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Is anyone up yet ... am having a 'mare ...

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Ghosty · 10/11/2002 05:47

Hi

Some of you may know that I am expecting again ... see 'anyone due mid 2003' thread ... but now I am having a shocker and don't want to post on that thread ...

I am 12 weeks today but yesterday I started bleeding ... just brown to start with then it got worst and went red and then went back to brown today and nearly stopped but about 5 minutes ago I had some cramps and went to the loo and and it is red and bitty ... am I having a miscarriage?

I am due for my scan on Tuesday but my doctor has said that I can go in on Monday if I want to to make sure but I thought that I would ask my mumsnet friends for advice on what to do (if anything) and what are the really alarming signs ...

Feeling very lost and frightened ... don't want this to happen to me ... DH being as supportive as poss but is annoying me as he keeps trying to gee me up and stuff but I just feel rotten ...

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Clarinet60 · 21/11/2002 23:30

Hilary, just to say that I bled from 8 to 20 weeks, as I had lost one of twins. I held on to the remaining one and he is fine, 6 months now. It was a double edged sword, but bleeding doesn't always mean the end.

Hilary · 22/11/2002 11:45

Just to say that, for now at least, the bleeding has stopped.

I have been trying to ring the hospital to ask about my blood test results but they have been engaged all morning.

So I do feel more positive today and am pottering about a bit more than I have been which is nice.

Janus · 22/11/2002 16:22

Firstly Ghostly, a very belated, heart-felt, sorry for your loss, I hope things are getting a little easier for you if they can at this early and tender stage.
Hilary, I too have fibroids and bled twice in this pregnancy. The first was the time around when my period should have been, and was enough bleeding for me to think it was just my period, so I thought nothing of it. The second time I did worry (as had realised I was pregnant) and had an early scan and everything was fine, baby was around 8 or 9 weeks. They didn't really know what caused it but I think it was the fibroids as I had irregular bleeding before falling pregnant. I am now nearly 21 weeks and just had my 20 week scan and everything is as it should be, thank god. So, I hope it does prove to be the fibroids, fingers crossed. PS My SIL had an eptopic pregnancy and has only one fallopian tube as a result, I would push to get this checked into asap to avoid anything like that. Good luck.

Hilary · 22/11/2002 23:07

I phoned the hospital in the end to find out more and they said I had almost certainly had an early miscarriage as my hormone levels were so low to begin with and had dropped further over the two days SO I go in on Monday anyway for a scan and another blood test to make sure but it looks like its all over.

Have shed a few tears today but it is a scenario I had been trying to get my head around all week so it's not like it is a complete shock.

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Ghosty · 23/11/2002 00:07

Oh Hillary,

I am so sorry ... it is so unfair isn't it? I am thinking of you ...

Love Ghosty

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SoupDragon · 23/11/2002 08:31

Thinking of you...

jessi · 23/11/2002 08:49

So sorry Hilary, hope you are being looked after. Take care of yourself.

Marina · 23/11/2002 19:39

Sorry to hear your news Hilary, thinking of you.

Batters · 24/11/2002 22:13

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Katherine · 25/11/2002 09:45

Oh Hilary, I'm so sorry. I hope you get the support you need. Be kind to yourself. Cyberhugs.

Hilary · 25/11/2002 11:09

Well it went ok. No scan as my blood tests showed there was no point. Just more blood taken to confirm levels of hormones are still droppong and then sent home. Feel relieved at not having to have anything more invasive done but also sad now I'm home as it is very final, walking out of the hospital with no reason to return.

Thanks for all your support, it has been invaluable.

SoupDragon · 25/11/2002 12:12

Hugs,

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bundle · 25/11/2002 12:40

lots of love, Hilary x

Melly · 25/11/2002 13:24

I'm so sorry Hilary, take care of yourself.

Melly
xx

Ghosty, have just re-read this thread right from the beginning and realise I haven't said how sorry I am that you lost your baby. Hope you are beginning to feel a bit stronger now. Take care
Melly xx

Janus · 25/11/2002 14:03

Oh Hilary, I am so sorry it didn't end up as we'd all hoped. Do take care.

bells2 · 25/11/2002 16:45

Sad news Hilary.

Zoe · 25/11/2002 19:30

So sorry Hilary - hugs

WideWebWitch · 25/11/2002 22:50

really sorry to hear this hilary.

Demented · 25/11/2002 23:38

Sorry to hear your sad news Hilary.

robinw · 26/11/2002 07:31

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Ghosty · 26/11/2002 09:27

Hi everyone ...
Thought I would give you a little update ... I had a scan a week after the mc and that showed that it was not all gone so they gave me another week. Had a further scan yesterday which showed there were still 'products' which did not surprise me as I stopped bleeding well over a week ago so... I have to go in for a D&C after all ... tomorrow afternoon.
I am in one way relieved as I know that this will put a line under it so to speak but on the other hand I am scared and dreading it ... I hate anaesthetics ... hate the 'not being in control' bit of it and also the last one I had (for my wisdom teeth) made me sick for a month!
I had hoped to be able to go through this 'naturally' but as some of you have said in your posts at least I know it will all be over and I can get on with stuff ... DS is going to be 3 on Saturday and I am really looking forward to it and just don't want this to cloud the day ...

I can't say enough how fantastic your support has been ...

PS ... Hillary ... still thinking of you ... you will be ok ... keep talking

Love G

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bundle · 26/11/2002 09:30

Ghosty, my thoughts are with you - I had wisdom teeth out and felt rotten after the anaesthetic. How long ago was yours? They're much better at avoiding that sort of stuff now, so do tell them about your worries. Like you say, this will give you some sort of closure, but it's really horrid all the same. lots of love, Bundle xxx

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Ghosty · 26/11/2002 09:39

Hi bundle ... I hope you are right about the anaesthetic. I had all wisdom teeth out 7 and a half years ago ... it was hell and wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy ... so maybe things have improved since then ...
Thanks for the message!

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bundle · 26/11/2002 09:52

that's ok..I go & see lots of operations (for work!) and the anaesthetists take a real pride in giving just the right type/dose of drugs to knock you out but leave you feeling vaguely human and painfree. x