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My beautiful, brave Harry bear

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dizzy34 · 04/05/2008 17:30

I have posted alot in the special needs section over the years. I am heart broken. My beautiful, brave Harry passed away peacefully on tuesday in mine and his daddys arms. I am lost, heartbroken. I want him back so much. I want to kiss him and cuddle him. I want him. He was only five and had been very ill and disabled since birth (www.harrysjourney.co.uk). He took us all by suprise though. we knew we wouldnt have him long, but i didnt think he would go this soon. He had been ill at christmas and was only given hours to live, but he fought it. It left him exhaused and he slept most days, all day. He couldnt fight anymore.

I love him so much. He is in the butterfly suite at claire house at the moment and we are spending time with him till his funeral on friday. I miss him so much it hurts physically. I know he is better where he is and that his body works now, but i want him with me. Please tell me it gets easier.

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BellaBear · 04/05/2008 17:31

Oh, you poor poor thing

Thinking of you

TheFallenMadonna · 04/05/2008 17:32

So, so sorry dizzy. Thinking of you and your DH.

chibi · 04/05/2008 17:32

am thinking of you too

yurt1 · 04/05/2008 17:32

I'm so sorry dizzy So sorry.

Rest in peace little Harry.

Threadwworm · 04/05/2008 17:33

My deepest sympathies. I can't begin to imagine how hard a time this is for you. I'm thinking of your lovely Harry.

soapbox · 04/05/2008 17:34

Oh Dizzy - many, many sympathies to you and your family

BreeVanderCampLGJ · 04/05/2008 17:36

Oh you poor poor darling.

It will get harder before it gets easier, and the first of everything will hurt like hell. First Christmas, first Easter.

But, and I know you will not believe me at the moment, time will heal you.

I have never lost a child but I experienced a unnatural amount of grief for a young child in a three year period.

Sending you love and prayers.

LGJ

XXX

JodieG1 · 04/05/2008 17:37

So, so sorry for you and dh. Thinking of you.

Saggarmakersbottomknocker · 04/05/2008 17:37

So sorry dizzy

There is a thread in bereavement at the moment; Eris's, where other mums who've lost children are comforting each other. Maybe, when you feel able to visit it, you'll find support there. Take care. x

Yorkiegirl · 04/05/2008 17:37

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Lulumama · 04/05/2008 17:38

i don;t know yours and Harry's story, but i would like to offer you my most sincere condolences

my grandmother died a few days ago, and someone likened death to a new beginning, one where the person who has gone is actually being reborn.. like a butterfly coming out of their cocoon... soaring and flying, free of illness and pain, with no barriers to hold them back.

thinking of you and your DH at this sad, sad time. there will come a time, where your happy memories of your darling boy will be at the forefront.

sillytilly · 04/05/2008 17:38

oh, so so sorry, Dizzy, all love to you and your family. what a brave little boys he sounds.xx

JeremyVile · 04/05/2008 17:39

I'm so sorry, how utterly heartbreaking.
Thinking of you, your family and your beautiful, special boy xx

NotABanana · 04/05/2008 17:39

So sorry darling.

collision · 04/05/2008 17:41

I feel devastated for you. Our boys share a birthday and I cannot imagine how you are feeling.

Much love to you both. xx

mud · 04/05/2008 17:41

oh I am so very sorry

lillypie · 04/05/2008 17:42

I am so sorry,my thoughts are with you and your family

Anna8888 · 04/05/2008 17:43

So sorry to read this. Thinking of you and your family.

VanillaPumpkin · 04/05/2008 17:46

I am so sorry for your loss .

SmugColditz · 04/05/2008 17:47

Oh Dizzy34 I am so so sorry

Dottydot · 04/05/2008 17:48

Thinking of you xxx

billybass · 04/05/2008 17:50

I am thinking of you too

princessmel · 04/05/2008 17:51

Thinking of you and your dh and Harry xxxx

WhatDidIComeUpHereFor · 04/05/2008 17:51

Our thoughts are with you all. xx

cocolepew · 04/05/2008 17:53

deepest sympathy to you and your family.

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