Cole's thread for bereaved muumies: like the sands on the beach that never wash away. I watch over my surviving mum, who thinks of me each day.

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Welcome to our santuary and haven ladies.

Many thanks for Frasersmummy for passing the baton onto Cole and I. I am touched and hope I can do all our lo's justice.

For any people wanting to join, don't be shy. We cry, we rant, we smile, we laugh - whatever we feel like we need to do.

morning girls,big hugs to you all;i dont know how any one manages to do it on their own,,i know i rely on my dh far too much,dee good luck on your move,can you get your address to us pleasexx

Morning
silly poster.
Hope we are all well.
Love CM

Ive just bumped it back to the top by asking if she wants to apologise yet??

Good morning all , sorry about that other thread , hopefully an apology wll be forthcoming soon . I think its one thing to say something and mean no harm but then when you realise the upset it has caused it would be nice to say sorry . Doesn't take much does it ?

Hiya girls.....the weird thread???? The OP just did the typical English thing of ignoring Dee's post and quite simply put her fingers in her ears and went 'la la la la la' - I read through the whole thing. If Dee had carried on with her 'debate' I would have jumped in with her - we make quite a good 'tag team' dont we Dee

An apology would be good though xx

.....and, as for that Lottie!!!! Im keeping out of your way Lottie when you are angry Up here in Lancashire we say 'nowty' for angry

When i get angry its light the blue touchpaper and stand back...... I had reason to walk up the road in my nightie at half midnight two years ago to sort out some noisy kids who were screaming in their garden!!

Just had another visit from Jehovahs Witnesses - I hid behind the front door When they went my computer crashed and keeps doing it 'God paying me back' maybe????

I had the Jehovahs witnesses here yesterday and was very grumpy with them .
They stood practically in the door and started to show me a booklet with a photo of small child in a hospital bed with a mum looking sad next to it . The words underneath were something like "When the sickness ends "

I wanted to roll up the leaflet and put it where the sun don't shine .

ROFL TW - I have those thoughts every time they try and show me that booklet. Thing is I am sure they believe that only J Witnesses will go to 'heaven' or whatever you want to call it. Hope Im not offending any JW reading this.....I have asked people of many different religions to explain the loss of our precious children - nobody has satisfied me, even slightly, with their answers

Just a happy post - my friend Triplets (always on the multiples thread) is celebrating the 11th birthday of her triplets today. Remember she lost her precious boy Matthew many years ago? Her two DS's and her DD came into this world 11 years ago today when she was in her middle 40's xxxx

Happy Birthday to Triplets triplets

3 11 yr olds in the same house , that will be a hell of a party .

It makes me knackered just thinking about it Trips does a great job with them.

I don't think any religion can even come close to explaining why our children die . Thankfully my vicar didn't even try .

I refuse to believe any body / entity make a decision on who lives or dies .

I did speak to someone who believed very strongly in reincarnation and they believed that some people are brought into this world just to be taught or teach a lesson and once it is done then they go . I kind of saw her logic but I am yet to figure out what lesson was worth all this grief .

So agree with you TW - all of it beggars belief in my opinion

Lottie - remind me never to get on the wrong side of you! Still no apology from twunt - and tbh, i'd be telling her exactly where to stick it. The time for apologies has way passed, imo.

Shabs - i remember once, was just about to give boyo a bath, and the JW knocked on the front door - i answered, and explained i was busy, but they were persistent, and boyo then appeared starkers behind me - i said the first thing that came to mind to boyo, which was - 'Who told you you could get down? Get back on that alter now!' They bid a verrrryyyy hasty retreat, and now never bother me. I can't imagine why....

TW - i once had an stand up, nose to nose argument with a priest who told me that before he baptised boyo i had to accept that it was Gods will that Ciaran died and that i had to be happy about it. My mother (devout catholic) was so disgusted with the priest that she insisted that the prodestant vicar baptise boyo! So thats what we did. To be honest, when Ciaran died, i lost any faith that i had had, and don't really believe in heaven/hell/god ect.

Some great points in your post Dee Northern Lurker was so concerned about you last night. xxxxx

My 19 year old niece Daisy is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo like me........ I told her what the OP on that obnoxious thread had said and copied and pasted my reply..........she said that the OP had obviously had an easy life and was naieve and ignorant of the real world!!

Good morning girls xx

Morning Folks.

Mixed day here today. Found out last night that a good friend of hubbs died on Sunday - really can't face yet another funeral... but feel that hubbs would have wanted me to be there so i have to go. Also had a bump in the car last night - not even my car - my dads which i was borrowing. No one seriously hurt - i'm a little sore and my pride is dented more then anything.

On the up side - i've got a group of friends coming this morning to help me move some boxes, which will be fab!

Hope everyone has a good day.

Oh Dee sounds like you had more than enough happen yesterday. The funeral will be difficult, all funerals are horrible.

Glad nobody was hurt in your crash - my DS1 and his partner were involved in an awful car crash a few years ago. Dan ended up with cuts on his bum (????? not sure how!) and his partner had an awful cut around the bend of her arm. He didnt tell me he was in the hospital - they both just came home - battered and bruised! Makes me shudder just thinking about it x

morning girls,shabs my son rolled his car once and the only place he cut was his backside,he had chainsaw pants on luckily but came home and flashed his arse to show us,infront of relatives,i laughed my head off they werent that amused.
ds has done four weeks now ,god he looks so well but already planning to go on stag do in two months when his 3 months of no drinking is up.
i made dd partners drink can of beer up before ds came up,but his gf had one and he wasnt bothered ,im realy pleased with him, i just hope he can stay sensible after.

Hi all, i have two funerals to go to tomorrow, my aunts is at 12 noon then i have to be back in Laxfield for the funeral of a guy i knew who was friends with my husband and whos wife i get on well with. He was only 50 as my aunt..........

Ive just heard that Wilfs blood screen has come back clear!!! Hurrah!!

I am so sorry for you both that have funerals coming up . I know they were never a fun day out but I really hate them now . I always feel guilty as well because it doesn't matter whose it is I always think about Harry more than the person I am supposed to be there for .

My fil and bil and nana have died since Harry but none will ever even come close to his .