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lottiejenkins · 10/09/2008 14:01

Third time lucky........ Thanks to Shabs and FMN. I hope i can carry the baton as well as you did. I havent made a good start though. Things can only get better.........

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ILikeToScareYouScareYou · 26/10/2008 20:21

I'm ok Shabs, how are you? It sounds like you're going through a difficult patch at the moment. Anything we can help you with? As they say, it's good to talk.

FMN - I'm glad your dd had a great time. PMSL that you cried at Hannah Montana

shabster · 26/10/2008 20:24

Thanks for asking love. I've just got a head full of nonsense - as usual! Dont worry I will shout up, very loudly, if it all gets too much

frasersmummy · 26/10/2008 21:22

is it just me ..

sometimes like today I miss Fraser more than normal for no apparent reason.

I dont mind when I know what has triggered my feelings but when its not clear I get even more upset thinking I will never be the same again

does this make any sense??

lottiejenkins · 26/10/2008 21:36

Hi all........I havent been posting much lately what with the house and half term! I have to keep chasing the two Mr Builders up for the quotes,,,,,,,,,,,, i have one now! Wilf has just told me he has a stomach ache! Hope this isnt the start of something!................???????????

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shabster · 26/10/2008 22:27

Makes perfect sense to me FM

travellingwilbury · 27/10/2008 06:53

Good morning everyone

Makes sense to me too FM , Sometimes it just hits you like a ton of bricks .
Hope you are feeling brighter today .

How is everyone ? I am doing ok at the moment . Going through a good phase and I am making the most of it . Thankfully I no longer have the massive guilt because I have had a good few days .

shabster · 27/10/2008 08:49

Good morning girls.

hazygirl · 27/10/2008 09:39

morning girls x hope everyone ok xx

charleymouse · 27/10/2008 10:27

morning all, the sun is shining although tis bitter cold.

The one clock we hadn't changed had me struggling to wake everyone at 6:20 this morning. DOH DH not best pleased as has a hangove cold coming on . Left him in bed in the end.

Cheers FMN DH is quite sensitive for a bloke Glad DD had a nice time. Hope the service went okay.

christmas bauble TLK I like this one but cannot change the wording and can't fit "Mummy and Daddy to Benjamin" on due to the character limitation. I actually have a purely plain glass one with the angel inside which goes on my tree at christmas, it looks so pure and simple.

Shabs, I think I can find some frog repellant if that will help. Do you want me to search for you?
What is green and goes 100 mph?
A frog in a blender.
What happens when you add milk?
You get a frog nog!

not sure if it works for the pink ones though

FM I think we will go to the Christmas Eve service and visit B then and keep Christmas day a celebration for the living. B will be with me on the day anyway, it sometimes feels very hard that B & G are identical as I can look at G and think "I should have 2 of you running round causing mischief". Then sometimes I can look at him and be comforted as I think I know what B would be like, at least in looks anyway.

TW glad you are having a good run.

LJ I hate tradesmen, I don't think they want the work, have been chasing a glass man for weeks to get me some splashbacks done but does he want the work? NO am at the end of my tether.

ILikeTSYSY, Hazy, Tiam, hope you are all okay.

Love CM

shabster · 27/10/2008 11:16

Thanks for the offer Charley but I reckon my pink frogs are breeding

feedmenow · 27/10/2008 13:00

Morning all.

How you feeling today Shabs? Everyone else OK?

Can't believe you all think crying at Hannah Montana is unreasonable.....

I had a weekend from hell.

Massive (and I mean MASSIVE!!) barney with dp that started brewing on Thursday and peaked on Sunday when I threw at him: - half a croissant, a small dish, 2 butter knives, 2 jars of jam, one plate, one glass (twice - it didn't smash the first time!) and a tray! I am so sick to death of being the one who has ALL the pressures and worries! On Wednesday I told him I could do with some help - I have a 2 week course coming up in a few weeks and I really need to do some studying, but by the time I get me and the children home, do homework, dinner, reading, a bit of housework and some time on my 2nd job I am too knackered to study. On Thursday, he rang me at 5 o'clock hinting at going down the pub....the day after I'd asked for help. So I lost my temper, he said he'd done nothing wrong cos he didn't actually go (why does he not understand that the fact he was GOING to go was all it took?) and moaned at me for being out of order.

So, as I said, it peaked on Sunday with the throwing of all breakfast items, I stormed out (after threatening to kill him) and didn't go home for 7 hours. Then when I got back he said "are you feeling better now?".....WTF???????????

And obviously I missed the church service too.

So at the moment, not-so-d p is treading on very, very thin ice and is apparently going to take charge of everything to do with: - our banking, our loan, our credit cards, our own business (2nd job for both of us), our cats, our bearded dragons, the utilities, the car, house and pet insurance, the children's doctor, dentist and optician appointments, weekly shopping and cooking of evening meals. I'll believe it when I see it!!!!!

I could continue this rant for some time yet, but am sure all you ladies have better things to do than read my rantings, plus I could probably avoid work for the rest of the afternoon if I continued!!

ILikeToScareYouScareYou · 27/10/2008 14:30

Rant away FMN

Our partners can be so bloody frustrating sometimes can't they? But of course us ladies are all angels!!

eriously, I do hope he helps you out, you must be knackered.

ILikeToScareYouScareYou · 27/10/2008 14:32

Charley - I'm fine thanks. I hope you are too. I haven't changed all the clocks yet either, so I'm bound to cock up sometime soon!

shabster · 27/10/2008 14:44

FMN - I KNOW it is not funny.....I really know its not - BUT your description made me ROFL!!! Girl power or what?????????

I do hope that he helps you my love....its always like that in our house as well.

At the moment - Tom is doing his homework, DH is doing his (doing his English GCSE) - they are helping each other and they keep saying 'Muuuuuuuuuuuuum what do I need to put for this question?' 'Shabbs how do you spell....'

...and to top it off we have just had a sleet shower! WTF!

hazygirl · 27/10/2008 20:35

hi girls hope you get help off dh. well ive caught up on sleep had a couple of days holiday and chilled. it is dh birthday today and my dd and the girls bought him dvd of sleeping beuty, as they wanted to watch it.
everyone has been today including son as not seen him as much lately,as shabs knows my ds likes hi drink,went out last saturday with his dp,she came home ,he didt he carried on boozing,in his wisdom no keys so thought never mind so climbed onto roof and into chimney,where he got stuck ,for over 3 hours,eventualy a couple of chaps were out so he shouted help,they couldnt see him but eventualy they believed him and got firemen out,who broke in throuh front door,and went upstairs and took chimney brast wall down and rescued him, he took his shoes and shirt off first as he didnt want to dirty them,his dp not impressed and needs door and builders to build wall back up, i can laugh now but didnt last week.

shabster · 27/10/2008 20:52

must admit Hazy you made me LOL when you texted me that.....

shabster · 28/10/2008 08:46

Morning girls - hope everyone is ok xxx

frasersmummy · 28/10/2008 08:58

hazy does your son think he is santa clause??

why are men so useless.. mine is the same ....

will post later need to get some work done

hazygirl · 28/10/2008 11:48

im not sure ,my granddaughters think so, he is a climber by trade but its meant to be trees

feedmenow · 28/10/2008 12:37

Hazy, that is absolutely unbelievable!! What a wally (and when was the last time anyone heard someone say "wally"?)

Seriously though, he could have been really hurt!

Shabs, I know it isn't funny too, but it always makes me chuckle to look back at the times I've thrown something at someone! Not that I do it THAT often . Although telephone has dented the fridge, and tv remote control has dented dp's head - serves him right! he should just be lucky I only had butter knives and not steak knives!

FM - hope you are working hard!

Ilike, just to let you know, I am generally PERFECT and do no wrong. My way is always the best way, I never forget anything, etc, etc........oh, and there goes a very large pinch of salt and a flying pig!!

hazygirl · 28/10/2008 12:42

i know hes cutting down now went to barber instead of pub but dh says dont do thatg everynight as dont want bald boy xha ha
fmn cause were perfectxx

ShosheTheGhoshe · 28/10/2008 12:54

I dont join this thread much, as for me it was a long time ago, but please will you hold in your thoughts today.

Marcus David 28.10.80 - 29.10.80

Thank You.

frasersmummy · 28/10/2008 13:04

shoshe.. just logged in at lunch and saw this

you andyour family are in my thoughts and prayers..

hope you have a peaceful few days

lunch is over better get back to it

shabster · 28/10/2008 14:07

Shoshe - thinking of you and your family.

Holding Marcus David close in my mind and heart.

Dont be a stranger to our thread my love....we can all learn from each other and support each other.

lottiejenkins · 28/10/2008 17:42

Hi all......... have just spoken to my niece Daisy who is at uni in Leamington Spa. She said they have 2 inches of snow there and she walked home from a lecture in a blizzard.
Shoshe......thinking of you and your family today. xxxxxxxxxx

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