Is anyone up yet ... am having a 'mare ...

[Ghosty]

Hi

Some of you may know that I am expecting again ... see 'anyone due mid 2003' thread ... but now I am having a shocker and don't want to post on that thread ...

I am 12 weeks today but yesterday I started bleeding ... just brown to start with then it got worst and went red and then went back to brown today and nearly stopped but about 5 minutes ago I had some cramps and went to the loo and and it is red and bitty ... am I having a miscarriage?

I am due for my scan on Tuesday but my doctor has said that I can go in on Monday if I want to to make sure but I thought that I would ask my mumsnet friends for advice on what to do (if anything) and what are the really alarming signs ...

Feeling very lost and frightened ... don't want this to happen to me ... DH being as supportive as poss but is annoying me as he keeps trying to gee me up and stuff but I just feel rotten ...

Oh Ghosty, good luck tomorrow. I react badly to anaesthetics too and can really sympathise with your concerns. Take care of yourself.

All the best for tomorrow Ghosty, will be thinking of you. I also had to have a D&C back in May after my miscarriage and know what you mean about not being in control. However, I did feel that it was probably the best way forward and two months later I fell pregnant again.
Hope you have a wonderful day with your ds on Saturday for his birthday.
Take care
Melly xxx

Oh Ghosty, I really feel for you. We are having a similar time of things at the moment, our ds's share a birthday and we both miscarry a much wanted baby just a week or two before. I am thinking of you a lot.

Much love to you and I really hope things go well with the d and c.

Ghosty, I'm so sorry. It must feel like its just going on and on. You are quite right that at least this will marl an end and you can then move on but that doesn't make it any less unpleasant or horrible. When I was in hospital it was my first time away from DS and DD and it made it even harder - it must be awful for you especially when trying to plan a birthday. All my love.

Oh Ghosty, Katherine and Hilary, sorry, I have been away from my pc and not seen your news. I am so sorry for you all, esp after all the positive messages i had on my "three babies, not mad really" thread. I feel for you all, have never had this horrid experience myself but hope you are getting all the support and care you need and remember we are thinking of you all.

Thanks Clary. Doing OK now. Managed to pick up the pieces, just waiting to try again now - after christmas. Can't cope with the stress of being pg with everything else going on. So hard to take precautions when I'm desperate to get going again though. Any one else in this boat I started a thread under conception "Anyone else trying to "wait" to get pg".

Thanks everyone for your support - I'd be much less together now if I hadn't been able to share and I hope those of you going through the same horrible expereinces now can find strength from the support too.

Ghosty - so sorry... and good luck for tomorrow. One tip to help recovery is to not opt for a pre-med - you know the injection they give you before they take you down to surgery, the one that makes you go all woozy. This can make people feel much worse afterwards (although personally I'm all for feeling woozy in these situations). Anyway, hope it goes ok.

Well ... I made it and it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be.
It was very quick ... and was home after 3 hours ... am feeling a bit 'feak and weeble' now though.
The doctor, anaeshetist and nurses were just lovely ... very sympathetic and kind ... am very lucky I think.
Anyway, I hope to put it all behind me now and can look forward to DS' birthday on Saturday and then our trip home to the UK for Christmas ... Will be very keen to have a couple of periods now as I know I will be wanting to get pg again soon.
Thanks for all the kind words ...

Glad it went well Ghosty and hope it "draw a line under it" like you wanted.

Hugs,

Glad you're back home safe and sound Ghosty. I found Floradix (liquid iron tonic, hopefully available in NZ) a real boost earlier this year. I also started straightaway on pre-conception vits - it made me feel like there was something I could be doing while waiting to start TTC.
Take care.

Thinking of you Ghosty and I second Marinas advice x E

Ghosty, I'm glad it wasn't too much of an ordeal for you. look after yourself, x

Thanks Marina and Enid ... was just saying to DH that I should do that!

Ghosty - glad to hear you are doing OK. Just be kind to yourself and take things at a pace you feel comfortable with. Hugs.

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