Cole's thread for bereaved muumies: like the sands on the beach that never wash away. I watch over my surviving mum, who thinks of me each day.

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Welcome to our santuary and haven ladies.

Many thanks for Frasersmummy for passing the baton onto Cole and I. I am touched and hope I can do all our lo's justice.

For any people wanting to join, don't be shy. We cry, we rant, we smile, we laugh - whatever we feel like we need to do.

Oh my word - poor woman - I didn't even know she was pregnant.

I keep thinking about poor Kym and Jamie..........it has really upset me.. I was the same when Gordon and Sarah Browns daughter died too. I normally only feel like this around the time of Jacks birthday. I think i will probably write to her when i am feeling more together about it.

I keep thinking about poor Kym and Jamie..........it has really upset me.. I was the same when Gordon and Sarah Browns daughter died too. I normally only feel like this around the time of Jacks birthday. I think i will probably write to her when i am feeling more together about it.

Evening all...ive just been to see The Boy in the Striped Pyjamas...........what an amazing film.,,,,,,,,,,,,,

Morning girls xx

Morning xx

Good morning all

Lottie I remember reading that book and I sobbed , I did think the book was well done . A clever idea .

How you feelng this morning ? I know its hard when you hear things like this .

Am okish TW...I have written to Kym and Jamie and will send the letter later. The film was so moving. I took my best friends 14 year old daughter Kerry with me and she was crying at the end i just sat there with my tissue pressed over my mouth. My other friend Catherine was with me and we had to explain to Kerry about the smoke coming out of the chimney etc. I also explained that if Wilf had been alive then, then he would have been gassed as he wasnt perfect....... Catherine and I went for a drink afterwards and it was sooooooooo slippery. I felt my feet going from under me and gave an enormous shriek. When i got into the pub my friends husband Al said "What were you shrieking for? I could hear you in the car park!!

I had to be up and dressed at 7.30 this morning as Mr Decorator was here at 8am! He's painting the wall up the side of the stairs where Mum couldnt reach! He's such a nice guy. I am very funny about having people working in the house and as much as possible I use people i know or that friends have used before.

That must have been a pretty hard letter to write . I hate seeing the words in black and white , well done for doing it .

I am pleased to hear the film has stayed true to the book and is also good . So often when you see the film it is nothing like the book and a dissapointment . You are braver than me I don't think I could go and see it . I would just be waiting all the time for the end

I could do with a Mr Decorator , I think I might have to rob a bank or something first as we have sooooo much that needs done .

I nearly walked out before the end but Catherine persuaded me to stay. Am sitting here listening to Radio 2, they are playing Franks and my record...
www.youtube.com/watch?v=t0WFsnxECDU

I just wrote to Kym and Jamie what came from my heart and that i knew it was a cliche to say i know how they felt but that i did!

Beautiful song Lottie. I wrote to Gordon Brown and his wife when they lost their baby. A few weeks later they sent me a thank you card with a picture of their little one on the front. People can say what they want about Gordon Brown but I think he is a fantastic man.

I wrote too but didnt hear back... oh well i expect they had lots to reply to. Im hoping Mr Decorator is finished before Wilf gets home later or all hell will break loose!

Ha Ha LOL - Wilf and paint - not a good combination

No..I know from bitter experience from the story i told a few weeks ago about when he got the paint all over my front path!! [EEEKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK)

Afternoon all....Shabs...be ready for the Wilf onslaught on Facebook!! A whole week of Wilf!!!

Hi folks.

I'm sorry for being awol again. Not doing too good this end. Boyo very angry and upset. His nursery teacher pulled me in and said that he's been acting out in class - physicaly attacked a TA, and then broke down sobbing that his daddy had died and he didn't know why and he was so sad.

I finally found out that Banardo's have a childrens bereavement service here in the city, but as it turns out we don't live in the catchment area for it and they won't consider seeing him because we aren't in a 'deprived area'. How inconsiderate of hubbs to die outside of catchment.

Awwww poor little lad.....OMG Dee my heart goes out to you sweetheart. I hate the words 'catchment area' such a crock of shite. My son Danny saw an amazing child psychologist after Matt was killed....she was fantastic. Why dont you get your GP to refer you to the child mental health unit at your nearest hospital? I know there is still a bit of a stigma going to see a 'shrink' but if your DS's arm was broken you would go to the hospital and they would fix it.....his heart is broken and it is messing his thoughts up....have a think about it - its the very best thing we ever did for Danny xxxxxxx

I've spoken to my doctor and HV at length, and the dr has spoken to the fella at the childhood psychiatric services and there just aren't the provisions available for bereaved children in our area. And i spoken lots to Winstons Wish and they don't have any provision in my area either.

So i guess i'm on my own...

That is truly disgusting Dee.....let me put my thinking cap on there must be someone or some organisation that can help....leave it with me and I will try to find an answers to your little fellas dilema xxxxxxx

Good night girls xx

hi dee i realy want to help,what area do you live in,tbh my dd never sought help for granddaughter and she was four when he brother died, she started school and was awful , i went in one day i apologised and told them it was nine months since her db just died we were all struggling cos we hadnt had inquest yet ,and maybe that had something to do with her playing up.
poor teacher was mortified no one had informed her,my dd hadnt cos didnt want to get upset but my god we did see such a changexx
big hugs to your little onesx shabs ds still not drinkingxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Morning girls....Hazy what fantastic news about DS - well done him - give him a hug from me xxx