My Baby Boy died suddenly 4 weeks ago aged 10 weeks.

[Thelighthousekeeper]

Hi, I'm new here and am finding it very hard to cope since my son died. I put him to bed in the early hours of the 4th June and woke up just before 6am to find he had died.
I just miss him so much and spend every minute of every day thinking of him yet all around me life goes on as normal and I find this really hard.

Has anyone here gone through this? how did you cope?

lighthousekeeper - your pain comes through so clearly on your posts. What a gorgeous little boy Noah sounds. I am so very very sorry for your loss. God be with you and little NOah - you have my tears with yours tonight and sympathy

We were supposed to go to a family 50th birthday party yesterday but couldn't face it so we decided to take our daughter to London to the zoo instead. I found it so hard with so many happy families around. I just don't feel like we are a family anymore as Noah wasn't there with us. This probably sounds really silly but we saw some monkeys are one point and there was a female monkey nursing and cuddling her baby and it just really upset me as I haven't got a baby to hold now. I know I have my daughter who is wonderful but it's not the same.

you poor love, I do feel for you. It isn't silly at all, epecially because monkeys are so similar in their actions to humans.
Keep your mind on the fact that your Noah is still with you in your heart, and also in your family's hearts too - and so will always be a part of your family. He's just not with you in the physical sense.
((hugs)) to you

I am so sorry for your loss, you and your family will be in my thoughts.xx

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Lighthousekeeper, I am so very very sorry to hear that you lost your little boy.

It is so very hard to cope with, and is a really confusing, bewildering time.

I know others have mentioned, but consider coming to the Sunflower Thread. It is a wonderful place, bourne from sadness, grief and loss, but full of love and hope.

Even if you don't come over, keep posting here because I promise you there are some lovely ladies around who will keep coming back again and again to see how you are and to give you some love and support. xx

I am so sorry for your huge loss and your palpable pain.

How horribly cruel life can be. I am so sorry to read this. I hope you and your family can find comfort in each other. x

Lighthouse....how incredibly hard life must be for you, your DH and your lovely little girl. Sending you a huge hug....xxxxx

You have come to the right site - Mumsnet - there are some lovely caring people on here who will become true friends to you for many years to come. xxxx

I am so sorry x

I am so very very sorry.

cyber hugs to you and prayers. So sorry for your loss

So sorry, he was absolutely beautiful x

Lighthouse
So sorry about your little boy.
Thanks for telling us about him

so, so sorry for your loss.
noah was absolutely gorgeous.
your daughter is beautiful too - it must be so hard to explain to her why your boy died when you don't understand yourself
thinking of you

oh lighthouse keeper I am soo sorry you have lost your little boy

I know from experience that you have a long journey ahead of you

What you experienced at the zoo is perfectly normal and unfortunatly you will have a lot more days like this in the months to come

But as the months/years go on you will find the brighter days do get more frequent and you will find it easier to cope with the darker days as well

please continue to post how you are feeling on mn as there are a lot of bereaved mummies who will understand what you are feeling

sending you hugs

I am so sorry for you and your family. Noah sounds beautiful.

Lighthousekeeper - both of your children are really, REALLLY stunning!

I am so, so sorry for your unthinkable loss.

Wishing you strength to get through this

Lighthousekeeper, I am so so sorry, words just can't come close. With love, Dinnyx

I'm so very sorry for your terrible loss LighthouseKeeper. You must miss him so much. xx

I can't believe it will be 5 weeks tommorrow. It just hurts so much. I've contacted FSID and they have found me a befriender whom I have spoken to. Until this happened I had never come across these discussion boards or even heard of FSID, yet both have been a lifeline during these times.
Some of you have given me email addresses, I will be in touch if thats still okay. x

lighthouse....I wish I could help you, but there are loads of lovely Mummies on here who have been thru the exact same as you who are bound to be able to help you much more than I can.

That's what is so lovely about this site. There is always someone here, no matter the time of day. I came here when I lost my Dad suddenly. That was almost 3yrs ago. I have made some lovely friends on here. You will do too. Like I've said before you've picked the right site to get some help and support.

xxxxxx

So sorry for your tragic loss Lighthousekeeper. Wishing you much strength to get through this terrible time.

There is an organisation penhaligon's friends that is for bereaved children - you may find useful information there to help your DD come to terms with your family's sad loss

x

How truly terrible for you.
Deepest sympathy.

I am so sorry for you and just had to express to you my deepest sympathy I have two children and cannot imagine life without either of them.