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My mum has died suddenly

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kittlesticks · 15/06/2021 14:58

My wonderful mum has died suddenly - I'm not sure of the exact details yet - she was 68, a wonderful mum, wife and grandma to three grandchildren aged 1 to 6.
I will miss her until the end of time. I loved her immeasurably.

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Cocolapew · 15/06/2021 14:58

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

piglet81 · 15/06/2021 14:59

I’m so sorry, what an awful shock it must be Flowers

Spied · 15/06/2021 15:00

Flowers look after yourself.
Such a shock for you all.

Lovelydovey · 15/06/2021 15:00

I’m so sorry, you sound completely in shock. Thinking of you and your family x

Lotsachocolateplease · 15/06/2021 15:00

Oh my goodness what a shock for you. Just take each day hour by hour and be kind to yourself.
So sorry for your loss Flowers

poppym12 · 15/06/2021 15:00

I'm so sorryFlowers

Librariesmakeshhhhappen · 15/06/2021 15:01

What a wonderful woman; and how lovely that you can remember her like that. That's all any of us can ask for once we've gone, and your mum would be so happy to hear you say such lovely things about her and for you to hold onto those now.

I'm so sorry for your loss, and for her grandchildren. It sounds like you'll all have lasting and beautiful memories of her, so hold onto that.

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kittlesticks · 15/06/2021 15:23

Thank you all. I think I just needed to shout it into the void. God I loved her. She was my heart. I have two young children so must keep going and must also look after my Dad.

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Nanniss · 15/06/2021 15:27

I'm so very sorry. My mum died unexpectedly too, nearly 4 years ago. Your world is changed forever but that doesn't mean you won't laugh again. Be kind to yourself and don't be afraid of your emotions.

Topseyt · 15/06/2021 15:32

I am so sorry. That must be extremely hard. Take things hour by hour, one day at a time.

Take your time with everything, and be kind to yourselves.

Rollercoasteride · 15/06/2021 15:36

Aww OP so sorry to hear this. I lost my mum unexpectedly 2 years ago at the age of 65.

I bet you are still in shock, it took me a while to get my head around it.

Take offers of help and support where you can. Keep talking x

PragmaticWench · 15/06/2021 15:41

So sorry Kittle, it's horribly shocking at first. I lost my mum suddenly almost a year ago so remember that initial fog of shock.

Gradually you'll realise just how lucky you have been to have been so close to one another, not everyone gets that so we are lucky to have known such a love. Makes it harder to accept though and to face the loss. I'm still not really dealing with it, the first few months I just got on with looking after the children as that's what you have to do.

Sending you a big hug.

mommybear1 · 15/06/2021 15:57

So sorry to hear this OP Thanks

SingingSands · 15/06/2021 16:03

I'm so sorry darling Thanks

Blossomtoes · 15/06/2021 16:06

So very sorry. Losing your mum is one of the toughest things life throws at you. 💐

motogogo · 15/06/2021 16:11

Hugs Thanks

Give your little ones extra hugs and remember is ok to be sad, bereavement is different for everyone, if you need virtual shoulders to cry on we are all here.

Due to my work I talk to people in your position a lot, do what feels right for you, tell us about her if it helps

wheresthehope · 15/06/2021 16:24

I am so sorry for your loss Flowers

Izzy24 · 15/06/2021 17:15

I’m so sorry Kittlesticks.

My mum died suddenly aged 65. We still miss her - she’s still so loved and always talked about many years on.

The shock was awful for us but over time I have come to feel that it was a gentle death for her if that makes sense?

Sending you many thoughts.

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 15/06/2021 17:21

This is my worst nightmare OP.

Your mam left you with a lovely legacy of love. It isn’t the same as her being here - of course it isn’t.

But you have happy memories and love around you in all that she was and all that she created.

And she left this world knowing she was loved which is the most precious gift we can let them carry as they go.

I’m so sorry for your loss and all those who have lost their mams Flowers

LittlePearl · 15/06/2021 17:24

I'm so sorry OP.

I lost my mother a few weeks ago, but it was expected and she was quite a bit older than yours so not so much of a shock.

I hope you have good support IRL, and kind people around you.

Littlefluffyclouds13 · 15/06/2021 17:32

So sorry op, what an awful shock.
I know you will feel you need to be strong for others but do lean on those around you Thanks

Unreasonabubble · 15/06/2021 17:36

So sorry xxxx Flowers

tigerbread20 · 15/06/2021 17:39

My mum died very suddenly at the end of February. The shock will carry you through the first few weeks, for me the grief came later.

I'm so sorry, its such an awfully sad process being robbed of the chance to say goodbye. Please tell us about her if you want to

Mumof3girlsandaboy · 15/06/2021 17:41

I’m so sorry OP xx

BillieSpain · 15/06/2021 17:41

Oh what a shock for you, how terrible. But she knew she was loved. You were a wonderful DD to her. Keep hold of that Flowers Look after yourself in the coming weeks x

I am very sorry.