls up from schoolxxx