My Mum died on 09/04/09. We buried her on Easter Sunday. She had a terribly sudden & painful horrific 2 week illness leading up to her death and we had a horrible rollercoaster ride in ICU Units of two hospitals watching her demise while she writhed in pain constantly, losing bit by bit of her life with each passing hour.
I haven't cried since 3 days before she died. I don't know if I'm numb or if I had accepted that she was going to die before she left us. (3 days before she died, I knew she was dying, whereas everyone else still had hope.....I let rip at one of the most negligant, obnoxious doctors 've ever met, who was "caring" for her, or should I say completely ignoring her, through her illness and I cried and cried for about 10 minutes afterwards and really got alot off my chest)
I'm a single mum and myself and my 5 year old daughter live in the "home" house with Mum & Dad. I was in the process of finalising details in relation to buying our very own home, with mortgage approval secured and deposit on house etc. I've struggled financially while working full-time for 5 years, saving every cent I could in order to afford our own house. It has been my dream and a hot topic of conversation with Mum for years now, we had the whole house (my new house) decorated in our minds and she had plans to "do" my new bak garden as a moving in gift. Now...my whole life changes. Not only have I lost my lovely Mum, but my daughter has lost the closest thing she had to a second parent, her loving Granny. Our every-day life had changed in so many ways (me & mum sat together chatting every evening, drinking tea and did the weekly shopping together every weekend, went on sun holidays together etc and she babysat for me whenever I wanted a weekend away or a night out. She was the first I phoned or emailed or talked to when I had decisions to make or gossip or worries) She was such a support to me over the last few years in every way, not least emotionally & financially also.
My father doesn't want me to move out now. He's so serious about it he's offered to sign the house over to me, which I don't want as I have siblings and I think it's unfair, he's just trying to make sure I don't go leaving him, taking his little granddaughter with him, leaving him alone....lonely!!! I can't go, I'd feel too guilty leaving him to fend for himself now. He was with my Mum for 40 years, since he was 14!! And already, I realise I'm expected to fill her shoes in the home. It's so much to take on whilst losing her, and losing the support I relied on so much, being a single mother, I haven't even had time yet to think about the fact that I'll never get to talk to my best friend again
So so sad, don't know what we'll do without her. She was so young and so full of life. Such a busy, happy, strong, powerful, beautiful woman! Love her so much x