Can't bear the thought of dad not seeing ds grow up

[rachels103]

I'm new to mumsnet, but really need somewhere to talk about my lovely dad who died in May. I hope that's ok.
He and my ds, who is nearly 3 had a really special bond - my ds adored his 'granden' and it seems to be getting harder, not easier, to think about him growing up without him, especially as I know that in a few years he probably won't remember him at all.
To make it worse, my FIL is not a very child friendly person, and it makes me really angry when he more or less ignores ds when they visit (only every couple of months anyway, where my dad looked after him once a week). I know it's not fair to expect FIL to make up for the absence of dad but it just makes me so so sad. Their visit has really dropped me into a hole when I thought I was coping quite well.
I want to start a memory book for ds but don't seem to be able to bring myself to start.

Oh my goodness that is a lot for your mum and you of course. It is odd how sometimes these events seem to cluster together.
I hope you are putting your feet up as much as possible. I am sure that your Dad will be around for your new LO and of course he lives on in you and your children through all sorts of ways. Someone commented to me yesterday about something and my first thought was 'I get that from my dad'. It was very comforting.

How is everyone else? Mumoverseas how is your very difficult week?

I want to add some more but should be writing reports . Back at weekend.

Mumoverseas ~ just saw that your mum's funeral is tomorrow morning so I just wanted to say I hope it goes well and I will be thinking of you. X

Hi all

Hi Whispy, how are you?

Hi whispy! How's things?
Mumoverseas - how are you?

Hi...I'm ok ta. Still get some pretty dark days but I remain optimistic that I'll eventually get there. Father's Day was hard and I was glad to get thru it. I went over and tidied Dad's grave, watered his flowers and felt good for doing it. Took Mum down with me so she was happy.

How is everyone else?

Hi all
Rachel- are you due about now? Hope you are doing okay. Hope it all goes well.

Hiya
Yes cath, our second son was born on the 9th July. His middle name is my dad's name...it's not the most fashionable but hopefully he'll forgive us for it when we tell him about the lovely man he's named after.

Hope everyone is ok.

Congratulations! Oh well done and welcome to your DS2! Did everything go okay? Lovely news!