Just over 18 years ago, when I was in early labour with my wonderful DS I posted on Mumsnet until I went to the hospital (have name changed since then but was a regular poster). I had lots of encouraging posts from lovely mumsnetters and it was so helpful.
Now my DS is in ICU in a critical condition. I have been up nearly all night. My heart is breaking and I have never known grief like this. DS has been suffering from anxiety and depression and has been on meds over the last 7 weeks and having therapy and visits from the Adult Mental Health service but yesterday evening he decided he couldn't face it anymore.
He is such a sweet boy who always thinks of others. We have a great family and he has been talking to his older and younger sister. He has been talking to both me and DH and we have done everything we can to help him and keep him safe. But it hasn't worked.
I want to understand why this has happened and answers and reassurance that he is going to pull through but it is not looking that good. I can't cope. I feel like a shell and have never cried so much or been sick and to the toilet so much. I can't sleep.
Please be kind. I am not feeling that strong at the moment.
Bereavement
Need A Hand Hold - DS18 in ICU **Trigger warning**
JungleZgok · 26/05/2022 05:44
daretodenim · 26/05/2022 07:07
I'm so sorry OP.
You sound like a warm and loving mother - a family. You did nothing at all wrong.
Something I heard that helped describe how it felt to me was this. All the love in the world can be around you, you can hear the words of love, but you can't feel the warmth from them. It's like facing the sun and feeling no warmth from it.
You are are his sun. His depression blocked the warmth.
Is there any chance of a piece of toast and cup of tea? You don't need to feel like eating but you need to keep your strength up, not least for DS. You don't want to be feeling faint later when talking to the dr.
Big hand hold JungleZgok.
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