Is anyone up yet ... am having a 'mare ...

[Ghosty]

Hi

Some of you may know that I am expecting again ... see 'anyone due mid 2003' thread ... but now I am having a shocker and don't want to post on that thread ...

I am 12 weeks today but yesterday I started bleeding ... just brown to start with then it got worst and went red and then went back to brown today and nearly stopped but about 5 minutes ago I had some cramps and went to the loo and and it is red and bitty ... am I having a miscarriage?

I am due for my scan on Tuesday but my doctor has said that I can go in on Monday if I want to to make sure but I thought that I would ask my mumsnet friends for advice on what to do (if anything) and what are the really alarming signs ...

Feeling very lost and frightened ... don't want this to happen to me ... DH being as supportive as poss but is annoying me as he keeps trying to gee me up and stuff but I just feel rotten ...

[robinw]

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[Ghosty]

Thanks Robinw ... DH has said that he will take the day off tomorrow and look after DS so that I can go for the scan and then rest ...
I'm just so scared ... I didn't have anything like this when I was pg with DS and so when it started I just lost the plot and have spent all day crying ...
I know that if it happens there is nothing I can do but I just need the scan to know either way ...
Thanks again Robin ...

[Enid]

Lots of love ghosty, hope everything is ok at the scan tomorrow but I think it would be best to prepare yourself for the worst. Thinking of you x E

[WideWebWitch]

I'm up Ghosty, but no advice I'm afraid. Sorry to hear this, thinking of you too. Hope someone else can help.

[karenanne]

hi ghosty ,i can say i hope things go ok.i had this in my first pregnancy.it started off with a ache in my lower back and then the spotting started.mine started on a friday evening and i laid with my legs higher than the rest of me all weekend until my scan on the monday morning.mine didnt get any worse and as my mum had had 'periods' all through her pregnancy with my brother we thought i could follow in her footsteps!sadly i didnt and i was diagnosed with blighted ovum .
i can only say try to rest,relax as much as you possibly can and im thinking of you.
i hope everythings ok

[JayTree]

Ghosty - no wonder you are worried. You poor thing. Sounds like you have a very supportive DH so that should help you. Together I hope you can make it through the next couple of days whatever happens. Thinking of you. LOL

[Lambchops]

I can only send my very best wishes, Ghosty. Thinking of you.

[tigermoth]

ghosty, sorry you are having all this worry. Have you thought of phoning your doctor's surgery and getting the number of the emergency doctor service? Even if you don't think the doctor should visit, you could still talk to them on the phone.

Take care of yourself and I'll keep my fingers crossed for you tomorrow.

[ScummyMummy]

Oh Ghosty, I'm so sorry you're going through this horrible and scary time. I never know what to say to friends in this position, because on the one hand I really do know quite a few people who have bled in pregnancy- both small bleeds and really heavy bleeds- and have gone on to have healthy babies at term with no problems. So there is a bit of hope. But as you know, it IS also quite likely to be a symptom of miscarriage and, as Enid says, it may be best to prepare yourself for that. Lots and lots of love to you.

[monkey]

wishing you all the best too ghosty.

Just to give you hope - I had similar-ish sounding bleeding. It turns out I was expecting twins, and did lose one, but kept the other. Sad, but confusingly joyous at the same time.

I guess you should just rest as much as possible, & definitely go in at the 1st opportunity for the scan so you know what's going on. Hope you get through today - I'll be thinking of you.

[honeybunny]

Ghosty- sending LOLove and hope the scan shows good news for you tmr. A friend of a friend had a bad pv bleed at 12weeks for several days(haemorrhage proportions) and was told in a+e that she'd miscarriaged only to be told on scanning that the baby was ok. She's due any day now having made it to term. Hope this is true for you too. Keeping fingers and toes crossed.

[Zoe]

Lots of love to you Ghosty - does your local Maternity Unit have a "gynae urgency room"?? We do here and it's like a gynae/maternity casualty where women can go with all sorts of problems 24 hours a day - I definitely know of women who've been there with a "PV bleed" as you're having, in pregnancy, and certainly of lots who have not been miscarrying - it might be worth ringing the unit and finding out

[grommit]

Ghosty - I bled a bit on and off at about 6 weeks (mostly brown)- it was errosion of the cervix. The rest of my pregnancy was fine.
I really feel for you - this is the most stressful thing that can happen - just try to lie down and do not do anything too physical. Hopefully this will be nothing - I am keeping everything crossed for you. xx

[jessi]

Ghosty, just wanted to tell you that I'm thinking of you and praying that everything is OK. Best Wishes, Jessi.x

[roxie]

Ghosty

Thinking of you - keep positive...

[bayleaf]

There have been many many women on Mumsnet who have had bleeding and it been fine - and you might well be too.
That said I have to say that Enid's advice is good - I went for a scan when I was worried ( but not bleeding) but all the way there told myself it would be OK - and it wasn't. Hearing that the baby really has died and not being prepared for it is just the pits - I'm sure it's not much better if you're 'expecting' it - but maybe just marginally...
REALLY REALLY hope you and the baby are OK.
let us know tomorrow if you can
Bayleaf
x

[SoupDragon]

@ve nothing to add either except more hugs and best wishes.

[Marina]

Can only add my best wishes too, and sincerest hopes that this is just a false alarm for you, Ghosty.

[ames]

Hope all goes well for you. I have had a missed m/c that found when I went for my 1st scan, had dd with no problems and with this pg had bleeding which turned out to be a flase alarm (although I was convinced it was all over) A scan is the only way to be sure but try not to worry too much. Let us now and thinking of you

[percy]

Ghosty
No practical advice - but just wanted to say that I hope all is OK. Thinking of you.

[jasper]

Ghosty what a worry.
My dh does that infuriating jollying me along when I am really concerned about something...grrr.. Poor thing, it's probably his (annoying) way of dealing with it.
My sister had a period like bleed at 6 and then 12 weeks but everything was fine and I hope it's the same for you .
Best of luck for tomorrow and all your mumsnet pals will be thinking of you (and more than a few will be saying a prayer for you too)

[triplets]

Dear Ghosty,
Yes of course you are frightened and upset, and are probably thinking the worst, but dont give up until you have been told for sure. I bled for five weeks with my first pregnancy, but went on to have a beautiful little boy, who as most of you know by now died suddenly eight years ago aged fourteen. Now I have my three miracles, after three IVF attempts I got pregnant and then had a massive bleed in the fifth week, I didnt stop bleeding until week 17 then went on to have them at 32 weeks. Be positive and strong. Lots and lots of love xxxxxx

[threeangels]

Hello,

Ghostly. I am very sorry for what you having to deal with at this time. I have never had a miscarriage nor any bleeding in my pregnancies. I know some bleeding can be normal. The only thing I have heard is that it could be a problem if there is any kind of tissue mixed with the blood. I will pray that everything works out for you. Take care.