LM - I agree, it is so hard to understand/realise that she is really gone. And in my case at least, no, life will never be the same again. I think maybe over time it will feel less bad but I am pretty sure that it will stay with me the rest of my life, e.g. sorrow, feeling of loss, feeling of missing out sharing things about my dd/myself/dh. I have started writing about all the things we have done (my mom and me) and quite soon I am going to start a scrapbook about my mom together with dd, we are going to put photos in, drawings, poems, letters, nice things, like dried flowers, coloured leaves (my mom loved nature), favorite recipes, pictures of art/art exhibitions (she loved art) etc. I want to try to make it a celebration of her life. I do feel at times terribly upset, and do cry also when dd is there but I have explained to dd why I find it so hard and that if she wants to cry or talk about it we can do that. I think that grieving is part of life and hope that this experience and seeing me go through it (hopefully in a positive way) helps her when my time comes (hopefully a long time away). But I do find it difficult though. I also do find it useful to read about grieving and on one website I read that some people believe that you grieve in stages, whereas others believe that it is not a process with a begin and end, but that it will continue your whole life, because at each new stage in your life you miss her again. Also feel quite bad that sometimes I feel really angry at my mom that she didn't accept medical help earlier, clearly it was a choice she made, but I do find it so hard, because she could still have been here.