DP has died. Don't know what to do.

[LlamaGiles]

My beloved DP died last night after routine surgery. A total shock. We have a 2 year old. We had plans for a second child, a bigger house and marriage and my future all evaporated in an instant. I don't know how to carry on alone. I'm in bits.

So sorry for your loss and what you are going through. I'm glad you have your dear sister with you. I hope you get as much support as possible.

I'm so so sorry 🎉

I am so very sorry for your loss Xxx

Sending you lots of love, please be kind to yourself - let yourself go through all the emotions that you feel you need to I’m so very sorry for your loss xx

I'm so sorry for your loss

How absolutely awful. Sending you much love and strength at this terrible time xx

Dear Llama, So sorry for what you are going through. Please let others do things for you, and take time on your own to grieve in your own way. Let yourself cry. Someone can take DD out for a bit so you don't have to worry about the effect on her of your tears. Love to you both

I am so sorry OP .

Would you like to talk about them LlamaGiles? We're here to listen

I've no other words except to say I'm so very sorry, this must be an awful shock

I'm so very sorry for your loss

Apiece of paper on the fridge with magnets is good too. Especially if no pocket for notebook so risk of it getting lost.

I have never forgotten a friend’s -she had to write down things like “buy milk” on it.

Shedding a tear for you op.

I’m so sorry

I’m so very sorry for your heartbreaking and tragic loss. We’re all here to listen OP, so talk as much as you need to

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry... Try to take take the emotions as they come and just accept how you feel at any given moment without questioning it. As others have said, just do the basics initially, try not to put pressure on yourself to be a certain way or do anything other than the essentials.
And that is a good suggestion from PP to ask a friend to make the calls and let people know. I did this for my Grandma when my Grandad passed away and it was no trouble to me but made life much easier for her.

So sorry for your loss. How terrible for you. See your GP for help if you need to.

There's an organisation called WAY (Widowed and Young) you might want to check out when you're ready. They really helped a friend of mine when they lost their partner.

I'm so sorry for your loss Llama

I am beyond sorry. That is one of the worst things a person could go through. You poor, poor darling. I'm sending you so much love.

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry @LlamaGiles. That is so awful and you must just be in shock right now. Remember there is someone on here any time of day or night to give you support.

You are entitled to claim this if you were married, it isn't means tested, you will get a lump sum.of £3,500, and a monthly payment for 18 months. www.gov.uk/bereavement-support-payment

@peachgreen. How kind of you to post. I can't believe it has been nearly a year for you .

@LlamaGiles I am so sorry for you, your daughter, the loss of all your plans with your DP. I just wish there was something we could say to take away the pain for even a moment .

I am so sorry for your loss. Thoughts are with you.

Thanks everyone. I felt a bit better for a couple of hours and made some phone calls but I've just put dd down for her nap and now back in a dark place again at the prospect of doing this on my own from now on. He loved being a dad and she adored him.

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's just awful- I lost my lovely wife just over a year ago, never known pain like it. One hour at a time and let the tears flow. Perhaps let someone you trust take your little one for a day or so to enable you to let the tears flow.

Llama, so so sorry to hear this sad news. You must be so shocked. I wish you many happy memories of your DP.
Peachgreen that was a lovely post, I am so sorry it's because you were speaking from experience. Sending hugs to you both.