Cole's thread for bereaved muumies: like the sands on the beach that never wash away. I watch over my surviving mum, who thinks of me each day.

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Welcome to our santuary and haven ladies.

Many thanks for Frasersmummy for passing the baton onto Cole and I. I am touched and hope I can do all our lo's justice.

For any people wanting to join, don't be shy. We cry, we rant, we smile, we laugh - whatever we feel like we need to do.

Morning girls,

I'm in Swansea, Hazy.

Thanks for listening to me moan last night.

Dee..take a look at this honey. I posted a link while you were away. Wilf now has his copy and it is excellent....
www.mydadhaswings.co.uk/

Thanks Lottie, but i try not to subscribe to anything remotely religious. I don't do heaven/hell/god/angels ect. My dad did tell boyo that daddy was in heaven, and boyo seems happy with that, but i wish he hadn't because it's not a concept i believe in, and trying to explain that is ghoing to cause more heartache. Thanks anyways.

For what its worth Dee Im not religious but if 'Heaven' works for your little lad - thats good enough for now. You dont even need to explain that you dont believe...I know its evading the truth but.....sometimes we have to do what we have to do. I used to tell Danny that his brothers were in heaven...then he would ask 'where is heaven' as he got older I just said that I didn't know but I knew the stars must be close to it. He always had the idea that Gareth and Matt were the brightest stars that he could see.....he is now 27 and still says that when it is a starry night he thinks about our conversations. He said even though he is not sure about religion he KNOWS that the brightest stars in the sky are his brothers

The book doesnt actually mention heaven..........it says that daddy went to live in the clouds...............

Evening ladies.......Ive just had a tearful phonecall with my lovely oldest niece....her boyfriend of four years has finished with her... He was her first proper boyfriend as she is only 19..........poor little love........

Oh Lottie - I can remember that awful feeling....xxxx

Morning girls......sooooooooooooooooo tired

Hi Shabs, I see youve been "Wilfed" already.........we always explain to people that havent met him before that they are going to have "the Wilfred experience".............. I fell over in the hall yesterday, tripped over the hall mat and landed on the floor which is just wooden chipboard.im so so stiff in my shoulder and neck this morning.....

Ouchies Lottie - sounds painful! Take it easy today, if you can.

Sorry if i cam across a little harsh yesterday with the whole god/heaven ect thing. I really didn't mean to and hope i didn't offend anyone with my (lack of) beliefs.

dee im not a believer any more i always wonder why hed put anyone through what we have been through,why take our precious little ones,who never did no wrong and leave behind so many that are evil,nobody can bloody answer that can they

Good night my dear friends xxxx

Good morning all x

Dee we have read a book called "Waterbugs and Dragonflies" I thought it was a good way of explaining things to children . Basically the story is what happens when the waterbugs (who live under the water ) have to leave the water to turn into dragonflies . They go without saying goodbye to anyone and can't come back and have to stay over the water . I thought it was a nice way of explaining things . Its a bit early for this explaining lark but I hope you get the gist .

Dee - I've been trying to find ways around getting some help for your ds. Have you asked your GP if you can be referred to a neighbouring PCT that does have a counsellor for your ds? If your GP seems uninterested/unhelpful, maybe speak to the practice manager? Another thing I thought about was contacting your MP. It might seem a bit extreme, but needs must and all that, and I'm sure you're not the only person in your position.

It's such a shame that you have to jump through hoops Much love to you all xxx

Dee are there any hospice's in your area ? They could maybe be a good starting point to at least finding someone who cares and could point you and your ds in the right direction . I know its a bit clutching at straws but could be worth a try . How is he doing now ?

I know my situation is different but last summer my then 4 yr old went through a really tough time over Harry which lasted a few weeks (seemed a lot longer at the time ) Once he had got it all out and it was in the open so to speak he seemed to process it all a bit better .

Morning girls xx

Morning.....Shabs, i hope Wilf was ok chatting to you this morning!

Hello all x

I hope everyone is ok today , we have been out all day at the park and I have been to the dr with Jamie getting his heart checked out and all is well

Am glad Jamie is ok. that is such good new TW. We have been out this afternoon, a muddy walk throught the lanes a splash in the river and an hour in the park!

Thanks Lottie , I hadn't realised how worried I had been until I heard all was well . The dr was really lovely and actually spoke to Jamie like a little grown up and explained everything really well .

Sounds like you had a fun walk I love puddle jumping .

Yup..its quite hard to get Wilf motivated to go out...but once he's out he loves it!!

Lottie - Wilf was a perfect gentleman this morning, VERY inquisitive but absolutly delightful

TW - Soooooooooooooo delighted for you and Jamie. xxxxxx Big kisses and hugs to both of you xx

TW. What fab news.

The walk sounds great Lottie. I love walks in the countryside but don't get out and do it enough really. Which is terrible considering I live in a village surrounded by fields Saying that we all went out for a walk on Saturday. We walked for about 6 miles and I was bloody knackered!

Sorry Shabs...........he does like to ask lots of questions..He's just been in and out of the bath in two minutes..........i doubt the water even covered him.......and delightful child that he is he has just come and shaken water all over me!!!hi its wilfred talk me on facebook please shabs xxxx hugss c for cookie c for cookie c for cookie

I dont mind questions at all.....he always cheers me up.

Wilf:- every time I go to use the messanger on Facebook the computer keeps crashing. I type out a reply and it wont send it. We have fixed the computer except for this problem. I will keep trying it because when I cant fix things it drives me crazy.

C is for Cookie

For my mate Wilf