For Bereaved Mummies. Remembering Jack and our other precious little ones... the sharing of hurt is the beginnning of healing.

[lottiejenkins]

Third time lucky........ Thanks to Shabs and FMN. I hope i can carry the baton as well as you did. I havent made a good start though. Things can only get better.........

FM im near southampton. so thats the north and south. good start.

Lancashire.....and Im chuffed to bits that everybody thinks its a good idea. Triplets is in Kent

Good morning girls xx

Good morning all

I am in sussex

Shabs are you going to tell Tias mummy on the other thread ? I bet a lot of the people that have been reading /replying on there would like to do this as well .

You have been reading my mind Yes, I think we should tell her. Im so pleased that everybody thinks its a good idea. xxxxx

I think its a lovely idea . And even if at the moment it doesn't help , I think in the months to come she will be pleased that people did this for her girl .

My thoughts exactly. I have just posted on her thread. I am petrified of putting 'the wrong thing' and keep typing and deleting. It makes me remember my emotions with my boys and although its a good thing it is very scary.

I know what you mean , it is so hard to keep going back to those early days , that raw pain is just so overwhelming .
All those things she is deciding on at the moment , it just seemed so surreal for me at the time . I still can't believe I had to do some of those things .

Hopefully we can get the time of the funeral and maybe do the candle lighting at that time

Im sure I read that it is in the morning. Will go onto her thread when I get Tom off to school and try to find it.

I think it also shows all of us the progress we have made with our own personal grief and bereavement. Those early days are horrendous arent they?

I must have dreamt the time because I cant find it on the thread - I have just posted and asked

Might be a nice idea if we all said where we where in the country on Tias thread. I hope this snowballs and she gets everybodys support.

Tias thread

Just in case any of you lovley ladies havent seen the thread I have linked it.

TWilbury - great idea to mention our candles on her thread - xxxx

I am sure noone would miss it but just in case

Its 11.30 tomorrow morning

I wish there was something practical we could do but I think we all know that nothing will really make tomorrow better . The long haul on the other hand I think you all know you are good at .

oh aye, that long crappy haul....I KNOW we can all do that xxx

Of all the talents in the world to have ???
I wish that wasn't one of mine

I hate knowing so much about all this crap .

I know what you mean my love - its the worst knowledge I have ever had. xx

im in leeds and will light for tiaxx it does bring it all back to you doesnt it.

FM - call me a wuss - I am one!! I'm usually really tough - send the kids to school if they say they are ill cos unless a leg has dropped off then I think they should go, that kind of thing! Hopefully you are right - I'll miss her a lot more than she'll miss us. I think its a really important step in being a little independent. And I so much want her to enjoy it!

I am having to bring my candle for tomorrow in to work with me, so mine will be lit in Berkshire.

She will have a whale of a time my love - and you are doing the right thing letting her go

I know this is crazy but Im making a list of everybody honouring Tia tomorrow and where they are from. I love seeing the support - it is fantastic.

I keep reading everyones MN names and where they are from - its really, really lovely xx

sorry, meant 'you have done the right thing letting her go.' DOH [Homer Simpson emoticon]

I knew what you meant Shabs!!

It's wierd but I really wasn't at all bothered by her going until it drew really close, probably until Thursday or Friday last week.

Luckily, I have a friend who is quite good friends with one of the TA's who has gone on the trip. The TA texted my friend this morning to say they were all OK and that the sun was shining (first time ever when they've done their Dartmoor day apparently!) and my friend kindly called me to relay the message. At least I feel sort of in touch with dd1, even if i can't actually talk to her.....

Ladies - just wanted to say that I've seen the posts you have all made on Tiamummy's thread and I wanted to let you know that I think you are all amazing! It's hard enough to read what she's going through if you haven't had that in your life - what it must be like for all of you I can't think - but you're there, holding her up as best you can and I'm sure it's costing you all a lot so I just wanted to say well done - you do good work on this thread

Thanks love.It has churned up memories from many years ago for me but it has also helped me. I was so worried about Tiasmummy that I couldn't get her out of my mind. You are right there are some lovley ladies on here - we all walk the same 'crappy path' United we stand, divided we fall in my opinion xxxxxx

When I light my candle for Tia tomorrow I will take some time to think about all of your beautiful children too. I truly hope that Tia's mummy can gain from your strength as you prop her up on the long and difficult path ahead.
I and I'm sure many others would like to offer my thanks to you all for using your painful experiences to help someone that only people in your unenviable position can - and although I may have not said it before - I think you ladies are all truly amazing and you and your families are often in my thoughts.