For Bereaved Mummies. Remembering Jack and our other precious little ones... the sharing of hurt is the beginnning of healing.

[lottiejenkins]

Third time lucky........ Thanks to Shabs and FMN. I hope i can carry the baton as well as you did. I havent made a good start though. Things can only get better.........

Is everybody ok?

What do you ladies think of an idea I had tonight? Once the time and date is set for Tias funeral would you fancy lighting a candle to honour her? If we all lit a candle in our own homes it would be wonderful. Would also be a time when we could remember our children. I know we all think about them every day but maybe we could start a tradition on our thread. If you think I am barking up the wrong tree please say so - I love honesty.

Just thought it would be a good way to remember everybody.

Maybe on our childrens birthdays and 'remember days' we could all do the same.

Would appreciate your opinions xxxx

That is an absolutely lovely idea Shabs. I know I'm already dreading Noah's birhtday and Remember day knowing that the way family members are currently about him they won't bother to remember him, and that just hurts so much that people want to pretend my little boy never existed.

I have a collection of vanilla, chocolate and caramel candles. I love lighting them cause it smells so good. We would make a good circle around the UK dont you think? Lets see what everyone thinks and then, do you think we should tell Tiasmummy? I have been so worried about her.

Lighthouse that would be great to light our candles on our childrens birthdays and remember days wouldnt it? We should set a time and we all need to let each other now the day before. I know I have said it before but so many thanks to Eris and her mummy for carrying on our thread. Our children will all be having a ball wherever they are...I reckon heaven....wherever that is. Oh my Gareth is 26 and Matt is 24 - they will love looking after all the little ones.

I bet they will have their hands full!

They were good boys - they will love it.....xxxxxx

I like the candle idea Shabs but was going to say I don't want to do it on my DSs remember day as I made a conscious effort to try not to celebrate remember the day my Dad died and just celebrate his birthay IYSWIM. Then it hit me his birthday and remember day are one and the same

If they are anything like you Shabs Noah will be so lucky to know them. You and the other Mums here have really helped me over the last few months. Thank-you so much.
Am off to bed now Shabs. Night night. xxx

Night TLHK

Night girls. As my lovley Greek friend says 'Kale Nita, Sagapo' (Good night, I love you)

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Kale Mera Girls xx

Morning all

See Shabs

LOL

Shabs - a great idea with the candles.

Everytime I read Tia's thread I burst into tears. Tears for me, for Cole, for Tia, for Tia's mum, and all the ladies and their beautiful children on this thread.

You and me both love She sounds so sad and, worse than that, there is no hope in her words. I wish I could give her a cuddle.

MOrning all

I think the candle idea is a lovely one . I always light a candle on special days and I think it would be a good thing to do for Tia and her mummy . Maybe just the knowing that others are thinking of her will give a tiny grain of comfort . It is such a raw time for her at the moment . I know whenever I read her posts it is like a time machine for me and takes me right back

How is everyone today ?

Morning everyone

Thats a great idea shabs, I feel so useless when I read about tiasmummy (and everyone elses) story. I just wish there was more I could do to help.

I like the candle idea too. The funeral is Wednesday isn't it? Would be lovely to remember all our lost ones that way, knowing that people across the country are remembering them too.

OK, just need to tell you all what a brave person I am !

This morning, dd1 who is only 9, went off to Devon with the school til Friday! She cried which made me cry (damn my hormones!) which probably made me cry more!

Bless her, she's been worried that something will happen to her and that they won't tell me. I can't help but wonder if she would have been as worried as she has been if Eris had not died. And I can't help but wonder if I wouldn't have been half as upset to see her goif Eris hadn't died!

I've had my phone call to say they've arrived safely, but not from her. They aren't allowed to ring home at all cos it usually upsets them more, so we were told.

I really miss her already But I hope she isn't missing us - I promised her she'd have a fantastic time, so I really hop she does1

Well done FMN............im still camping at my friends.........

FMN- im sure your DD will have a great time ( no offence to you x) once the initial scaryness- if thats even a word?- wears off she will have a fantastic time and before you know it it'll be friday and you'll have her back again.
I know ive got a few years for anything like that yet but I know im going to be exactly the same as you.
I remember when I stayed at stubbington 1st time I didnt want to leave my parents but there was so much to do you soon forgot about them.

hi girls im sure your dd will be having a great time,and shabs i think your idea of candles is lovely.

I think the candles idea is lovely we had jesus bids us shine at frasers funeral..count me in..how much of he country can we cover?
I think I'm rightin saying I will be the only light north of the border

Tiasmummy has really made us all remember our bad times hasnt she..poor soul

fmn.. well done.. its to easy to wrap our kids in cotton wool when we have had one tragedy isnt it ??? Its a sign of how strong you are that she is gone

I do brownies and we take girls this age away.. Experience tells me that she will have loads of fun and come back so much more grown up and independant.She will miss you but her teachers will keep her busily disracted
I bet you miss her more!!!! If you feel yourself having a wobble come tell us about it and we can laugh and say wuss help you over it

hugs to everyone

I gues my strike out didnt work .. I was joking bout calling you a wuss fmn..honest