Is anyone up yet ... am having a 'mare ...

[Ghosty]

Hi

Some of you may know that I am expecting again ... see 'anyone due mid 2003' thread ... but now I am having a shocker and don't want to post on that thread ...

I am 12 weeks today but yesterday I started bleeding ... just brown to start with then it got worst and went red and then went back to brown today and nearly stopped but about 5 minutes ago I had some cramps and went to the loo and and it is red and bitty ... am I having a miscarriage?

I am due for my scan on Tuesday but my doctor has said that I can go in on Monday if I want to to make sure but I thought that I would ask my mumsnet friends for advice on what to do (if anything) and what are the really alarming signs ...

Feeling very lost and frightened ... don't want this to happen to me ... DH being as supportive as poss but is annoying me as he keeps trying to gee me up and stuff but I just feel rotten ...

Ghosty - so sorry to hear your news. Hope you continue to get sympathetic treatment from your doctors & friends & family. Lots of love, Rx

Oh heavens - When I said 'prepare yourself for the worst' I really, really hoped it was stupid and unnecessary advice. As everyone has said do let yourself grieve and if you have friends who have been in a similar situation then search them out. You will no doubt have many many kind friends who will do whatever ( little) they can to help - but inevitably some of them will just not understand quite how devastating it is - or that we all react in a very individual way to grief and yours may not be theirs.
I know for me that knowing I had carried my baby around already dead for 2 weeks was one of the hardest things to come to terms with so I understand exactly how you feel.
Big hugs and hopes that you get thru the next week or so in one piece.
Bayleaf
x

So sorry to read that Ghosty!

Dear Ghosty, I am so sad to read your news today. Wishing you all the best and hope your getting lots of tlc. Take care, Jessi x

Dear Ghosty, I am so sorry to read of your news. I've been there too and I was so amazed by everyone's messages of support here. Take care of yourself, sending an enourmous HUG. xxx

More love from here, too. Take care.

Im so sorry Ghosty, will be thinking of you x.

So sorry to hear your news Ghosty, thinking of you and your family.

Ghosty I feel so sorry for you - don't know what else to say.

Thinking of you, and all others who are/have been in the same boat. Hope you feel ok soon.

Oh Ghosty, I'm so terribly sorry and sad for you and your dh and family. I can't say anything else but take care and we're all thinking of you

Sorry to hear this - lots of sympathy and a big cyber-hug. Hope it is all over soon.

...thinking of u ghosty...
hugs roxiexxx

Hi Ghosty
I'm so sorry and sad for both you and Katherine - especially after all our banter together on the 'anyone due mid 2003' thread. I'm not sure what to say - but I just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you both and wishing you wellness and happiness soon.

Ghosty, my heart goes out to you. I hope things have sorted themselves naturally. Much love.

thinking of you Ghosty

Dear Everybody ... thank you so much for all your kind words of love and support. I am just overwhelmed by the feelings coming through cyber space to this side of the world ...
'It' happened yesterday (Tuesday) evening ... I won't go into gory details ... just too awful for words ... suffice it to say that I now feel like I have been through a few rounds with Mike Tyson and am feeling really low. I am relieved that it is nearly over ... will need a scan early next week to make sure everything has gone and then I can try to get back to normal life.
My DH has been an angel from heaven and I take back every moan about him on every 'moan about DH' thread ... have promised myself to try never to moan about him again ... he is hurting too but has taken time off work to take DS off my hands ... he has done all the housework this week , all the washing etc ... AND has given me just loads of cuddles ... can't ask for more ...
DS is doing OK ... knows that mummy is a bit poorly and everytime he sees me cry he tells me that 'It will be awright Mummy!' which makes me cry even more ... but I am trying not to cry too much in front of him ...
We know we will try again for a baby but will probably wait until the new year before discussing it ... we intend to enjoy xmas in the UK with family and at least I can now get a bit merry!
Anyway ... will keep my head low for a bit ... but keep the funny threads going they cheer me up no end!
Thank you again everyone ... and to all those who I was chatting with on the 'due mid 2003' thread ... I wish you all well in the coming months and look forward to reading about your progress ... and hearing about the little ones when they arrive!
PS ... Katherine ... will ask tech for your e-mail ... if you don't mind ...

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So sad to hear your news. Best wishes, thinking of you.

Oh Ghosty - it so rotten isn't it. And so unfair. I'm more than happy for mumsnet to give you my emial. All my love.

ghosty - so glad you're getting lots of tlc, you deserve it. and you too, Katherine, you're right it's so unfair, one minute we're all chatting about our pregnancies and then this happens to both of you. sending you both much love, bundle x

Only read your thread this morning. I am so very sorry. Lots of love to both of you. Thinking of you and take care xx