Harry's thread for bereaved mums , Wether its a hand to hold or a shoulder to cry on we are all here one for all and all for one .

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Many thanks to ILike for passing on the baton to myself and Harry . I know we are a bit previous but I am worried I will get the timing wrong .

I feel like I have only been here a wee while but it is invaluable to me .

This is a poem that has helped me in the past .

I have not turned my back on you
So there is no need to cry.
I'm watching you from heaven
Just beyond the morning sky.

I've seen you almost fall apart
When you could barely stand.
I asked an angel to comfort you
And watched her take your hand.

She told me you are in more pain
Than I could ever be.
She wiped her eyes and swallowed hard
Then gave your hand to me.

Although you may not feel my touch
Or see me by your side.
I've whispered that I love you
While I wiped each tear you cried.

So please try not to ache for me
We'll meet again one day.
Beyond the dark and stormy sky
A rainbow lights the way.

Some films are subtitled, this one wont be! He still enjoys them though!!

see what happens when you tempt fate.. had to call in sick this morning due to being sick all night and then I got the trots ths morning. Couple it with a fever and you will understand why I am just up and in my pj's

we are supposed to be going to see bolt tomorrow ..if I feel up to it.

Olissa I just done seem to be able to let that thread go. Everytime someone says why induce a pregnancy that seems fine I want to scream "are you listening to me" They thought mine was fine when it wasnt. Intervention is not always bad

I should just walk away really .. but I cant, I just cant keep my mouth shut (nothing new there then)

Wheres this thread then? Cos Wilf was induced due to pre eclampsia! Id love to shove in my hafpenneth!!

You shout as loud as you want FMammy - Im very similar when I hear someone saying 'Oh its just a hole in his heart they always heal up' - I feel myself in a blind panick.

Here you go lottie...

It seems to go through cycles of sensible debate about procedures and people saying "oh well its natural that some babies die

thread re intervention

The Master of Chaos arrived home at 4.45. My house has descended into bedlam and mayhem but i dont mind really!!

Lottie

you put me to shame!!! seriously.

My son is completely fit and well and there are times when I think God give me a break.

And there's you with Wilf who needs more help than Ross and you are always sooo happy with him and sooo positive about what he brings to your life

Dont get me wrong I love having Ross around I miss him when he is not here.. he is my world but all your posts just make me think what a fab mum I wish I could be that positive

Thanks FM xxxxxxxx It isnt always easy... I was so proud of him the other day at school. Apparently he was doing prayers on Comic Relief assembley. His teacher asked if he wanted to do the school prayer and he said no he wanted to do his own, he said "Lord God we are lucky children, in this world there are children who arent as lucky as us!" He is so amazing!!!

He is amazing Lottie and you do right to feel so proud .

Welcome back Olissa

I haven't had a look at that thread yet but maybe I will have a nosey.

Shabs Harry had a hole in his heart and had the surgery . He was sooo much better afterwards . Didn't make any odds in the long run but I would make that same decision again .

I'm in a blind panic every time anyone I know has a baby nowadays. I wonder if I'll ever manage not to be! I've well and truly lost my innocence, I don't feel that there's ever a 'safe' point any more. Maybe I just used to be naive, but naivety can keep you sane, can't it?
FM, I went back and looked at the thread before and it's tripled in length since last time I looked. Eek. I think I was struggling to get my point across because I know I'm likely to have post-42 weekers and have all the resultant pressures. Nothing like IUGR or pre-eclampsia or I'd be singing a different tune. I can't even explain it properly to myself never mind other people.
Lottie, Wilf sounds just wonderful.

OMG TW - that is a massive decision to make with your own baby....Im glad that you have decided that the choice you made was right. So very glad. We were at my friends tonight and it got very late....I tried to get Tom motivated and ready to go home. He said 'I hate you' when I tried to wake him up. That is the first time he ever said that to me

Morning girls xx

Morning all, Wilfs having his croissant with chocolate spread! Im thinking about getting dressed! Mum will be here shortly to drive us to get the bus to Ipswich to see Marley and Me! We are both excited about seeing it! Speak to you all later xx

sorry to butt in, is this a chat for bereaved mums and if so can anyone join in?
if i am wrong i am sorry, didnt want to offend anyone

garden you are not butting in - yes this is our 'special' thread for bereaved mums. Great bunch of ladies who all look out for each other.

thankyou, so glad to have found you.
busy with bathtime right now, but will pop back after and tell you my story.

right here goes...
I have 2 children rory 11 and zoe 8 from a previous marriage and in 2004 i got back with my 1st love paul, and in march 2005 gave birth to our beautiful daughter erin.our world was perfect.
13 days later we woke to find her dead. she died in her sleep to sudden infant death.
we have since gone on to have callum 2 and tommy 14 months. there is a picture on my profile page.
monday coming is the 4th anniversary of her death, and as all of you on this chat knows, its not a good time!
hope you dont mind me joining, you do sound a bunch of special people

So sorry for the loss of your daughter Garden. No death so sad as that of a child. We usually light candles for each other on our childrens birthdays and 'Remember days' (anniversaries). So glad you have found us.....come and walk the 'crappy' path with us. xxxxx

thankyou shabster

god, its nice to talk to some-one that geuuinely knows how you feel. there are only so many "i know how you must be feeling" conversations you can stand without shouting back no you dont!!
have looked at your profile and am so sorry for what you have been through.
why does only bad things happen to good people?
am looking at the profiles of the other ladies on here so i can get myself up to speed with you all.

Most of us post on here things like 'I cant say this anywhere else but on our thread.' Its not always sad, its often funny and there is loyalty between all of us. xx

Hi all, have had a stressful evening with Wilf, getting cross because he couldnt find something!! All found now........Wilf in bed! Im on cider!!!

Hi Gardening mum

Of course you are not intruding. You must be feeling pretty bad this weekend.. we often say on here that the run up to remember days/anniversaries are worse than the day themselves.

If you dont mind me asking did they find a reason that you lost Erin?? or did they use that horrible word "unexplained" Of course you dont need to answer this if you dont feel like it

Will you do something special to remember Erin on Monday ??

anyway enough questions.. welcome aboard.

I'm glad you've come to join us but sorry we have to meet like this

hahaha Lottie nice try I dont believe you were frustrated for one minute

how was marley&me?

We all enjoyed Bolt today ..Ross ate soo much popcorn I'm suprised he wasnt sick!!

Good night girls....sleep tight, dont let the bedbugs bite

Morning girls. One of the friends we have 'beer nights' with became a first time Gran in the early hours of this morning Mother and baby are doing well. my friend just turned 40 so she is a young gran.