I just found this thread today, mothers day, and I'm so pleased I did. My mum went into hospital on 19th January with a stroke, the day before I was induced with my first child (I'm 30). On 21st January my son was born and I was told my mum had suffered another stroke and a heart attack whilst I was in labour. I felt like one coming in, one going out. I had an emergency cesarian, so was in hospital for a few days, but unable to see my mum as there was novo-virus on her ward. I am single, so the only visitors I had were my family, and they were all just shell-shocked with what was happening with my mum. I have never been so sad, just as my DS was looking up with his big eyes at his mum. The stroke left my mum blind, and they recommended no visitors whilst they found out what was wrong. Several weeks later they found cancer. It was only then that I was allowed to see her. One week later, on 10th March, she died. She never got to see my son, although I took him in to touch his hand, but by that point she could only just tap a finger to let you know she could hear you. It was the most upsetting thing, and I can't get the image of her crazy eyes just staring out when we all knew she was dying and she was just rasping breath and in pain. We buried my mum last Thursday, and today, mothers day, I have just fallen apart. She was very upset when she found out I was pregnant and told me that she cried her eyes out all night because she didn't want me to struggle as a single parent, that she wanted me to have everything. And I just wish she could see how happy I am to be a mum, how beautiful my son is, and how I'm not struggling at all. I regret so much all the arguments we had when I was pregnant. And because she was ill with a suspected chest infection before she had the stroke, I wasn't allowed to see her from xmas incase I caught it whilst pregnant. I lost that time with my mum, I have no mum to share the new mum experience with, and I feel such a hole in my life. It's only been three weeks, but I feel like my safety net has gone, my one constant in my life gone, and I just wish I could have a cuddle from her. I wouldn't want anyone to feel this pain, but knowing that you are all out there too, makes me feel a bit better. Love to you all on mothers day xxxxxxxx