Fraser's thread for bereaved mummies: Death leaves a heartache no-one can heal - Love leaves a memory no-one can steal

[frasersmummy]

Hello my good friends

Its lovely to be asked to set up our new support tread especially as we head towards our first festive season supporting each other.

I hope Frasers part of the journey is as smooth as Eris, Jack and Matt&Gareths

Thanks I think I will

I just have to get in touch with all my imaginary friends first and give them a big old virtual (((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))

oooo I wonder if we have some of the same imaginary friends ?

Shabs is real...... I spoke to her only 30 minutes ago

V - you are hysterical......thanks for your call - dare I say it on here girls.......without the aid of alcohol......I love the bones of that mad woman xx

BUt are you real though ? That is the big question ?

I think I am real but once I have a glass of wine I will probably feel a little more real

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww a poster called Elf just called SGB a (just let me make sure my mum cant read this).......she called her a 'fuckwit!' Awwwwwwww I think that is the first proper swear word on our threads.

....and TW I think I am real but I will let you know after a couple of glasses later on xxxxxxxx

A swear word

My poor ears are not used to that kind of language

I think I might need a wine to get over the shock

Save one for me darling!!

I love a war of words!! I cant keep away from the thread

I keep going back but I want her to come back

Welcome Kitana, I'm so sorry to hear about your son. Please stick around, you will find lots of support on here.

DH and I also can't stomach to hear about baby P. We lost our little man through no ones fault, and yet there are people who wilfully take the lives of their children. It sickens me, and to think what pain that poor poor child went through. Words can't convey how I feel about those parents.

I think I need a glass of wine tonight too .....

My bottle is open now if you would like to join me .

sod a bottle, pass the box of wine

Funnily enough I was being polite earlier (no idea why ) and it is a bog box of rose I am drinking .

Its been a tough old week

A bog box ?

Maybe I have had enough already ?

Nahhhhhhhhh I will go and help myself from my big box

Oli's song from his mum

Truly beautiful song my love.....lovely choice xxxxxx

evening ladies

I think I may have caused that other thread to denegerate ... ooops

it wasnt anywhere near as bad till I talked about us lighting candles to make a circle of light for our little one's remember days

that seemed to open a whole can of worms...still at least it gave you all a chance to have a rant

Kitana welcome along .. you are soo right about not enough being done to bring down the stillbirth and/or the neo-natal mortality rate

I personally think half the problem is that there is no awareness around the problem ..I think if people knew the mortality rates there would be a demand for something to be done

But because they keep it quiet nothing gets done if you see what i mean

right rant over

You didnt cause anything my love.....the original poster thinks she is Cod - who in my humble opinion is a nasty piece of work.

This song makes my cry.,................. really moving!

Wheres this other thread??

Here you go lottie, prepare yourself !!

I have now posted!!! what a dreadful woman that sgb is.........

Gracious me!

This is the first time I've ever visited a Mumsnet Forum, and being a bereaved mum I navigated my way here. But I've just been reading the thread you've all be on about and I'm typing like an arthritic old lady I'm so shocked. "Competitive sadding" eh? My stomach heaved at how anybody can be so snide!

Wow. I've seen a lot of message boards - from miscarriages, through to infertility and to baby loss, but this has been one hell of a culture shock! If it wasn't so late I'd be pouring myself another stiff G&T.

But thank you ladies for your kind condolences and I'm so sorry we had to meet here. Last night I felt like I was going mad, and it has been a great comfort to know that I'm not, that it has really upset lots of people, including others on the painful journey through life without the children they have loved and lost.

K.

sorry to but in to your space.
I just wanted to apologise if I posted anything on the linked thread that might have caused any of you upset.

Hi everyone,
I have been absent far too long on this thread, just needed to be with you all awhile. Been reading that other thread about that poor poor little baby. Another little soul tortured and lost, though I pray he may now be free of evil and pain and safe away from the cruelties of this world. I hope all our beloved children up there and happy, safe, I just pray that they are never forgotten by others. Its over 14 years since I lost my beloved first born Matthew, I miss him, I would give anything to have him back, and knowing I can`t really hurts. There is no pain as bad as the one we all live with when we lose our child, nothing is ever the same, try as hard as we can to make it so. Shabs and I have been wearing our Eleanor Rigby face for a very long time now, but she and I have made a special friendship out of our sorrow, and I am very proud to have her as my friend. Shabs, ma petite mange tout xxx

Can you tell I am in a sentimental mood tonight? My head is full of torment, anguish, worry and sadness, this year has been the worst since 94. I only hope it will end in happiness for us all.
Excuse my rambling, not even had any of Shabs apple juice!

I bet most of you are in bed by now. Thanks Trips for your kind words. Friends forever. I just had to post again on the weird thread. As long as we all stick together on OUR THREAD that is all that matters. The original poster thinks she is Cod!!! A few months ago I couldnt answer Cod back but now I can reply to the fake Cod!!! In life, there are always the nasty folk, the 'Im alright Jack' people. There stupid messages should make us stronger and more brave. xxxxxx